I Can See Light At The End Of My Tunnel

I had reached the end of my rope with my 11 year old daughter's disrespect and defiance. After listening to No-Drama Discipline and using some of the technics taught in it I feel empowered! I actually understand my daughter's behavior much better and I now have the tools to direct and teacher her the proper way to handle herself when she doesn't want to do something. Instead of battling with her and handing out a punishment I'm able to step back and recognize which part of her brain she is using and help her move to the part of her brain that allows her to make better choices!! Thank you Drs Daniel and Tina!

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Unfocused presentation of great ideas.

While ostensibly written for parents, this book is wordy, repetitious and unintentionally condescending. The authors have enormously valuable information but fail to present it in a concise and direct format. There is so much repetition and careful couching of concepts that I found it difficult to stay focused on the book.

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It will change the way you parent!

If you could sum up No-Drama Discipline in three words, what would they be?

This book helped me with my daughter in so many ways. I have a new understanding of why certain things I did didn't work. This book is priceless for parents in my opinion.

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most helpful parenting book I've ever "read".

I will recommend this book to anyone that is struggling with their parenting or is having issues with their self confidence with their parenting.
Daniel and Tina comfort you while also providing insight into the mechanics of brain development and invite you to be more curious about why our children behave the way they do. they give you strategies paired with questions/comments to ask and make. I've used them in moments of upset with my 5 year old and have had beautiful moments of connection after she has settled her big feelings. There was one day, where she cried for 50 minutes. First it was because it was time to get on the bus (no Wi-Fi for the iPad) then it was that she wanted to go for dinner, and then she wanted a treat. It was loud and unrelenting. I struggled to get through it and my internal dialogue was less than positive at times (brat, ungrateful, spoiled) but it also included sympathy for her big feelings and an understanding that it was probably about something else. In the end, through her tears, she said, I just want a big big big big... hug. I held her and she said, I don't know why I'm crying. I don't know what's wrong with me. such simple words but they made me realise that there are moments we all have that we are confused and lost. me getting mad at her for that would have made me feel like a terrible mother. I'm still learning to stay calm and allow my kids to have those moments of loud and intense emotions so will definitely listen to this book when I am struggling.

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Read the whole brain child instead

Even though this is an excellent book, the whole brain child is better by far. I felt that some of the ideas where repetitive, and I didn’t find any new information compared to what I read in the Whole Brain Child. Having said that, this book was great too. I enjoyed it a lot and finished it fast.

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Terrific book, terrific narrators.

I have listened to both The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline and look forward to Brainstorm next. This book has helped me identify things I do correctly and not only things I can improve on but things I can repair. It has already impacted my relationship with both children (12 & 8), my wife, and business colleagues. I can't recommend these books enough. Thank you to all involved.

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not practical information

they speak alot about keeping and remaining patient and rational. which is a fantastic truth, but when referring to the title "no drama discipline" should really be called "no discipline. DRAMA!!" o.m.g where do I start, so many things wrong in here. they make the kid there 'equal' partner. and fill them up with nurture and coddling, because they don't want them to ever feel rejected when the kid does wrong. how does this prepare them for the real world? it's no wonder why teachers struggle with these kids in there classes today, because of this "new York bestseller" load of garbage. What's going to happen when they get a job and they talk back to there boss, (or as a student to their teacher) is the boss going to apologize and say "sorry if I lashed out at you, that was inappropriate, it's ok if u FEEL like not doing your job today, we'll get it better tomorrow." or another one; everything has to be "silly", junior doesn't want to sit in a car seat so instead of plopping the kid into the car seat and dealing with it, they said no that takes up too much negative energy so let's make it fun and laugh and smile and say let's sit on the invisible man while giggling. so there approach to every opposition the kid creates is to make it silly and fun. sorry that's no way preparing them for school, work, real life relationships. how bout just do what I say and deal with it. cry all u want, but it's life sometimes we have to do things we don't FEEL like doing period. this book is a joke and makes me sad that this has been taken so seriously to become n.y. best seller and even to the extent of it being adopted as doctrine for some institutions, when all its doing is grooming our kids for selfishness, neediness, and why me's, no lessons here. just pure coddling and parents apologizing

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I'd like my parents to discipline me like that when I was a kid!

I've read lots of parenting books and so far encountered only two (including this one) which technics not only work but help to bond with your child. This book focuses on not how to make your child to do what you want, but how to teach your child so they understand why they need to behave that way. And this is one of the biggest parenting goals to make our children independent adults, who knows how to make good choices whether they are with us or not.

Sometimes it's a bit repetitive but this makes you see author message from various sides and remember it.

The second best book about parenting is "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk" Adele Faber. Another book about respectful parenting. Strongly recommend both books!

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Thought provoking book. I have already implemented some of the techniques in the book. I'm trying not to be reactive but rather I'm trying to connect with my child.

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Awful

I really wanted to love this book. But there's so little practical advice, I was wondering if the authors are really parents. Save your money and time and read "How to talk so little kids will listen" instead. You will learn some practical tips you can use everyday as a parent from that book

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