Dr. Gilly Kahn is a psychologist, mom, writer—and a committed partner of FINDtheADHDgirls. She also contributed a powerful, detail-packed letter to our book, Letters to Our Younger Self.

In this episode, Dr. Kahn shares what it was like to grow up with undiagnosed ADHD and how writing her letter brought old memories into sharper focus. We talk about the “true ADHD fashion” of putting things off, why body doubling can be the difference between stuck and started, and how inspiration can strike at the most random times—sometimes late at night when you least expect it.

Dr. Kahn also opens up about living with big emotions, the shame that can form when you’re misunderstood, and the lasting impact of being called “stupid” or “an idiot.” She describes why journaling became a lifeline—helping her untangle the mental clutter, make sense of what she was feeling, and hold onto memories that otherwise slipped away. We also touch on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the idea of learning to live with painful emotions without letting them define you.

This conversation is part of our Letters to Our Younger Self author series—created to help women feel seen, to name what so many of us lived through, and to inspire others to reflect on their own story with more compassion.

Watch the video interview here: https://youtu.be/DSKkNXyr7OM

Learn more about FINDtheADHDgirls: https://findtheadhdgirls.org

#FINDtheADHDgirls #ftag #ADHDgirls #ADHDLife #ADHDPower #NeurodivergentStrength #KeepMovingForward #CelebrateYourWins #ADHDAwareness

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

In this episode of FINDtheADHDgirls, Cynthia Hammer talks with Lindsey—an ADHD advocate and school teacher—and her 12-year-old daughter, Arianna, about what early ADHD diagnosis can look like when it’s handled with support instead of shame.

They discuss twice-exceptional (2e) kids who are both gifted and have ADHD, the stigma schools still attach to 504 plans, and the accommodations that actually help—like quiet testing, extra time, seating supports, and body doubling. Lindsey also breaks down rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), dopamine “crashes” after exciting events, and why transitions can be so hard for ADHD kids. Arianna shares what it feels like to grow up understanding her brain, advocating for what she needs, and staying true to herself.

Learn more and get resources at www.FINDtheADHDgirls.org

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

In this episode of the FINDtheADHDgirls podcast, Cynthia Hammer speaks with Pippa Simou, a UK-based chartered coaching psychologist and contributor to the book Letters to My Young Self.

Pippa shares why she chose to write a letter to her younger self and what it was like growing up feeling “different” without understanding why. She reflects on masking, emotional sensitivity, over-efforting, and the long-term cost of trying to fit in before knowing she had ADHD and dyslexia.

The conversation also explores the power of supportive relationships, why early identification matters so deeply for girls, and how learning about her neurodivergent brain later in life allowed Pippa to finally flourish—academically, professionally, and emotionally.

This episode will resonate with parents, educators, clinicians, and adults who grew up undiagnosed and hard on themselves.

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

In this episode, Cynthia Hammer, founder of FINDtheADHDgirls, talks with Angelina Tilley, a mom who recognized the subtle signs of inattentive ADHD in her daughter and pushed for early diagnosis.

Angelina shares how her own late ADHD diagnosis gave her the tools to see the patterns in her child—meltdowns at home, emotional overwhelm, sensory sensitivities, and struggles with focus that weren’t disruptive in class but were life-altering at home.

Together, they explore why ADHD in girls is so often missed, how teachers and doctors can help, and why parental self-regulation and awareness are critical for raising a confident, supported child.

📌 Learn more at FINDtheADHDgirls.org

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

Why are so many smart, capable girls with ADHD struggling—and going unnoticed? In this episode, board-certified educational therapist Rachel Kapp breaks down how executive function challenges present in girls, why they're so often misinterpreted, and how educational therapy offers a path toward confidence, clarity, and independence. From masking and late diagnosis to supporting moms with ADHD, Rachel shares compassionate, practical insights every parent, educator, and clinician should hear.

Whether you're raising a neurodivergent daughter or navigating your own EF struggles, this conversation will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and seen.

📍 Learn more: www.kappedtherapy.com
📚 Get free tools: www.FINDtheADHDgirls.org/repository

#ExecutiveFunction #ADHDinGirls #GirlsWithADHD #EducationalTherapy #FINDtheADHDgirls #NeurodivergentSupport #ADHDAwareness #LateDiagnosis #ParentingADHD #NotLazy #MaskingADHD

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

What if your daughter seems social, happy, and successful—but still feels completely alone inside?

In this episode of the FIND the ADHD Girls podcast, Cynthia Hammer speaks with Dana Dzamic—ADHD coach, consultant, and mother—about the quiet pain of masking and loneliness in girls with ADHD. Dana explains how these challenges begin in early childhood, why they’re so often overlooked, and how masking becomes a lifelong habit that even diagnosis doesn’t always fix.

We talk about performance anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and the pressure to fit in at school, home, and work. Dana also shares what real inclusion should look like—and why celebrating difference is the key to helping neurodivergent girls thrive.

Whether you’re a parent, educator, or adult reflecting on your own experience, this conversation is one you won’t want to miss.

🎧 Read more from Dana at ADHDInsightHub.com

Explore free ADHD resources at FINDtheADHDgirls.org/repository

#FINDtheADHDgirls #DanaDzamic #ADHDGirls #MaskingAndLoneliness #UnmaskingADHD #ADHDAwareness #NeurodivergentGirls #PerformanceAnxiety #RejectionSensitivity #ADHDWomen

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

Why are so many girls with ADHD missed until after puberty? What do hormones have to do with it? In this episode, Professor J.J. Sandra Kooij — a pioneering psychiatrist and global ADHD researcher — breaks down how hormonal changes across a woman’s life can affect ADHD symptoms. From early puberty to perimenopause, she explains how estrogen impacts mood, focus, and long-term health. We also explore new findings on cardiovascular risk, mood disorders, and why adjusting the way we diagnose and treat women with ADHD is long overdue.

#ADHDInWomen #WomenWithADHD #HormonesAndADHD #EarlyDiagnosis #HeartHealth #ADHDAwareness #FINDtheADHDgirls #FTAG

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD

How do we teach emotional regulation to kids with ADHD—when so many of us as parents are still learning it ourselves?

In this rich and practical conversation, ADHD educator and life coach Dana Crews joins Cynthia Hammer to talk about what emotional regulation really looks like in daily life. From teaching kids to name and explore their emotions, to co-regulation strategies, realistic expectations, and making amends when things go wrong—this episode offers compassionate guidance for parents navigating big feelings (their child’s and their own).

Whether you're struggling with daily meltdowns or trying to break generational patterns, you'll walk away with tools that make sense and a reminder: you don’t have to be perfect—you just have to show up and keep learning.

🎧 Listen in for:

• Tools to help your child name and understand emotions
• Why co-regulation often works better than control
• How to create realistic expectations for ADHD maturity
• The importance of emotional repair and self-compassion

📍 Mentioned in the episode: https://SecondArrowCoaching.com

#FINDtheADHDgirls #ADHDAwareness #ParentingADHD #EmotionalRegulation #CoRegulation #SelfCompassion #MindfulParenting #NeurodivergentSupport #ADHDFamilies #ADHDLife

Find The ADHD Girls is a project of the Inattentive ADHD Coalition (www.iadhd.org)

The mission of this project is to give all girls who have ADHD
a fair start in life by getting them diagnosed by age 8.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE ADHD?

ADHD can look different in girls - meaning that often, they are missed for ADHD diagnosis.

Find out if your daughter has ADHD at findtheadhdgirls.org

Learn about inattentive ADHD at www.iadhd.org, the only website solely about inattentive ADHD