Every ten episodes we delve into uncharted territory and invite to you to learn more about who Vanessa and Tonia are.Do we always fight the system? Nah. Are we always incredibly serious? Nope. Do we always need to right wrong? Ok that one is a for sure yes but you get it. We are human. Existing takes up space in all ways and we share some silly and insightful things about ourselves through compassionate and intimate connection on this second interview episode of QCP.

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Why do I feel this way if It’s healthy? What does “healthy” even mean? No two bodies are alike and neither are their needs. Emotionally, physically ad psychologically we all thrive differently from on another and that’s fascinating! Come and find out what makes food healthy or unhealthy to each of us and how they relate directly to our upbringing both literally and metaphorically. Many of us grew up this way so let’s talk and join the conversation.

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40-something women know our value and our worth - but in case you don't you have come to the right podcast. Today we talk about how we fill our own cups and what our supporting cast looks like when things are calm and when life is chaos. The basis of the conversation really comes down to us setting ourselves up for as much success as possible. Being clear about how our needs can be met means being clear about what your needs are in the first place. Join us for the conversation!

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Being certain of ourselves stems from a place of knowing exactly who we are. When we are sure footed it is because we have established and live by our core values. On today's episode of Quality Coffee Podcast we check in with our core values and discuss how we maintain alignment within our day to day lives, our working environment and our relationships with ourselves, our friends, our family and our husbands. If you don't know what your core values are you'll certainly be motivated to find out after our quality conversation starter.

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Today's discussion stems from some of the shame we experienced as children unable to talk to our parents about specific topics. Often we were dismissed or punished for merely growing up and wondering about the world. Our world.

We know now as adults much of this reaction comes from a place of discomfort and projection so we are doing the work of starting conversations about some of those confusing times to avoid the same mistakes with the next generation of kids.

Join us for a tough talk about allowing children the safe space to experience their world by preparing ourselves for the talks we wish our parents were prepared for when we were seeking information and guidance.

One of the reasons we communicate so well is because we offer intricately different viewpoints of the world. And although we do life a bit differently, we are in-step with one another in many shared goals and some important core values.

We are sisters-in-law walking through this life together as best friends; a united front as family for each other and for Tonia’s daughters, who of course are Vanessa’s nieces.

Our different perspectives help to foster important conversations and help our community and audience of 40-something women start their own conversations pertaining to the few important topics we discussed today. How do we impact the people around us? What ways can we better support ourselves, our women friends and the next generations of women?
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The definition of mental load for us is the anticipation of everyone else’s needs and making sure everything is taken care of so your household runs smoothly. The effort and execution it takes for a woman to do that is far more than meets the eye, even if you’re really paying attention.
It’s the size of a massive sombrero - breaking our backs and putting us off balance. Have you seen that reel going around on social media?
How many times has your partner asked you what they need to get from the grocery store and if you mention more than two things they ask for a list. Make your own damn list! You have your phone in your hands, send yourself a text with the items I’m giving you while I’m probably doing three things at once on my own to do list. Ladies, do you feel this way? We are emotionally and mentally exhausted at the end of the day from constantly catching and keeping up with the joneses.

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From the real-time discovery that we were triggering each other with our own duties in the home (a light-hearted joke, of course), we realize a lot of what women should be doing is what makes the most sense for her own family.

Traditional roles aren’t functional in our day and more women are out shattering glass ceilings, providing for their families alongside their partners. Many women are even the bread-winners!

Tonia discusses the harshness of what was expected of her as a daughter and the extreme punishments handed down to her when she didn’t meet her now-estranged mother’s unrealistic expectations. One of the punishments she talks about is a 4pm curfew for about long length of time during her high school years before finally moving out on her own at 17.

Vanessa discusses how traditional roles feel outdated for us and yet we strongly feel it’s none of our business how another family runs their household or how a woman chooses to live her life.

No one should have any expectations of how a grown woman lives her life except for herself.