Are you the one chasing closeness… or the one hiding in the bathroom for “just five more minutes”?

In today’s episode, I break down one of the most common, and most misunderstood relationship dynamics: the pursuer–distancer pattern. Whether it's about sex, money, conflict, or parenting, many couples find themselves stuck in this painful loop of one partner reaching while the other retreats.

I dive into where these patterns come from, how attachment plays a role, why both partners actually want the same things (connection, safety, significance), and how this cycle quietly kills eroticism and intimacy. You’ll learn exactly what each style needs, what helps, and what absolutely doesn’t, and how to shift the pattern without blame.

If you’ve ever felt “rejected,” “pressured,” “suffocated,” or “abandoned,” this episode will help you understand what's really happening underneath the surface… and how to move toward each other differently.

Listen in to turn conflict into clarity, distance into desire, and pursuit into genuine connection. Subscribe now so you are first to know about new episodes. This also helps Dr. Jenn get recommended to others.

✨ If you keep finding yourself chasing connection… or pulling away the moment things feel too close, you're not broken — you’re running a pattern. My course is designed to help you understand these pursuer–distancer dynamics, regulate your nervous system, and create connection without pressure or shutdown. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs clearly, stay grounded during conflict, and build the kind of intimacy that feels safe, spacious, and genuinely mutual.Ready to break the cycle and relate from your most secure, empowered self? ⁠

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What if better sex isn’t about doing more, but about softening, slowing down, and coming home to yourself?

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy is joined by trauma-informed somatic practitioner and psychedelic microdosing guide Leslie Draffin to explore how intentional plant medicine can open new pathways to healing and pleasure.

From releasing shame to deepening intimacy, they dive into how microdosing and mindful embodiment practices like breathwork can reconnect you with your body and your desire. This isn’t about trippy escapism or quick fixes; it’s about sacred, slow healing.

✨ Tune in and discover how microdosing might just become your next intimacy practice.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, caught in old cycles of shame, or unsure how to access real pleasure—you’re not alone. My new ⁠self-paced course⁠ is designed to help you slow down, soften, and reconnect with yourself from the inside out. Through guided practices, reflection, and integration tools, you’ll learn how to release the stories that keep you stuck and rediscover pleasure as your natural state. It’s a private, flexible journey of healing—no quick fixes, just intentional steps toward a more embodied, empowered you.

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Reach Leslie at:

IG: @lesliedraffin

Tiktok: @thewombmystic

www.lesliedraffin.com

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Think desire should just happen? Think again. 🔥
In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy unpacks the myth of spontaneous desire—that Hollywood fantasy where passion strikes out of nowhere. In real life, desire often builds slowly, through connection, safety, and intention.

If you’ve ever wondered, “What’s wrong with me?” for not feeling instantly turned on, this episode is for you. You’re not broken—you just haven’t learned how to turn yourself on yet. Tune in to discover how to rekindle your erotic energy from the inside out.

✨ If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire or found yourself over-giving in relationships, my course will help you shift from depletion to deep self-connection. Learn to awaken your sensual energy, hold strong boundaries, and feel fully alive in your body again. Buy Now!

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What if healing your relationships isn’t about changing your partner, but reclaiming the parts of yourself you’ve disowned?

Dr. Jenn Kennedy sits down with therapist and author Dené Logan to explore how masculine and feminine energies shape our relationships, what it means to be out of balance, and how to move from wounded dynamics into sovereign love.

They dive into letting go of control, leading with curiosity, and holding love with open hands instead of grasping for certainty. Dené shares how vulnerability softens defensiveness, why “What can I give?” changes everything, and how trusting life (instead of trying to control it) transforms connection.

🎧 Tune in for a conversation on sacred union, sovereignty, and loving from your center.

Reach Dené at:

⁠denelogan.com⁠

Ig: @dene.logan

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns of pushing, pleasing, or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. My new course⁠ is designed to help you recognize these wounded dynamics and shift into your most powerful, integrated self. You’ll learn how to set boundaries with clarity, nurture without depletion, and create deeper, healthier connections. This is a private, flexible way to heal old patterns and step into strength — completely on your own terms. ⁠⁠

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We think we know why we have sex — for love, pleasure, or connection. But the truth is often much more complicated. In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy pulls back the covers on the real reasons humans get it on — from seeking closeness to conflict avoidance, ego boosts to revenge — and explores how understanding your why can transform the way you experience intimacy.

This isn’t just about sex. It’s about what drives us during our most intimate moments with one another. Tune in and discover what really motivates your desire.

If you’ve ever wondered why you want sex—or why sometimes you don’t—you’re not alone. My ⁠⁠course⁠⁠ is designed to help you understand your deeper motivations, heal old patterns, and connect with desire in a more conscious way. Through guided practices and reflection tools, you’ll uncover the roots of your turn-ons, turn-offs, and emotional needs—so intimacy starts to feel aligned, not confusing.

It’s a private, flexible journey of self-discovery that helps you understand yourself before trying to change anything.⁠

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Forget everything you’ve been told about aging and sex. In this episode, Dr. Jenn talks to Dr. Nicole Marcione—a gerontologist and professional dominatrix—to dismantle old myths and open up bold new pathways to pleasure, power, and confidence. From an unforgettable field trip to a dungeon to surprising parallels between kink dynamics and the way many of us move through daily life, this conversation will change the way you think about desire at every age.

Tune in to expand your ideas of what is possible and pleasurable!

Reach Dr. Nicole at:

https://www.integrativeaging.com/

https://www.integrativeaging.com/mini-workbook

https://www.integrativeaging.com/InfluenceDomme

https://www.instagram.com/drnicolemarcione/

If you’ve ever felt like age, stress, or old stories about sex have dimmed your spark, you’re not alone.

My new self-paced course⁠⁠ is designed to help you rediscover your power, confidence, and pleasure at any stage of life. Whether you’re partnered or solo, you’ll learn what your body and brain need to feel turned on. This is a private, flexible way to explore desire, release obstacles, and reconnect with your most vibrant, sexual self — completely on your own terms. ⁠⁠⁠

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Welcome to Season 4! 💥

In this solo episode Dr. Jenn dives into one of her core, guiding ideas: “I’m with you." She notes , "When couples come to me for sex therapy, they often come in saying they want more sex—they want the desire, attention, or physical gratification they get from the act. But more often than not, what they truly want is intimacy. "

Communicating I'm with you offers a felt sense of belonging, support, witnessing and nonjudgmental love. More and more couples are feeling disconnected—and in this episode, Dr. Jenn addresses how to find our way back together. She shares personal stories, real-life struggles, recent studies, and practical tools to help you and your partner re-establish or, perhaps, experience connection, intimacy, and presence for the first time.

Let’s figure this out together. 💜

If you and your partner have ever felt that spark fade or struggled to stay connected, you’re not alone.

My new self-paced course⁠⁠⁠ is designed to help you understand what your body — and brain — really need to feel desire and stay present in intimacy. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, this private, flexible program gives you the tools to clear obstacles, reignite passion, and truly reconnect.

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Curious about what really happens to your sex life during perimenopause and beyond?

In this episode, I sit down with endocrinologist Dr. Gillian Goddard to unpack what’s going on inside your body — from hormones to blood flow, from estrogen to testosterone, and how it all impacts desire, arousal, and pleasure. We talk about vaginal atrophy (yes, it’s a thing), pelvic health, and the real changes that happen as you move through this stage of life.

Dr. Goddard breaks down the science in a way that feels clear and approachable, while also naming the emotional and relational side of these changes. We explore not just what’s happening physically, but also how to advocate for your sexual health, navigate conversations with your partner or doctor, and keep pleasure at the center of your experience—even when your body feels different than it used to.

Whether you’re approaching menopause, in the thick of it, or just want to understand your body better, this grounded, insightful conversation will help you feel informed, empowered, and a whole lot less alone.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your pleasure or unsure how to unlock your desire, you’re not alone.My new ⁠⁠self-paced course⁠⁠ is here to help you understand what your body — and brain — actually need to feel turned on. Whether you’re partnered or solo, this is a private, flexible way to explore desire, clear obstacles, and reconnect with your sexual self — on your own terms.

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Reach Dr. Gillian at:

Instagram: @gillianmgoddard

https://savvypatient.substack.com/

https://parentdata.org/keep-sex-drive-up-during-menopause/ https://parentdata.org/testosterone-treatment-perimenopause/

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