Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 7

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

💌 Have you ever thought your partner didn’t love you enough—only to realize they just show it differently?

In this episode, we unpack Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages—why they’ve become relationship gospel, why they’re sometimes misunderstood, and how to translate your partner’s “I love you” even when it doesn’t sound like yours.

We cover:

• The Big Five: words, acts, gifts, time, touch
• Why love languages click for people—but also spark debate
• Common translation fails (hello, laundry-folding vs. “I love you”)
• How to decode what your partner really means
• Why love languages are tools, not rules

✨ Takeaway: It’s less about perfection, more about effort. Learn to “translate,” and your relationship fluency goes way up.

📌 Next week: Apologies That Don’t Count—why half-hearted sorrys keep couples stuck, and how to repair for real.

🎙️ The Dateable AF Podcast — because women dating women is wild, wonderful, and occasionally a disaster.

#DateableAF #LoveLanguages #GaryChapman #LesbianDating #WLW #DatingPodcast #RelationshipTips #QueerLove #WomenWhoLoveWomen #DatingFails #LoveAndRelationships

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 6

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

💌 Have you ever thought your partner didn’t love you enough—only to realize they just show it differently?

In this episode, we unpack Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages—why they’ve become relationship gospel, why they’re sometimes misunderstood, and how to translate your partner’s “I love you” even when it doesn’t sound like yours.

We cover:

• The Big Five: words, acts, gifts, time, touch
• Why love languages click for people—but also spark debate
• Common translation fails (hello, laundry-folding vs. “I love you”)
• How to decode what your partner really means
• Why love languages are tools, not rules

✨ Takeaway: It’s less about perfection, more about effort. Learn to “translate,” and your relationship fluency goes way up.

📌 Next week: Apologies That Don’t Count—why half-hearted sorrys keep couples stuck, and how to repair for real.

🎙️ The Dateable AF Podcast — because women dating women is wild, wonderful, and occasionally a disaster.

#DateableAF #LoveLanguages #GaryChapman #LesbianDating #WLW #DatingPodcast #RelationshipTips #QueerLove #WomenWhoLoveWomen #DatingFails #LoveAndRelationships

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 5

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

💌 Have you ever thought your partner didn’t love you enough—only to realize they just show it differently?

In this episode, we unpack Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages—why they’ve become relationship gospel, why they’re sometimes misunderstood, and how to translate your partner’s “I love you” even when it doesn’t sound like yours.

We cover:

• The Big Five: words, acts, gifts, time, touch
• Why love languages click for people—but also spark debate
• Common translation fails (hello, laundry-folding vs. “I love you”)
• How to decode what your partner really means
• Why love languages are tools, not rules

✨ Takeaway: It’s less about perfection, more about effort. Learn to “translate,” and your relationship fluency goes way up.

📌 Next week: Apologies That Don’t Count—why half-hearted sorrys keep couples stuck, and how to repair for real.

🎙️ The Dateable AF Podcast — because women dating women is wild, wonderful, and occasionally a disaster.

#DateableAF #LoveLanguages #GaryChapman #LesbianDating #WLW #DatingPodcast #RelationshipTips #QueerLove #WomenWhoLoveWomen #DatingFails #LoveAndRelationships

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 4

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

👓✨ Age gaps in 2025: one of you’s reaching for reading glasses, the other’s adjusting the ring light.

This week, we’re diving into age-gap relationships—the fascination, the judgments, and the real-life dynamics behind the gossip.

We cover:

• Why people are so nosy about age gaps (power, motives, and cultural scripts)
• The romance of contrast: playlists vs. mixtapes, novelty vs. stability
• Common judgments: “gold digger,” “midlife crisis,” and why they usually say more about the onlooker than the couple
• Private realities: how couples actually make it work (hint: they fight about Netflix, not just age)
• Communication tips when you’re in mismatched life stages
• Handling outside judgment with confidence

💡 Takeaway: Age gaps aren’t inherently good or bad—it’s all about power, pace, and play.

📌 Next week: Love Languages or Lost in Translation? Why your partner’s way of showing love might feel like a foreign language (and how to actually get the message).

🎙️ The Dateable AF Podcast — because women dating women is wild, wonderful, and occasionally a disaster.

#DateableAF #LesbianDating #WLW #LovePodcast #AgeGapRelationships #QueerLove #WomenWhoLoveWomen #DatingPodcast #RelationshipTalk #CougarTown

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 3

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 2

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Jealous? Me? Never. The messy truth about jealousy (and envy) in even secure relationships.

• Jealousy vs. Envy: Jealousy = fear of losing what you have; Envy = wanting what someone else has (benign, emulative, or malicious).
• Not always a red flag: Think “check-engine light,” not automatic doom. Love + jealousy can coexist—handle with care.
• Flavors of jealousy:
  • Romantic/Sexual (flirting/sexual interest),
  • Emotional (sharing intimacy elsewhere),
  • Situational (priority/availability mismatches).
• Queer-specific wrinkles: Small circles, exes in the friend group, and higher alert around emotional infidelity can amplify jealousy.
• Attachment + history: Anxious attachment and past betrayals supercharge triggers. Don’t overlay old wounds on new people.
• Social media traps: Creeping, burner accounts, “proving it” hunts—erode trust and rarely soothe.
• Boundaries ≠ control: Ask, “Is this someone I should worry about?” Use I-statements, set your boundaries, don’t police theirs.
• Quick self-check: If you’re jealous in 9/10 situations, look inward; if 1/10, examine the situation. Regulate first (breathe, journal, meditate).
• Ask for what you need: Reassurance, check-ins, affection—be direct. Therapy helps if it’s sticky.
• Spice vs. scorch: Playful partner-flirting can be bonding; throuples/“opening up” rarely fix problems—tread carefully (and tell us if yours does work!).

Share your take: jealousy wins, lessons, or a successful 5+ year throuple 📧 info@datableaf.com | 📸 @datableaf

Next up: Am I Losing Myself or Just Growing Up? IRL: Aug 24 at 1972 Bar (Austin, TX) — come hang!

#DatableAF #QueerPodcast #WLW #WomenLovingWomen #Sapphic #QueerDating #WomenDatingWomen #LGBTQPodcast #LesbianPodcast #Jealousy #Envy #AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #SecureAttachment #EmotionalIntimacy #HealthyBoundaries #BoundariesNotControl #CommunicationSkills #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #TrustIssues #SocialMediaBoundaries #TherapyTalk #CouplesTherapy #QueerLove #ModernDating #DontTextYourEx #ThroupleTalk #PodcastEpisode #NewEpisode

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

This show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

It’s Never Just About the Dishes — petty fights = deeper needs.

• Proxy arguments: Surface tiffs (TP roll, “text me when you land”) mask needs like autonomy, security, being seen.
• Perpetual problems: Many issues are ongoing value/style differences you manage, not solve (Gottman).
• Physiology matters: The first minutes set the tone; if nervous systems spike, pause and regroup.
• Queer twists: Mismatch on being out, blurred home roles, and double attunement can mean double resentment.
• Look for what’s right: The “red truck” effect—what you scan for, you’ll see.
• Tools: Name the need; check pattern vs one-off; use humor or a code word (“cinnamon”); validate feelings without “losing”; ask for what you want; let small stuff go; do regular check-ins.

Examples: Travel-call tug-of-war (connection vs autonomy), dinner indecision (passive control), recycling righteousness, the goldfish ultimatum.

Share your funniest dumb fights (anonymous!): 📧 info@datableaf.com | 📸 @datableaf

Be bold, be kind, and… don’t text your ex. Stay Datable AF.

#DatableAF #QueerDating #RelationshipSkills #ProxyArguments #Gottman #Communication #AttachmentNeeds #ConflictRepair #LGBTQPodcast #SapphicRelationships

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2

Rachel and Sarah are focusing on loved ones this week. Please enjoy a repeat Episode! Please reach out to Sarah and Rachel- they would love to hear from you all! The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Kyle explain Lesbian dating and the tendency to move in after the first date.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.