In this episode of The Everyday Millionaire, Patrick sits down with transformation expert and entrepreneur Keala Kanae to explore the real foundation of high performance: identity, values, and self mastery.

Keala shares his powerful journey from minimum wage barista to building and exiting a company that surpassed $140 million in sales. The turning point came after a devastating breakup that forced him to confront a hard truth: he was the common denominator in every area of struggle. That realization launched a deep dive into psychology, neuroscience, and the science of values, leading to a personal breakthrough that reshaped his business and life.

The heart of the conversation centers on what Keala calls meta values, the unconscious drivers that determine how people invest their time, energy, and money. He challenges conventional thinking with statements like “procrastination is not a problem, it’s a solution” and “lack of discipline doesn’t exist.” When goals are misaligned with values, people experience hesitation, self sabotage, burnout, and imposter syndrome. When values and goals align, focus, clarity, and follow through become natural.

Patrick connects these insights to decades of coaching experience and the influence of Dr John Demartini’s values work. Keala also opens up about the darker side of early financial success, including anxiety and depression after reaching major milestones, and explains how purpose and contribution replaced money as his primary driver.

From identity-based decision making to relationships, purpose-driven business, and the “infinite game” of personal growth, this episode offers a grounded, unfiltered exploration of what it really takes to build success without betraying yourself.

In this solo episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick Francey explores why so many people stay emotionally, relationally, or professionally stuck even when they are smart, self aware, and motivated to move forward. The issue, Patrick suggests, is often not a lack of insight, but the lens through which past experiences are being viewed.

Patrick introduces a powerful distinction between gratitude and appreciation, and how confusing the two can quietly keep people anchored to relationships, partnerships, and life chapters that are already complete. While gratitude is often focused on benefit, relief, or gain, appreciation is oriented toward impact, growth, and formation. Gratitude asks, “What did I receive?” Appreciation asks, “How did this experience shape me?”

Drawing from more than four decades of business partnerships, Patrick reflects on relationships that were meaningful, formative, and at times painful. Some ended without clean resolution and carried emotional and mental weight long after they were over. Through reflection and meditation, the word “appreciation” emerged as his word of the year, not gratitude. This shift opened a new way of integrating the past without rewriting it or forcing emotional closure.

Patrick explains how people often try to force gratitude onto experiences that were costly emotionally, financially, or relationally. That effort can create inner friction and keep old stories alive. Appreciation, on the other hand, allows someone to honor what was learned, acknowledge how they were shaped, and release the need to reconcile what no longer exists.

This episode invites listeners to consider whether they are stuck because they have not healed, or because they are using the wrong frame. By choosing appreciation over forced gratitude, it becomes possible to keep the lesson, release the story, and move forward with greater clarity, integration, and momentum. As Patrick shares, clarity comes from understanding what mattered and allowing it to be complete, and that clarity is what creates velocity.

In this powerful throwback episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany explore a topic most people underestimate but almost everyone participates in: gossip. What begins as a discussion about energy leaks quickly evolves into a deeper conversation about trust, values, emotional safety, and the unseen impact our conversations have on our lives, relationships, and leadership.

Patrick and Steffany challenge the common belief that gossip is harmless. They explain that anytime we speak about someone who is not present, we are sharing our interpretation, not the truth. Even when comments seem neutral or positive, they can distort reality, weaken trust, and quietly create toxic environments. Over time, this erodes relationships, damages cultures, and pulls people away from meaningful connection.

Steffany brings forward the idea that gossip often replaces courage. Instead of facing our own emotions, setting boundaries, or having direct conversations, we vent sideways. This may offer temporary emotional release, but it does nothing to create growth, healing, or clarity. Patrick reflects on how gossip can sometimes act as a subtle form of self elevation, positioning the speaker as important, informed, or “in the know,” while slowly compromising integrity.

Throughout the episode, they share personal stories from business, sport, and life that highlight the long term cost of gossip, and the power of taking a stand for higher standards of communication. They invite listeners to examine the conversations they participate in and ask a simple question: does this elevate someone, or diminish them?

This episode ultimately reframes gossip not as a social habit, but as a mindset issue. One tied directly to leadership, emotional maturity, and the quality of environments we create around us. When gossip leaves, clarity, trust, and real connection have room to grow.