Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah are traveling. Here is a revisit of a great show they had in Season 1- Lesbian Dating on the Apps: Where hope and Sanity go to die!

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Let’s talk about the kiss — that tiny moment that can make your whole world vibrate… or make you immediately regret life choices. 😬

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel get up close (but not too close) to explore why kissing matters so much — and how it can reveal way more about your connection than you think.

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah discussing Situationships

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Let’s talk about the kiss — that tiny moment that can make your whole world vibrate… or make you immediately regret life choices. 😬

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel get up close (but not too close) to explore why kissing matters so much — and how it can reveal way more about your connection than you think.

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Let’s talk about the kiss — that tiny moment that can make your whole world vibrate… or make you immediately regret life choices. 😬

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel get up close (but not too close) to explore why kissing matters so much — and how it can reveal way more about your connection than you think.

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

HANDFUL Bras to get your 30% discount use code DATEABLEAF

Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah discussing Kissing

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Let’s talk about the kiss — that tiny moment that can make your whole world vibrate… or make you immediately regret life choices. 😬

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel get up close (but not too close) to explore why kissing matters so much — and how it can reveal way more about your connection than you think.

We cover: 💋 Why kissing really matters — from the science of attraction and bonding to what it says about your relationship health. 🧠 The psychology + biology of kissing — how dopamine, oxytocin, and 80 million bacteria all play a role in that spark (or lack of it). ❤️ What makes a good kiss great — synchrony, safety, chemistry, and emotional attunement. 🚩 When kissing is a red flag — what a “meh” kiss can signal about compatibility, communication, or emotional distance. 🗣️ Technique, consent, and communication — why good kissing isn’t about moves, it’s about mutual energy and comfort. 💡 Practical takeaways:

• Make time for a “just because” kiss — no agenda.
• If kisses feel flat, ask, “What’s shifted between us?”
• Celebrate the small kisses; they keep connection alive.

Because kissing isn’t just foreplay — it’s feedback. And when it’s good, it’s magic.

💭 Discussion Prompts

• What’s the best kiss you’ve ever had — and what made it memorable?
• Have you ever noticed kissing losing its spark — what changed?
• How does kissing fit into your sense of intimacy or connection?

Share your stories (anonymously if you’d like!) on Instagram or by email — your story might be featured in an upcoming AFterparty episode. 💌

🎧 Next week: We’re diving into something special Stay tuned!

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E11

Rachel and Sarah discuss Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Contrary to popular belief, ethical non-monogamy isn’t a free-for-all — it’s more like a team project with a lot of Google Calendar invites. 🗓️✨

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel unpack what ethical non-monogamy (ENM) really means — and spoiler: it’s not just about sex. It’s about honesty, consent, emotional growth, and learning that love isn’t a limited resource.

We cover: 💡 What ENM actually is — from open relationships and swinging to polyamory and relationship anarchy. 🚫 Common misconceptions — “It’s an excuse to cheat,” “ENM people don’t get jealous,” and “It never works long-term.” ❤️ Why people choose ENM — curiosity, freedom, emotional honesty, and yes, better communication. 🧭 Keys to making it work — radical honesty, emotional regulation, clear boundaries, and (you guessed it) Google Calendar. ⚠️ When it goes wrong — saying “yes” when you mean “maybe,” using ENM to avoid commitment, or forgetting empathy along the way. 🌈 Advice for the curious — how to explore the idea safely, talk it through, and decide if it’s actually for you.

Because being open isn’t about loving more people — it’s about learning to love more honestly. 💖

💭 Discussion Prompts

• On a scale of 1–10, how open are you to the idea of non-monogamy?
• What parts of openness feel appealing — and what parts make you nervous?
• How do you define “honesty” and “boundaries” in your relationships?

We love hearing your thoughts and stories — send them to us on Instagram or via email for a chance to be featured in our next AFterparty episode! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Sealed with a Mess” — why kissing can be magic… or a total red flag.

💌 Thanks for tuning in to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E10

Rachel and Sarah discuss emotional micromanagement.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

If your “boundary” sounds more like a threat or a rule for someone else, it’s not a boundary — it’s emotional micromanagement. 💅

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel break down why so many people get boundaries wrong — and how to set ones that actually work. From the “revenge boundary” to over-explaining your limits, we’re diving into the messy middle between control and self-respect.

We cover: 🧠 What a boundary really is — it’s not about controlling them, it’s about protecting you. 🚫 Why we get it wrong — childhood patterns, fear of being “mean,” and confusing limits with ultimatums. 💬 How to set boundaries that stick — identify the behavior, decide your action, communicate clearly, and follow through. 🔥 Real-life examples:

• “If you cancel last minute again, I’ll make other plans.”
• “If this topic keeps coming up, I’ll end the call.” 💔 Common backfires: over-explaining, expecting gratitude, or trying to “teach” someone a lesson. 💞 Boundaries in dating: why consistency builds trust and flexibility keeps it human.

Because here’s the truth: a real boundary doesn’t control anyone else — it defines what you will do.

💭 Discussion Prompts

• Talk with your partner about times you notice yourself trying to influence or control their behavior.
• Reframe it: How could you set a boundary for yourself instead?
• What’s one boundary you’ve been scared to enforce — and what would “follow-through” actually look like?

Send us your thoughts for a chance to be featured in our next AFterparty episode — DM us on Instagram or email your story! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — a discussion of ethical non-monogamy (and why it’s more about honesty than chaos).

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E9

Rachel and Sarah deep dive Being Bisexual in a Binary World

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

When people ask, “So… do you like men or women?” the answer is simple: Yes. 💅

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel take on the myths, misconceptions, and magic of being bisexual in a binary world. From being told it’s “just a phase” to getting side-eye in queer spaces, we’re unpacking what it’s really like to live (and date) beyond the either/or.

We cover: 🌈 The myths — “Bi people are confused,” “It’s 50/50,” “You’ll eventually pick a side,” and other outdated nonsense. 💋 The reality of dating while bi — not gay enough for some, not straight enough for others, and constantly explaining that attraction ≠ infidelity. 📺 Representation matters — how bi celebs like Niecy Nash, Sara Ramirez, and Stephanie Beatriz are changing the narrative. 💡 Practical takeaways — how to own your identity, find inclusive spaces, and navigate relationships without letting stereotypes define you.

Because bisexuality doesn’t mean “undecided” — it means expansive. It’s not confusion; it’s capacity. 💖

💭 Discussion Prompts

• Have you ever felt “in between” when it comes to sexuality or identity?
• How do you define your own orientation on a spectrum, rather than a category?
• What helps you feel seen and supported in queer spaces?

Share your thoughts or stories — we might feature them in a future mini-episode! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — a deep dive into ethical non-monogamy (and why it’s more about honesty than chaos).

💌 Thanks for tuning in to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E8

Sarah and Rachel discuss Coming Out Late in Life! Please reach out to Sarah and Rachel- they would love to hear from you all! The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Turns out, some parties start later… but they’re still worth showing up to. 🎉

In this heartfelt and funny episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel talk about what it’s really like to come out later in life — sometimes after marriage, kids, or decades of living by someone else’s script.

We unpack:

🌈 Why this happens — cultural expectations, lack of representation, and how attraction can take time to surface.

💔 The emotional rollercoaster — relief, grief, fear, and joy all rolled into one big coming-out journey.

👩‍❤️‍👩 How it affects relationships — navigating divorce, parenting, shifting friendships, and newfound freedom.

💡 Dating tips for later-in-life lesbians — from finding your people to flirting again after years off the market.

💬 Real talk on authenticity — it’s never too late to show up as yourself.

Because there’s no RSVP required for self-discovery — you can arrive at your own party whenever you’re ready. 🥂

💭 Discussion Prompts

• What was your coming out process like — internal or external?
• If you’re partnered, do you know each other’s coming out stories?
• What do you see as the pros and cons of coming out earlier vs. later in life? Share your stories with us — we love hearing from our listeners! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — our take on consensual non-monogamy (and yes, it’s consensual, not chaotic).

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Remember: be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating, don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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