Episodes

  • My Guy Friend Confessed His Feelings, So I Ghosted Him

    My Guy Friend Confessed His Feelings, So I Ghosted Him
    Jun 19 2024
    J&J are questioning narratives today, starting with what happened to romcoms. After seeing Jared’s criticism of “Anyone But You,” Jordana wants to discuss thoughts on Sydney Sweeney, Glen Powell, and the state of romcoms in 2024. Then, we hear from a listener who can’t figure out how to get a guy out of Instagram DMs and into exchanging numbers. Their mutual friends advised her that he’s just “playing it cool,” but it’s starting to feel intentionally avoidant. Next, J&J receive a long email that’s both Awkward Encounter and an ask for advice after a guy friend professed his love at the airport. Our listener is pansexual and feels a tinge of betrayal with her confusion, but J&J don’t think she’s seeing enough of the other side. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about texting habits, hating travel, and wearing the same shirts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • The Fine Print Of #DatingTok Advice

    The Fine Print Of #DatingTok Advice
    Jun 16 2024
    The perfect episode to tune in ahead of a Father’s Day brunch, J&J are back with another bite-size Sunday Special. They start with a “Petty or Prudent?” about sending an obituary after someone ghosts you, but they also saw a red flag before our listener got to the point of being ghosted. The episode ends with an email about another TikTok dating trend. Several fun #DatingTok videos are telling single people to try dating with an expiration date, but our listener didn’t have fun with the concept at all. Is it just not for her, or did she do it wrong? The hosts weigh in and advise the workaround for her and anyone else wanting to give this a try. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • Coming To Terms With Your Kinda-Ship

    Coming To Terms With Your Kinda-Ship
    Jun 12 2024
    J&J are tackling nuance in the modern dating world. Before jumping in, Jordana recounts her Sonoma vacation and her driverless ride reminds Jared of dating apps’ impact on society. Plus Jared has feedback for a fan that shot her shot for an upcoming tour date, and his reasons for what was wrong with her approach tie into the first email. A listener has a crush on her fitness instructor, but is there a way to shoot her shot without making it awkward if he wants to pass? In true U Up? fashion, John Mayer enters the tangent fray, but first, J&J have an introduction to make. Then, the Awkward Encounter involves a situation going from flirty online to uncomfortable irl when a listener finally meets her colleague at graduation. Next, J&J answer an “Are We Dating?” about a long-distance connection growing between traveling work trips. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about seatbelts, professional Tinder pics, and IG explore pages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 32 mins
  • My Mom Is In Her Divorced Era. How Can I Help Her Date?

    My Mom Is In Her Divorced Era. How Can I Help Her Date?
    Jun 9 2024
    Jared and Jordana are getting pumped for their trip to Cannes, but they have to get a few things crossed on their list before they go. First up, Jordana needs answers on what the f*ck is up with Jared’s beard? Next, they read a wedding note from a subscriber before delving into a “Petty or Prudent?” about a SIL asking to share a wedding anniversary date. The episode ends with an advice email for a listener’s mom. He’s tried helping her navigate dating after her divorce, but she has excuse after excuse on why no one is right, so he needs help from J&J on how to get through to her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 mins
  • I Love My BF, But He Hates My Dog

    I Love My BF, But He Hates My Dog
    Jun 5 2024
    J&J are taking on complicated relationships and realizations in this week’s episode, but first, they catch up on Jordana’s latest trip, get excited for their voyage en France, and Jared vents about the unknown era he’s navigating. The first email comes from a listener looking to collect $1,000 her ex owes her. He’s gone radio silent and it’s been a year, but J&J think she’s making a mistake with her ask. Then, our final “Friends to Lovers” submission takes a turn when a listener found her lover’s Grindr messages. TRIGGER WARNING for our next email, we talk about animal abuse. J&J receive an email about an impending breakup, a heartbroken woman, and her dog at the center. She thought he was “the one,” but her dog’s reactions as their relationship progressed caused major issues, and Jared thinks her concern and focus are in the wrong place. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about dating your ex’s twin, tattoos of faces, and a questionable bachelor party game. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 17 mins
  • Love, Limerence, And Cop Outs ft. Olivia O’Brien

    Love, Limerence, And Cop Outs ft. Olivia O’Brien
    Jun 2 2024
    J&J are joined by Olivia O’Brien ahead of the release for her upcoming EP, “Love and Limerence,” but before they get started, Jordana and Olivia fill Jared in on what limerence means. Then, Olivia shares the struggles with being vulnerable in her songwriting and dating other public figures, and Jared can relate for why he’s cautious with the real experiences he puts into his work. Plus Olivia shocks J&J with the aftermath of her song with gnash, “i hate u, i love u,” blowing up on the charts in 2016, they talk double standards of women being vulnerable, the difference in LA and NYC social scenes, and why Gen Z might be more open to casual relationships. The episode ends with answering a listener’s email about being on the hook and not knowing whether she should just walk away before she gets hurt. She’s been happily seeing someone for two months, but he’s now up for a job that would take him overseas indefinitely. They have yet to DTR, but she’s certain she doesn’t want to juggle a long-distance situation. Jared, Jordana and Olivia weigh in. For more from our guest, listen to “Love and Limerence” by Olivia O’Brien (@oliviaobrien) on June 21. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    39 mins
  • They Always Come Back For The Wrong Reasons

    They Always Come Back For The Wrong Reasons
    May 29 2024
    The pod is buzzing this week, and we’re starting with Jordana’s NBA experience seeing the Knicks play (and lose) Game 7 against the Pacers reminding her of a relationship falling apart and Jared’s fired-up morning after a workout. After catching up, they jump into an email from a listener reeling over getting stood up. She had an online relationship with a man in another state for 8 years, but when the stars aligned and she found herself in his area, he blocked her. Is she wrong for wishing he would’ve communicated he didn’t want to meet anymore, or does he not owe her anything because they’d never physically met? Next, we get another “Friends To Lovers” submission from a Canadian man about a woman he met in a workout class. Afterward, a military man asks how to navigate dating when his career’s constant moves have been the subject of several breakups. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about white lies, jorts on a plane, and a special update from a fan-favorite milk debate from our 2020 episodes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 12 mins
  • Should I Tone Down My Personality To Attract More Dates? ft. Emma Willmann

    Should I Tone Down My Personality To Attract More Dates? ft. Emma Willmann
    May 26 2024
    This week’s Sunday Special delves into boundaries, appropriateness, and perception, but first, J&J are catching up with Emma Willmann (@emmawillmann). The conversation from Emma’s last time on the pod gets a quick update with where it continued with a sex therapist on Emma’s podcast, Ask Men Anything. Then, Jared needs the insight of women he knows for his latest TikTok finds. Next, a male listener thinks his personality is to blame for his lack of dating life. He’s friendly and chatty, but the consensus of his friend group is that these characteristics could be “gay-coded,” so is the solution to become closed off? The episode ends with a “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup reaction after our listener comes out to her boyfriend as queer, but it’s not the reaction to her sexuality that she’s concerned about. Jared, Jordana and Emma add some extra layers of perspective she may be looking past. Listen to our last episode with Emma, "Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?" from February 21. Listen to Emma's follow-up conversation on Ask Men Anything, "Asking Dr. Justin Lehmiller Anything" from February 27. https://youtu.be/AMPqjOcuAg8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins