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Stop Doing That Sh*t

End Self-Sabotage and Demand Your Life Back
Written by: Gary John Bishop
Narrated by: Gary John Bishop
Length: 4 hrs and 41 mins
Categories: Self-Help, How-to
4.5 out of 5 stars (166 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Author of the New York Times and international best-seller Unfu*k Yourself Gary John Bishop presents a no-holds-barred guide to breaking through our cycles of self-sabotage to get what we want out of life.

In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop told us it was time to stop making excuses - to recognize and take responsibility for the negative self-talk holding us back. In Stop Doing That Sh*t, he builds on that message, teaching us how to stop self-sabotaging behavior. 

Bishop explains how our destructive cycles come down to the way we’re wired. He then identifies different types of people and the ways we f--k ourselves over: We can’t save money. We land in the same type of toxic relationship. We’re stuck in a rut at work. Analyzing why we act the way we do, including what our common grenades are that blow up our lives, Bishop then shows how we can interrupt the cycle and stop self-sabotaging our lives. 

Authored in the same in-your-face style as Unfu*k Yourself, Stop Doing That Sh*t will help us get in touch with our psychological machinery so we learn to interrupt negative thoughts and behavior before they start, allowing us to give our attention to something else, and start to find success in the areas we thought we never could. 

We can take back our lives. We may have f--ked up in the past, but Stop Doing That Sh*t will show us how to break the patterns in order to live the lives we yearn to have.

©2019 Gary John Bishop (P)2019 HarperCollins Publishers

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Gary does it again

Cuts through the bullshit and gets straight to the problems and solutions. the untold truth of why you are the way you are and how to make a better life. it's a harsh reality that you need to deal with and Gary does not sugar coat it at all.

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Love Gary's Work

Absolutely, 100% recommend this book to anyone. Listen to his first book, Un fuck yourself, then listen to this one. His works are direct, clear, and will cut you to the core. But they are refreshing, true and spoken with love. I am a huge fan of his work and anxiously await another book from him! I can't get enough! To say his books are life changing is an understatement, read this take in what he is saying. Evaluate your life and make it the best one possible!

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No words! I’m speechless

Woa!!!! Well.... if you want authentic change in your life, I mean REALLY want that then this is your book!

If you want to be challenged and called out on your shite, this Is YOUR BOOK!

If you truly want a different life, and if you want to stop your cycles and endless patterns of sabotage READ THIS BOOK!

I just finished reading this book and I’m just sitting here with my mouth open.

Honestly Wrecked, and sooooo excited!

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loved it.

loved the truth that the things we say and do are our fault. own it. accept it and improve and fix it.

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I wish this book was out 20 years ago!!

Captivating, profound, interesting and appropriately militant. Yes, this book has profanities but well positioned. Finally a book that tells you the way it is and how it works without looking through rose coloured glasses. I discovered parts of me I never knew I had and now I can deal with them.

Completely recommended.

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A book of tough love

This book is mostly the author yelling at the listener. He does warn that he will do it, however. He points out a lot of things that are wrong with our lives but does not really offer much on the way of fixing them. Perhaps the book would be better if read traditionally rather than listened to.

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good perspective

This was a good read, I think it was a bit drawn out. I liked the part about conclusions, wish I had read it 15 years ago...

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I F*cking Loved this Book - Real Talk!

I enjoy someone telling me to pull my own self together and stop blaming others...the foul-mouthed aspect as well, made it both humerous and light-hearted at times while being blatant and harsh at others. No nonsense here!

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Very enjoyable

Love the accent but love the message even more. Straight to the point and in your face.

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Wake up the futur is now

I have read a lot of books this is the Real honest wake up call about self sabotage. I finally got it. No joke it’s the reel deal.

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  • Jennifer
  • 2019-05-13

One of best self help books!

I just finished listening to this book (actually listening to the last 2 chapters 10 time or so) and can't recommend it enough. I read A LOT of self help, I mean self development books. I read them, get some glimpses of their explanations for why I am so anxious and some nuggets of wisdom or strategies for what I can do about it, but they never really stick. This book was clear and to the point. It captures what we face as humans in a very clear and no BS way. It is also efficient and to the point at only 4 hours and 41 minutes. It drives me crazy when I am listening to a book and the author goes on and on and on about something that could be communicated in a quarter or less of the time/text. This book lays it out there with a bit of tough love - you have fears, that is part of being a human. You have fears that are specific to you based on what you heard, saw and experienced during your early years. These fears are like a leash on your life, subtly and unconsciously keeping you from changing because change the change you seek is not a sure thing, which means there is a threat of it not working and our reptilian brains HATE this. Thus, we get an uneasy sensation in our body, we think one of our well-worn thoughts "It is too much." "I am not good at that sort of stuff" etc. etc. etc. and then we do what we have always done, procrastinate, do the easier task, ruminate, eat, drink or smoke away that uneasy feeling etc. etc. etc. Somehow this book made all of this clear to me in an instant. I have realized many of the pieces over and over through my reading and through talk therapy, but this book helped me see it in a clear, no nonsense way. I now know what I need to do. I need to choose differently. I need to pursue what I WANT not what I have always done to avoid risk. I need to accept that my past was the way it was. It helped me develop good qualities in some ways and messed me up in other ways, mainly by creating a lot of fear and anxiety I seek to avoid everyday. I can't change what happened, the hardwiring in my brain that resulted from it or all the ways I have let it rule the 42 years I have already lived. What I can do now is choose differently. I can BE that person I want to be in the future. I can feel the fear and uneasiness and be strong enough to resist the urge to go back to the safe patterns of thought and action that result in me being stagnant. I can hear by brain replay all those thoughts that limited me and NOT BELIEVE them. I can take whatever step big or small that leads me in the direction of the future self I want to be. Clearly, writing this review was as much for me as for you, but this is the wisdom I gained from this book. I also laughed out loud many times, which is fun! He is a hoot! Get the book. I know you will not regret it!

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  • Lance N Fogel
  • 2019-05-08

A needed kick in the ass

Gary delivers a much needed message for those of us that have been frustrated by where our life is at and where it might be headed. I highly recommend this book if you are looking to break that self sabotage cycle so you can begin to look forward and build that life you want. It wont be easy ----Plan to ask yourself some probing questions----But, if you take the message to heart the days of self sabotage will be behind you and life will be what you want it to be. Time for me to get to work. :)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-05-07

Gary keeps it real!

It's alot of information to take in, but gary keeps it real and funny. I just finish the audiobook and have also ordered the book. This is something you need to listen to several times. I recommend this audiobook!

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  • garrel
  • 2019-06-19

Brutally Eye Opening

Wow! Priceless. More insightful then the last 8 years of therapy. Incredibly on point. I can't recommend this book enough to any one who has struggled with depression, not understanding why you can't put your finger on your thoughts. I want to send this book to everyone I know. Great follow up to Unf*ck Yourself.
This book is everything my multiple therapists could not explain to me, or help me to understand why I think like I do. Thank You! Thank you! Oh, and brilliantly entertaining along the way.

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  • Bellarific
  • 2019-08-31

Incomplete on Ending Self Sabotage

In short, this book feels incomplete because it’s only in the last chapter that he truly begins to present a solution to self sabotage.

All of the previous chapters go into detail as to what the problem is and why the problem is bad. It basically asks you to dissect your patterns and self limitations.

First, you have to identify yourself limitations via 3 forms of self sabotage.

Second, you have to accept yourself limitations without blaming others or yourself.

He doesn’t recommend affirmations, gratitude, or meditation to overcome self limitations.

The grand solution to self sabotage is so anti-climactic by saying you’re an essence supposed to live with self limitations and use a compelling ideal future to motivate better choices every single day.

If visions of the future were sufficient, self sabotage wouldn’t be an issue! You were just intuitively press on, boldly, in the direction of realizing a dream.

While like his imagery, Scottish voice, and motivational push, this book doesn’t really communicate how you overcome self sabotage. The book title is in accurate. This concept is incomplete.

This does not truly provide a solution to self sabotage.

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  • Dubya.
  • 2019-07-16

I can see the benefit for the unenlightened

Loved the brogue so it gets a solid performance for me.
This book is a great kick in the butt for those starting from bottom of sorting themselves out. For those who have already done the work of acknowledging just how and where they are self sabotaging, it gets a tad bit draining.
I was left on more than one occasion asking, okay, we know this, now what?

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  • Elizabeth A. Rome
  • 2019-06-04

Whoa

All I can say is whoa. I listened for a long time, waiting for the author to get to the point. He did a really good job sucking me in and setting up the problem, so when he finally dropped the solution, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I loved this book and will likely listen again!

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  • BuyerUSA1
  • 2019-09-05

Good start , ok ending

Seems like he can really nail the subconscious pitfalls really in depth well. I like the suggested pivot method to overcome the self negative talk. But the end game is to be like a big corporate buisness have grand plans to be rich to fulfill your happiness sort of a crap ending.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-05-07

Read this now.

Literally put everything down and read this. It’s as if he has spoken directly to me. I am so very grateful for this book and author.

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  • Marc Lewis
  • 2019-05-27

Fantastic!!

Absolutely loved it!! Straight to the point, no BS, I got a ton out of it. One of the best books I've ever read. Thank you for writing this.

5 of 6 people found this review helpful