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If we all want love, why is there so much conflict in our most cherished relationships? To answer this question we must look into our evolutionary past, argues prominent psychologist David M. Buss. Based one of the largest studies of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than 10,000 people of all ages from 37 cultures worldwide, The Evolution of Desire is the first work to present a unified theory of human mating behavior.

Drawing on a wide range of examples of mating behavior - from lovebugs to elephant seals, from the Yanomamö tribe of Venezuela to online dating apps - Buss reveals what women want, what men want, and why their desires radically differ. Love has a central place in human sexual psychology, but conflict, competition, and manipulation also pervade human mating - something we must confront in order to control our own mating destiny.

Fully revised and updated to reflect the very latest scientific research on human mating, this classic work of evolutionary psychology explains the powerful forces that shape our most intimate desires.

©2018 David M. Buss (P)2018 Hachette Audio

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Redpill awareness I suppose

Got recommended this by entrepreneurs in cars I guess it was pretty good. Decent book

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  • JR
  • 2019-07-24

Excellent book

Buss is a great writer and thinker. A lucid explanation of the evolutionary baggage men n women carry. It’s great society gets on men to reign in their biological drive for variety in sex partners. Economist.com had a story on how most polygamous societies also most violent and least development ...but, besides society harping on the Weinstein’s, this book highlights the baggage women have that contributes to societies ills...that seems most media keeps mum on. The best antidote is awareness, so we can work to reign these in. Highly recommend this as well as The Red Queen by Matt Ridley.

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  • Isobel Topham
  • 2020-01-20

Interesting but not well written

Some interesting and novel concepts, but very clumsy and repetitive writing, and not scientifically rigorous. An okay read.

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  • Doc Anreb
  • 2019-08-22

Good, but sometimes long winded

Some good points. Some points have long explanations for simple concepts, but it's good to know they are backed by research.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-04-25

Phenomenal

The world makes a whole lot more sense now. Always a pleasure to learn about human nature from anthropology and evolutionary psychology.

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  • Robin Debreuil
  • 2018-05-01

Very informative, interesting perspective

Some books allow you to step away and view things from a totally fresh perspective, this is such a book.
It is the math of human propagation, something we like to imagine doesn’t exist, yet is intuitively part of every calculation we make. It doesn’t control us, but it does set the stage for most of our behavior, culture and social interaction. To understand it is to better understand ourselves.

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  • Mike Stanley
  • 2019-04-12

Awesome, awesome book

This book was very enlightening. I learned alot about anthropology and sex and stuff. Very good 👌

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  • Ryan Booth
  • 2018-05-15

Excellent overview of evolutionary psychology!

Wonderful balanced overview of evolutionary psychology with a healthy dose of reserved speculations on human nature mixed with body conclusions on human sexuality.

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  • Caitlin Carlson
  • 2021-11-12

no no no

ugh. just ugh. it would have almost been funny as a poorly-timed parody if the author wasn't so naive.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-01-06

Seeing

Looks, Money, Status.

For me this book redefined how to look at things and make it even more clearly as to why it is of importance to me to focus on my career and find a close to optimal match for a partner.

Having supreme social skills is not enough
Having only money is not enough.

Both are of importance.

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  • Luis
  • 2018-10-02

An amazing, gripping, beautifully written book.

brings for the the science of mating evolution in a context that explains modern day mating dynamics. excellent.

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  • Client d'Amazon
  • 2021-05-10

Very interesting

Very interesting and eye opening book. A journey into people's mind throughout the time. I recommend it.