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"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility

Narrateur(s): Ramani S. Durvasula PhD
Durée: 19 h et 6 min
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It’s time to take our lives back from a world of narcissism, entitlement, and toxic relationships.

“Don’t you know who I am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist. 

Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult, or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls. 

Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity - insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders. 

There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes. 

It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.

©2019 Ramani S. Durvasula, PhD (P)2019 Post Hill Press

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  • Lisa Rose
  • 2019-10-11

should play on continuous loop throughout the USA

I really love this book. I have been listening to her utube videos for a while. I come from a family of narcissists. As stated in the book, they are like ants. When you see one, the swarm has hit your life; and your only form of pest control is to learn what the "pale pink" flags are. I have been through and witnessed so much emotional abuse in the workplace. I also grew up in a society of rampant emotional abuse. When I was young I heard the false mantra of "Honesty is always the best policy" or "The truth hurts". Those are just sayings that allow toxic people to abuse others with impunity. I grew up in the LA area where "car fights" were a dangerous part of my life. I thought it was ok to always "defend" my self. My mom died in a car accident and somehow I thought aggressive driving was ok. I realized how absurd the aggressive driving was when 9-11 happened. All of those people who were on time to their crappy job died. Now I am aware. I will spot the pale pink flags and live the best life that I can.

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  • 2019-10-26

Intelligent, insightful, and compassionate

I do not think that I would have ever said that, but Dr. Ramani is my favorite psychologist.

This book makes you reflect on your relationships, who you are, your needs and your goals, all the while distilling wisdom into your soul, and reassurance at every word.

From someone who has been living my whole life with the types of people that she speaks of in this book, she has reaffirmed a lot of the thoughts that I had about them, reconnecting myself with those lessons, while giving me new things to ponder about and new ways to get through life.

She has opened my eyes to what I had felt, but covered my eyes about.

Thank you for letting me listen to you and feel that living life is self improvement, deep connections, meaningful relationship, kindness, love, care and insight.

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  • Michael
  • 2019-11-09

Informative and Thorough

Definitely a must-read for a better understanding of narcissism, how narcissist are created, and how to deal with narcissistic abuse. The material would be hard to digest for anyone unfamiliar with the suffering caused by these difficult relationships. Offers relevant and helpful advice.

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  • Patty
  • 2019-11-08

Highly recommend

The scope of this book was more than I could have imagined. So many aspects I had not considered. Very well written and easy to follow.

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  • Sean
  • 2020-01-10

Slowly read but clear

I’m not sure if Dr. Durvasula is speaking very slowly or if it was purposely slowed down by the editors as she reads. I did speed it up half way through the book to 1.25 times the normal reading speed, and she sounds normal. However, I realized, I was able to listen better at the slower but normal speed. The book speaks for itself, it is a must read, for all personality types. Please see Esther 1:16-18; Deuteronomy 5:21; Exodus 20:17 to truly understand one reason why we are seeing the inceL situation, although their method used to display their anger is maladaptive, they have a legitimate reason for their anger. Feminism is one reason for a higher divorce rate. Divorce creates single family homes, children in single family homes, may fall higher on the narcissistic spectrum. Women today have a Queen Vashti spirit, rather than the spirit of Sarah, Abraham's wife. (see 1Peter 3:1-7)

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  • AZ Entrepreneur
  • 2020-05-26

Must read! Most crucial book of our time!

This is the best book I have come across so far on Audible. This is the most helpful book I have read. This book has provided so many answers in relationships. I have gained a new sense of moral and ethical clarity by exercising more empathy in a world that has been rewarding narcissistic behaviors. Dr. Ramani has my eternal gratitude.

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  • 2020-05-22

Most help healing yet!

tremendous book! Dr. Ramani is brilliant on this subject. those of us who have been victims are so very fortunate to have her leading us to and through this long, arduous journey out of hell. this book is thorough. she covers it all, and you will love it, too.

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  • anne drew
  • 2020-05-14

Don’t you know who I am?

Wow, so much information! This book was spot on about Narcissism! I also learned more about them and what to do and what not to do. I couldn’t stop listening to the book at first but then I had to take a break from it because I had to let it sink in. It is so exhausting living with a narcissistic personality and it doesn’t end even after the divorce. The information is so true about everything that I felt I was reading about someone I knew. I would tell my family member it was the best thing he ever did was divorce her but now it’s knowing how to protect the children. Everyone should listen to this book!

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  • Amy Johnson
  • 2020-02-25

Wow

This is a comprehensive pep talk for those of us who need to move past a life time identity of “not enoughness” . It covers every damn thing you need to hear and understand to move on.

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  • Elissa Davis
  • 2020-02-24

Life-changing, eye-opening, and healing

The first few chapters were a little less relatable for me, but chapters 4 to the end were the best thing that's happened to me in the last 5 years.
I'm so grateful for Dr Ramani Durvasula putting in all the work she has. And something that only Audible can provide is the comfort of her voice. Soothing and more than informative. This book left me feeling hopeful, motivated, and healed.