In this deeply insightful episode of The Life Lived Better Podcast, Joseph and Paula unpack two powerful — and often misunderstood — relationship dynamics: codependency and counterdependency. Though they seem like opposites, both are rooted in the same place — fear, unmet attachment needs, and a longing for safety and connection.

In this episode, the hosts explore:

• Where codependent and counterdependent patterns come from.

• How they show up in everyday relationships — from family to friendships to romance.

• What happens when these two dynamics collide (spoiler: it’s common and messy).

• How to begin healing and move toward healthy interdependence.

You’ll learn how awareness, boundaries, self-compassion, and vulnerability pave the way for genuine connection — without losing yourself in the process.

Whether you recognize yourself as someone who clings or someone who pulls away, this episode isn’t about judgment — it’s about understanding. It’s about learning new ways to relate that feel secure, balanced, and authentic.

Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources for this episode and topic:

• Mental Health America
• Co‑Dependents Anonymous (CoDA)
• “What Is Codependency? 20 Signs & Symptoms” PositivePsychology.com
• Free worksheets and tools Universal Coach Institute
• Codependency Library Live Well with Sharon Martin
  

Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,

In this episode, we are talking Resilience.

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared in this, and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.

If you have a topic, you would like us to address in a future Mental Health Moment, let us know.

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Join Joseph and Paula for another episode of a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors. In this episode they take on a variety of questions, including asking our co-hosts if they have ever used substances, what they had to do to become counselors, if counselors see counselors, and how to get over a breakup.

Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources mentioned on the episode:

Episode 113: Failing Relationships

Episode 114: After the Relationship Ends

Episode 137: Romantic Relationships, Part 1

Episode 138: Romantic Relationships, Part 2

Thank you for listening to another Mental Health Moment, from the Life Lived Better podcast, where we quickly provide insight into issues that affect most of us,

Part 2

In this episode Joseph and Paula explore the difference between healthy and unhealthy romantic relationships. From communication styles and trust to red flags and boundaries, we break down what helps love thrive and what can slowly erode it. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or reflecting on past experiences, this conversation will give you practical insights to better understand what healthy love looks like—and how to spot when things may be turning unhealthy.

Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer now or during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.

Please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing our show with others. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Previous Episodes Mentioned:

Episode 125: The Power of Boundaries

Episode 20: The 5 Love Languages

Resources used to create this episode:

Harvard-trained couples therapists married nearly 50 years: 5 things people in happy, successful relationships don't do

How to Prepare Yourself for a Healthy Relationship: 12 Key Steps

Marriage.com

In this episode, we finish up our conversation with Collier Landry. We were privileged to have Collier Landry join us on the podcast. You might know Collier from the documentary, originally aired on ID TV and now on Prime, called A Murder in Mansfield. Collier was the main subject of that documentary. At 11-years old, Collier was witness to the murder of his mother and at 12 he testified for the defense against his father. His father, Dr. Jack Boyle was convicted and sentenced to life in prison.

Collier is a cinematographer and filmmaker. His work is featured The NY Times, Variety, Esquire, USA Today, The Daily Mail, and The NY Post. He has been a TEDx Speaker and a guest on The Dr. Phil Show. Collier has a podcast called Moving Past Murder, which you can find on the major platforms, and you can watch it live on YouTube.

Visit Collier's ⁠website⁠, find information about his podcast, ⁠Moving Past Murder⁠, and access his Ted Talk, ⁠What Happens When the answers we seek are not what we find⁠ or go to his ⁠YouTube Channel⁠. Collier can be found on most social media platforms, like ⁠Twitter⁠, ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Tik Tok⁠.

Please Note: The content and language in this episode is for adults. Please use discretion when listening.

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠.

Paula’s Blog is often updated with information from the show. You can find it at ⁠PaulaHellerGarland.BlogSpot.com⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

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We were privileged to have Collier Landry join us on the podcast. You might know Collier from the documentary, originally aired on ID TV and now on Prime, called A Murder in Mansfield. Collier was the main subject of that documentary. At 11-years old, Collier was witness to the murder of his mother and at 12 he testified for the defense against his father. His father, Dr. Jack Boyle was convicted and sentenced to life in prison.

Collier is a cinematographer and filmmaker. His work is featured The NY Times, Variety, Esquire, USA Today, The Daily Mail, and The NY Post. He has been a TEDx Speaker and a guest on The Dr. Phil Show. Collier has a podcast called Moving Past Murder, which you can find on the major platforms, and you can watch it live on YouTube.

Visit Collier's ⁠website⁠, find information about his podcast, ⁠Moving Past Murder⁠, and access his Ted Talk, ⁠What Happens When the answers we seek are not what we find⁠ or go to his ⁠YouTube Channel⁠. Collier can be found on most social media platforms, like ⁠Twitter⁠, ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Tik Tok⁠.

Please Note: The content and language in this episode is for adults. Please use discretion when listening.

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠.

Paula’s Blog is often updated with information from the show. You can find it at ⁠PaulaHellerGarland.BlogSpot.com⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

#lifelivedbetter #counseling #therapy #podcast #love #education #lifestyle #wellness #psychology #love #education #drphil #drphilshow #murder #murderinmansfield #collierlandry #TEDx #NYTimes #Variety #esquire #USAToday #TheDailyMail #nypost #movingpastmurder #trauma #recovery #grief #advocacy #survivor