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Publisher's Summary

A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And, arguably, there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the best-selling 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work.

His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist; Doug Abrams; and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottmans' popular couples' workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair.

The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in men? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive and helps men hone those skills to be the men women desire.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2016 John Gottman, PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD (P)2015 Audible, Inc.

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Essential reading for all young men,

Preferably before he gets married, a young man should have this as required study. This would significantly improve men's mental health nationwide

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Real Life

I wish I had this book 35 years ago. Life with my wife may have been happier. Real Life applications for a long happy married life of understanding and trust.

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Issues with the last chapter

"Men are happier in marriages more than women" - I believe this book was referencing Paul Dolan's research which has been proven to be wrong https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/2019/6/4/18650969/married-women-miserable-fake-paul-dolan-happiness

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Great book

I enjoyed the book. I described what I learned from this book to my female friends. They said that these lessons were spot on! I also liked the examples and stories they provided. I am going to listen to this book again.

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  • Kaj
  • 2020-01-30

very helpful

I have read a number of books by John Gottman and the folks he works with. They have been pillars of success in the happiness of living my life

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Amazingly eye opening!!!

This is a book that Men, Women and even Teenagers should read.
Concepts are explained in a readily and easy way to understand the major subjects related to the differences between needs of the too Sexes and their expectations for a successful relationships in life.
Thank you.

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Insightful!

I really enjoyed this book. It contains information that is very practical and easy to apply to everyday life... although I see the hand of a Creator in the evidence of studying life. #Audible1

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Good for all men

Regardless of how successful you are with women, there were some interesting takes and reminders.

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A GREAT RESOURCE FOR COUPLES

“The Man’s Guide to Women” is a well written, practical, thought provoking read that seeks to inspire and empower men to generously love their wives.

I highly recommend this winsome guide!

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Love it finished it in one day!

as a women I approve of this book. so many right words I plan on giving this to the man in my life in hopes he will understand all the things I've been saying all this time

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  • Steve C
  • 2016-02-10

Great advice from the Love Lab again

If you want to develop your communication methods and create a stronger relationship, then this is an excellent choice. The term Zero and Hero are used often, and I like to think you might as well sum it up as how not to be an asshat. I was raised mostly by women and thought I had a decent grasp. This book tied together a lot of parts and pieces of the right things and behaviors floating about in my brain.

Even if you're in a good relationship you can still gain from the insights held within.

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  • Andrea
  • 2017-04-25

Invaluable

Gottman is on his game with this one. It's not about what men do wrong, or about being ashamed of shortcomings- it's about reconciling differences and learning to be together. If you want a healthy relationship, if you want to know how healthy women operate, listen to this book for a guideline.

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  • Nutsman
  • 2021-03-31

Wouldn't recommend this book to my three son's.

This book would have been recommended 4 or 5 decades ago. But with all the changes to our society, I can't and won't recommend this book to any young man. I heard in this book, how men need to step up, but I see no part of society asking women to do their part. Of all the young couples I see around me, I see the men carrying most of the load. Women are filling for divorce most of the time, and with no spousal infidelity, abuse. And where are the authors telling women they need to step up. There's not. Just crickets. If you want to train your boys to be there woman's emotional diaper give them this book. Just to let you know I have a daughter that means the world to me.

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  • Fanie
  • 2021-01-25

Not on the right track

Supplicating to woman won’t work. Work on yourself and strive for excellence. Make yourself your point of reference and take the ones you love with you.

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  • Nathaniel
  • 2019-10-08

This is the definitive guide to women

This is the best book a man can read right up there next to the Bible.
I say that, but even homosexual relationships could benefit from the knowledge herein.
This is hands down a must read for any man seeking a partner. I've read multiple other relationship books and even books on how to be a player and get laid bla bla bla. This trumps em all.

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  • Alduan Tartt, PhD
  • 2016-11-25

We Want to Be Heroes For Our Wives

This book was a-mazing! As men, we are expected to know how to love women correctly for life but that is impossible,in my opinion, without some serious help. How can we understand women when they are so different? I think many men learn trial by fire and by failing and not understanding why or what went wrong. This book allows us to be heroes by studying up, reading up versus giving up and has practical steps to make us more empowered in relationships. Who really wants to fail in love?

This book will help men (us) to get it right or as close to right as possible. I will recommend this guide to every male friend, relative, mentee and even future sons-in-law so they have a proven guide to make their wives happy. Thank you Gottmans and Abrams!

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  • J. Miles
  • 2018-01-03

ok book. not for longer married couples

first chapters give ok info. more for early in relationships not longer term married couples

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  • SuperBostonTerrier
  • 2021-01-21

generic, biased and beta way to deal with women

in short don't be a jerk, listen, become whipped, also marriage is the holy grail of relationship forget anything else.....yea right, overly simplistic, cliche with constant your zero or a hero durrrr, half is common sense, no advice on when things go bad, when to leave a marriage, how to restart or deal with breakups or how to break up just be the perfect man

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  • Roldy
  • 2016-09-15

Totally relevant information

I felt like this book was written for me. Every chapter has value. Be sure to bookmark!

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  • misterocasey
  • 2016-02-08

should be mandatory

if you love a woman, get this book. ATTUNE works immediately. there are some assumptions steeped in traditional role definitions at the end, toward the sexuality section. these may or may not apply to your relationship. either way, the content and the concept are worth a listen.

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