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You can't buy, inject, drink, swallow nor anything else that will give you happiness. Even winning the lottery will only give you fleeting happiness even if it gets you out of a financial predicament and you buy all your desired clothes and cars etc... You can win your dream super car and next day crash it with devastating injuries - where did your happiness go?

It is important to value who you are. It is difficult at times when you are in a dark place and life seems to have no viable solutions as to what to do and where to go - but they are there. It is very difficult too when in that dark place to have any energy because it seems to be sapped out of you because of a lack of impetus and desire. Your mind knows what it wants, the body seems not to care and all one can dream about is to be left alone or waiting for that magic moment when all will be OK and it doesn't arrive.

Life Bite Series. Our Attitude is a culmination of how we think and feel as well as our perceptions in life. We are viewed by our attitude as we view others by theirs. Our attitude can make us or break us. Good attitudes always come out on top bad attitudes do quite the opposite. The good news is that you control your attitude so you can make it good at any time you wish. This concise 6 min bite deals with just that.

The only person to suffer from un-forgiveness is ourselves. Others can't experience what we think and feel, others can't read our thoughts, only we can get to grips with them. Our pain, torment, self mind talk is purely ours and we are thus the only ones privvy to this, if we get upset then we get upset, no one else will. If we are to move on in life then we must forgive no matter how hard that is.

Religion is a man made construct, it is a version of a God doctrine organised by man himself, and often over years has been altered and modified etc... and at times added to sometimes to an extent that the original truth no longer is as it should be (anything with man's hand in it has flaws). Ethnicity is who we are from a source point of view, colour, location, traits, features, mentality, culture, all of these things can have a profound effect upon how we view life and indeed how we live our lives.

At times we all come an impass, an area in life whether we are starting out or perhaps in mid-life where we think we need to be somewhere else. Where we feel that we have either outgrown or exhausted our past and we need to do something else and move on. Our decisions can be relatively easy or they can be overwhelmingly difficult. At A Crossroads complements the book of the same name.

Life Bites Series. We all get good fortune and at times not so good fortune thrust upon us, how we react and what we make of it is down to us. The vast majority of Lottery winners lose their money from silly spending within 5 years so with good things comes a responsibility and knowledge and not just acting like children in a sweetshop eating all in sight then getting sick very quickly.

If we can't communicate we can't express our love, our upset, our thoughts, our feelings, our aspirations, our creativity, in fact if we don't express ourselves we are making ourselves redundant in life and falling very short of who we are. Yes, there are despots and dictators and evil religions that supress communications and the messages they deliver, but the irony of all of that is that they poach from the societies that allow communications because they haven't themelves the guts or brain power to effectively use it.

Many people today are desperate for love. They think that once love arrives all their problems will be solved or cushioned to an extent that they will be able to cope better. Love doesn't work like that. Love comes in many guises and each and everyone are unique to that person. Those that say "I have a lot of love to give to the right person" are usually selfish to a huge degree. Love never runs out, and the more love you give to life and those around you the richer it gets.

It is true that a smile can elevate the soul, improve your wellbeing, make you more accessible to others and indeed companies if you go for an interview. But what happens when we are hurting, saddened, unhappy, lonely, fearful, upset? The first thing we should not do is "Stop smiling" wearing our anguish only tends to make matters worse and sympathy is a hollow virtue in that it can elevate the senses but has no substance whatsoever.

Forget about "Blame Culture" or circumstances or situations, you are in charge of your life at all times, never ever forget that. You wouldn't leave home naked so don't leave home thinking that someone else is in charge of you. Never ever give your authority away to anyone else no matter who or what. Yes, you have to comply at times to where you are whether at work or play, but that doesn't mean being subservient or a sponge to others who are bombastic or domineering.

Many people at some time or another experience the feeling of "going through Hell". Each experience is different from person to person, and what one has to endure (which may be horrific), another person in comparison may only be experience as slight discomfort. However, the bottom line is how we feel that is most important and how we deal with it and come out at the other end a different and better person than we were before it all took place.

Life Bites Series. Self Esteem is vitally important for without it we can lose out on a lot in life including our jobs and allowing ourselves to be happy. Self esteem is what we think about ourselves and our standing in life. It's not being arrogant it is understanding who we are which is totally different and it also puts into place our standing and relationship with others and life itself. We are all different and there isn't such a thing as "one size fits all" but we have to understand where we are placed.

Life Bite Series. We all at times go through some sort of struggle. It doesn't matter what it is, to us it is very real and we feel very much the implication of what that struggle means to us. Our struggle may be greater or lesser than those around us but that serves no place in how we feel nor how we deal with it. The good news is that we are far more resilient than we think we are and we overcome it all and come out the other end ready to join life on better terms than before, even if in somewhat different ways.

Humility and pride: One can get you everywhere and the other can get you nowhere. It's a virtue to be humble as it denotes you have a high degree of grace and understanding. It doesn't denote being a "soft touch" as what you possess is of a value that needs no extra advertising. Those who are ego lead are quite the opposite, often suffering from a very bad ignorance and lack of self-esteem. There is a big difference between being proud of your children or some work you have done as opposed to being proud looking at life through a variable supercilious aspect that clouds others from your favour and even warrants negativity.

This audio download discusses areas of our life that by and large we tend to keep quiet about. Our fetishes, our secret desires, private hobbies and likes etc, often that are out of the "norm" or general understanding of pedestrian thought. This can lead us to living a "double life", it can be exciting, it can be cruel, it can be unkind and it can be lonely.

Whatever happens, whatever prevails, whatever circumstances there are, you are still in charge of your life. Unless you are held at gunpoint which is highly unlikely then you make all the choices in life - even if it is a choice to follow someone else. If you do follow someone else as an easy option and it all goes wrong, then it's not them to blame; it is you who put your trust in them, even if they did something stupid. There's no getting away from the truth of the matter about yourself.

Emotions enhance our life walk. We have love, joy, happiness, with love being the greatest and most effective emotion we have. We also have the opposite emotions: anger, hatred, greed, envy, pride, etc, all of which will bring us down.

If we believe in God, then there is but pure love; if we believe in anything else, then it's the Devil - the antithasis of all that's good. And if we impose conditions on love, then that is our downfall too.

Life Bite Series. No matter how knowledgeable we are or interested in life, in the grand order of things we know very little. It is this understanding that we can have that can allow for 1000's of things to materialize for our advantage. Often we strive - and rightly - for what we know, but we should always be open for what we don't know as that can be so much better and be the exact things we seek in life. Taking second best because of ignorance is not smart.

Life Bite Series. Bereavement is going to hit us all at some point in our lives. It is the one inevtiable thing that's guaranteed. How we think of death is partly due to our religion and the stilted morbid way that we have been taught about it. Yet if you believe in God then death is not that bad. If "love" was in the equation then it still existes even after death (escept in Islam where love is purely conditional).