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Publisher's Summary

Are you in a relationship? Used to be? Want to be? Just want to have better sex or date better? This book is your antidote to typical sex, dating, and relationship rules. Dr. Faith, best-selling author of Unf*ck Your Brain, cuts through the crap with sharp guidelines on how to be a human being in an adult, loving, intimate relationship, with yourself and other people. If you're looking to heal from past wounds, make better choices, or improve an existing relationship, this book is for you!

©2019 Faith G. Harper (P)2019 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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Not what expected

I do not like the voice over, the swearing or this book in general it is not attention grabbing

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Awful reader

Why would someone choose a reader who sounds like they are so uptight, prim and proper to read this? Ugh. The content was great but the person reading it sounded so vastly out of her element, I was cringing.

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Misleading

I got about half way into this books duration. All I got was a bunch of sexual terms and the definitions for them. Yaaaaay.

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Boring and profane

Profanity beyond words and completely unnecessary. Unfortunate that during the sample listening there is no profanity. What a shock once I bought the book.

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  • Allie Raines
  • 2020-09-18

Redundant and unnecessary

The entire book could be rewritten in the singular sentence, “It’s fucking ok to be yourself.”

But if you need to hear that in 5 hours worth of different ways, go for it.

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  • Jayda
  • 2020-10-22

One word: ANNOYING

I’m 20 years old and still can not stand the language. The swearing is over done and annoying. She is trying way too hard at being ‘relatable’ and ‘quirky’.
I only got through the first chapter🤷🏻‍♀️
To put it plainly If you like her other books, I’m sure you’ll like this one. If you don’t like her other books, you’ll “sure as f*ck” hate this one. Unfortunate. I had high hopes.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-09-25

meh

Not everyone gets to be chocolate cake, and most long-term relationships won't be between two cakes. The author's insistence that we search tirelessly for our cake-mate-- despite recognizing the pitfalls of oxytocin lies-- seems very 'hollywood romance' to me. That is: both naive and potentially frustrating. Unrealistic expectations can knock you out of the genepool as effectively as genital mutilation. Many of the exercises given in the book require (or greatly benefit from) having a partner. So single folk will find this book of limited use.

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  • Damian Burne
  • 2021-01-22

Meaningless swearing does not work

There are some good concepts, and initially the book had potential, but the unnecessary swearing made everything distasteful to the extent the point does not carry across well.

Intimacy, sensuality, eroticism, sexuality, they're all nuances of concepts that require a compassionate and tender approach to grasp. The moment you say "f-ck society, I want an orgasm" you're redirecting the energy to the same intellectual fallacy of a source that created this division. Giving and receiving pleasure (to oneself or others) is a form of cherishing life, and not an empowered action against a primitive majority of the society who hasn't had the time, or the awareness, to analyse things properly. Forgiveness and gratitude will allow you to experience more pleasure than cursing whilst trying to convey your points across.

I found this book pointless besides the boundaries topic, but the information can be easily found in other books or articles.

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  • Joey Gonzalez
  • 2020-02-06

Very informative and an easy listen

I enjoyed the content and the teaching/story telling format. Great insight and gave me a lot to think about and work on.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2020-01-19

Loved Faith’s Candor and Honesty

I’ve recommended this Audible to both family and friends. Faith is on point and tells it like it is!

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  • carrie
  • 2021-04-06

So much great information!

should be obvious but language warning....lots of F-bombs and unfiltered language. If you’re ready to get an amazing dose of real talk related to all things intimacy then this is a must read.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2021-02-08

Informative & Empowering

If you can adjust to the cussing, (which was a non-issue for me) you'll be able to really hear the solid, evidence-based story Dr. Harper tells and grow from it. She does a fantastic job of not only providing information into the underlying issues in intimacy, but also in gifting practical exercises to use to heal. From my own understanding, the research is not conclusive about porn addiction, so the one issue I had was her stance that porn addiction absolutely does not exist. Outside of this, I found it to be brilliant.

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  • Mikael Bakkeli
  • 2021-05-05

Very general

Overall I felt the book was very general. The book did mention a few specific things like going in to different stories, but for the most part it was like "Many people says..." - what kind of people are we referring to?
"A recently study..." - what study?

In several occasions were she is about to come up with a strong argument, she takes a step back like ", but that's on you to decide"

However in the end she did mention if there is one thing in the book you found useful she has accomplished her goal, but waiting 6+ hours for that one or few things wasn't worth it. I guess "some" people will find this book useful.

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  • Jahaziel Magana
  • 2020-12-24

good way to get a new perspective

it offers an excellent perspective on relationships, what might be complicating them and how to overcome the obstacles

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