What Happened to You?
Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
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Narrated by:
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Bruce D. Perry
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Oprah Winfrey
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Written by:
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Oprah Winfrey
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Bruce D. Perry
About this listen
"[Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry] are both capable, likable narrators who are sincerely engaged with their subject matter...The performances of these two humanitarians make this a must-hear for anyone recovering from their traumatic past." —AudioFile
This program is read by the authors.
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey
This audiobook is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the audiobook, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
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Great Beginner Book
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I know that Oprah and Dr Perry will likely never see this review. In case they ever do, a million thank yous! I can't express enough gratitude for you putting in to words everything between these pages and in this audio book. Beyond grateful. Thank you immensely for this piece of brilliant work. I hope that everyone reads it. I'm ordering a copy for the principal at my sons school and whoever his teacher will be this year. it should be a mandatory read for everyone working with children.
if you've never been able to understand why you react to things the way you do and you have long wanted to make a change, this book is for you. Blown away.
A book that can save and rebuild your life
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so good.
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Best book on Trauma
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