Saved my marriage

As I listened I heard so many identifying feelings I was hearing from these stories that I was also feeling.
Listening to this book helped me become more clear about many things.
And I was able to share openly with my husband about them.
He was very receptive and I can’t thank this book enough.
Highly recommend!

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Uncomfortable, compelling and insightful

Performance: I could listen to Esther Perel's voice for hours. I bought this book after listening to the first two seasons of her Podcast. She could be describing a horrifying murder and it would probably still sound sexy. You definitely won't have to worry about cringing through the narration.

Story: I am not going through an affair but I have in the past and am also very interested in people and relationships in general. The stories of real people were the most compelling to me, and she uses these examples throughout. Esther Perel describes unending possibilities for what a "marriage" truly is. She has many interesting thoughts about how the institution of marriage looks completely different through the lenses of different times and cultures. The messages focus on empowerment, reflection, and discovery. Nothing in this book will help you fix the past, but it might help you find a way to consider your past and plan for future in a way that is empowering, reflective, and honest.

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Changed my view on affairs.

I had a very black and white view of affairs prior to this book. The many stories within it gave me a much more nuanced position toward them. Esther gives us a glimpse into why affairs happen in the first place from a lot of different view points. A person couldn't live enough lives to get an understanding of affairs like this through personal experience, nor would they want to. This book is really for anyone that wants to peak behind the curtain and understand why people in terrible or happy relationships might cheat.

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Insightful

As always Ester Perel encourages the listener to think outside the hegemonic system of relationships and to invite a new paradigm to view the “unfaithful”

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loved it

Very thought provoking, excellently written. I highly recommend this to everyone especially those in relationship (regardless if there was an affair or not!)

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Wonderful Listen

An inspiring audio book filled with powerful messages for personal and professional journeys. Read by Esther herself and sharing her clinical experiences made this book even more impactful. My favourite message was ‘one size doesn’t fit all.’ There are different approaches and perspectives for each couples unique situation.

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A Romantic’s View

I have never felt more comforted by vague abstractions of love and its place in sexuality and marriage. This was poetry. I have felt inspired by harsh truths. Esther’s work is all encompassing, balanced, and fair. Her insights into the hearts and minds of people is unprecedented.
Yes, it would seem as though she may wax poetic, but I am entirely appreciative of the soul she brings to her work. Her passion is inspirational. She disregards nothing. It seems her intention is to truly see her clients and honour their individuality.

Please read. Her work has helped me be okay with not knowing what life can bring and what love can be. I’ve felt in the past that I am so anxiously attached to my partners, it’s been an unhealthy journey. Perel’s work has helped me move beyond my boundaries and beliefs around what a relationship should be.

To those of you that might be working with her, I hope you find what you are looking for. Thank you for your stories.

From a twenty something Canadian female.

This is so much more than sex.

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Sexy and honest

I’ve been a fan of Perel for a while, but I had only listened to her on podcasts or seen her videos. Her book was fantastic and really got to the heart of the issues that lead to infidelity, plus what happens after its discovery. She was never prescriptive and acknowledged that every relationship was unique, highlighting this with actual couples from her practice. I think that nearly everyone could stand to learn something from this book, regardless of whether there is or will ever be an issue of unfaithfulness in their relationship. I love it when an author reads their own book, especially someone with such a presence as Perel.

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Must read for anyone in any kind of relationship

This book is incredible. Esther does an amazing job of showing care and validation for those who have been hurt by infidelity while at the same time offering important insights into monogamy, people who have affairs, modern love, culture, trauma ect.
I feel I am better equipped to provide understanding and support to my family and friends and dispel my long held judgmental views on monogamy, love and affairs.
In short, I have learned so much from this.
Thank you Esther

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Thought provoking & challenges the social norms

Great listen and would recommend.
The author does a fantastic job questioning feels and real time situations from her unbiased clinical perspective. Not specific to the cheaters or cheated themselves, but the author expands beyond and makes you self reflect on the harsh social stimga associated with everyone involved.

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