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  • Ep 262: Protecting Your Drive – Channeling Life Force

    Ep 262: Protecting Your Drive – Channeling Life Force
    Nov 6 2025
    We have a finite reserve of drive, otherwise known as libido. Libido is often used to refer to sexual desire but it also refers to a psychological drive – an energy for life satisfaction. In this episode I am referring to your drive and your ibido as psychic energy in general. This is about protecting your source of drive: channeling it toward that which you truly desire on a deep, personal level. Often in life, our drive gets fractured or frustrated by the needs of others or by filling the void with things like substances. I invite you to reflect on what’s happening in your life and where your libido is currently going. It needs to be channeled toward that which is most important to you. We must create a strong and consistent “container” or safe space for ourselves to bring forth any goal. Whatever condition in your life is stealing you away from a goal – I encourage you to be active in that fight even if it is unpleasant. That is a step in the process of change. Being in the struggle is how we move planets in our life. The books I mention in the episode are here: https://amzn.to/3XkmC17 https://amzn.to/43eEyOg And this is the dreamwork book: https://amzn.to/3Xg3i5a Support our sponsors: Chewy: chewpanions.chewy.com/YAYWITHME to get $20 off your first order.Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job creditBetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month of therapy Ritual: ritual.com/helpmebeme for 25% your first month TruDiagnostic: TruDiagnostic.com and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off your entire order or subscriptionBubs Naturals: BubsNaturals.com and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 min
  • Ep 261: Guilty Blocks: Finding the way forward

    Ep 261: Guilty Blocks: Finding the way forward
    Oct 25 2025
    Sometimes there is a path forward that we have not leveraged because we spin out in guilty ruminations and projections. You may want to get out of a relationship or change a condition in your life, but you defer to another person’s thoughts as you imagine them in your own mind. We often block ourselves from aligning with a truth with self-limiting beliefs and guilt because for codependents guilt is INTENSE. This is about ways that codependency can show up: allowing the feelings of others to block us from what we want. This is aimed at reflection and a chance to look inward. I wanted to say if you’re in a place like this – you feel stuck and it feels like it’s all on this other person, that is an opportunity to step back, tune in, and practice letting go. Sending love… The book I mention is this lovely read: https://amzn.to/4oB0o6I Sponsors: Factor: FactorMeals.com/HELPMEBEME50OFF and use code HELPMEBEME50OFF to get 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year.BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month of therapy Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job creditHeadspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 daysRitual: ritual.com/helpmebeme for 25% your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    42 min
  • Ep 260: Cultivating a Dream - Reclaiming a lost self

    Ep 260: Cultivating a Dream - Reclaiming a lost self
    Oct 8 2025
    Or having enough of yourself to channel toward that which you are gifted to bring into this world. This is for those cultivating a creative dream who are struggling to get into creative flow. This episode has tools for jumpstarting a sense of inner drive that comes from knowing oneself. Where you might be right now: energetically “occupied.” Relationships take up a lot of time and remove our mental ability to think autonomously. As do jobs. In general, if we are unable to access flow it’s a sign we are spiritually taxed. Sometimes that is because life has made you neglect that part of yourself. Sometimes your creative muscles are just out of use. And other times it’s because someone hurt you and it has given you performance anxiety. Protect your energy - it is precious, the most finite resource you have. To access that place of flow and drive, we need safety and private psychic space. What I will go into in this episode is how to start to build up a routine and get moving toward your creative goal. Sponsors: Chewy: chewpanions.chewy.com/YAYWITHME to save $20 off your first order Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Headspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    55 min
  • Ep 259: On Losing – Pivoting When You Feel Less-Than

    Ep 259: On Losing – Pivoting When You Feel Less-Than
    Sep 26 2025
    Losing, feeling low, less-than, not winning at something. This is for a perspective flip: seeing every place as exactly where you need to be, at a given time. We all have seasons in our life and cycles we move through. Cycles of productivity, growth, success, and then there is also resetting – where we are brought into a new, full understanding of reality. This is important and though painful, it also serves a role in your life: think of it as the winter of your cycle. A Seneca quote that feels appropriate: “No man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity.” Friction is how we move into new levels and capacities for joy and depth. When we return to the barren state, we check in with self and with life: where am I and where should I be going? There is new information to be brought in and it brings about the reshaping of self. This episode has some tools to look at your loss or your feeling of lowness as a winter opportunity for inquiry and change. This can be a moment of truth, acceptance, reconciliation. If something has recently hit you – do not panic, do not reject it, but allow the change to wash over you. Sending love… Sponsors: AquaTru.com - use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off any AquaTru purifier Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair.com Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days TruDiagnostic.com and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off your entire order or subscription betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    34 min
  • Ep 258: Hello Soul: Designing your life around meaning and purpose

    Ep 258: Hello Soul: Designing your life around meaning and purpose
    Sep 12 2025
    This episode is really about living a life of meaning and being intentional in that approach to today. Tools for focusing your energy on on vibrating toward good – whatever that looks like for YOU, right now. What do you live for? Is your life designed around this thing? I don’t mean living for a job or a mission, necessarily. I also mean things like “hiking with my dog” or “mountain biking.” This episode is about returning to yourself, coming back to who you are through deliberate efforts. We are constantly recalibrating. I read a quote recently by E.L. Doctoro about writing a novel. “Writing is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.' Self-work and healing is also like driving a car at night. You can make the whole trip that way, you don’t need to see it all at once. Just focus on being deliberate and intentional in how you approach today – only today, right now. We return to ourselves when we create conditions that remind us of our origins. The book I mention is here: https://amzn.to/4mcnBKM Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shipping Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair.com Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days TruDiagnostic.com and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off your entire order or subscription Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    44 min
  • Ep 257: Love Bombing – What it is, why it happens

    Ep 257: Love Bombing – What it is, why it happens
    Aug 29 2025
    What is love bombing? It’s a term used to describe the initial phase of a relationship when someone is trying to “seal the deal” with intoxicating affection. The person connects quick and hard, often validating you in ways you have craved your whole life; saying all the things you want to hear, treating you like you have dreamed of being treated. They make you feel seen and adored, which is why it’s so confusing and painful when it ends. A lot of people ask me, what happened to that person? Was it not real? It was real for you in your personal experience – however the person who enacted it was not portraying their true self. A person like this usually collects fans. They collect adorers, and they get off on the feeling of control. So I describe it often as a person with a different kind of brain. More on this plus some tools in this episode. This is for one person in particular but also meant for anyone who has fallen for a person who immediately disposed of you after you thought they were the one. And if you’ve been love-bombed and then deeply wounded, I send you much love. Hang in there. xox Support this week’s sponsors! LolaBlankets.com - use code HELPMEBEME for 35% off AquaTru.com - use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off any AquaTru purifier Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair.com Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days TruDiagnostic.com and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off your entire order or subscription Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    43 min
  • Ep 256: Caregiver Relationships: Setting Healthy Boundaries

    Ep 256: Caregiver Relationships: Setting Healthy Boundaries
    Aug 12 2025
    Are you being loving or are you enabling someone to remain dysfunctional? How do you tell? If you are a person who finds you are enraged and triggered by a relationship in your life and you feel powerless, this episode is about imbalanced relationships where one person is overactive and another person is underactive and how that “sick system” self-perpetuates despite everyone having good intentions. If you are unsure whether or not you are codependent, ask yourself – do you obsess about the way another person lives their life and does it make you miserable? Are you finding yourself being put in compromising situations because of that person? This episode might be a helpful starting point. Also here are a few must-reads! Codependent No More https://amzn.to/4ooLFfW Courage to Change https://amzn.to/3HgpAzC The Dance of Anger https://amzn.to/45kZlQj Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shipping BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month of therapy Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 2 min
  • Ep 255: Seeing Success as Small: a path to growth

    Ep 255: Seeing Success as Small: a path to growth
    Jul 31 2025
    The alt name for this episode was “Ask More of Yourself” but that felt kind of agro. A lot of success in life happens in tiny micro changes. This episode is to help you curate the mindset of “I got this” as you move through your day. This is about building agency and momentum via seeing success as something small. Keeping a perspective of our own ability, sense of agency, and curating a feeling of “I got this” as we move through challenging times or new, fear-inducing territory. Stick around for the tools in this one! This has tips for staying in the channel of focus on what you’re doing right. Appreciating life in the exertion periods and giving yourself an awareness snap of, “Oh, wow, it’s actually not so hard, and I can do this” We can get that snap of clarity when we can look at a loved one from a generation past or the long hours demanded of an Olympic athlete. That concept of empowered endurance and self-motivation is a reset for our day to day toils. Sending love… you are so much stronger than you think, right now. Support this week’s sponsors!Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job creditWayfair: Wayfair.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    47 min