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Have you ever told yourself, “This time will be different” only to slip back into old patterns? Maybe you swore you’d rest more, stop people-pleasing, or set firmer boundaries… but life got messy, and you broke your own promise. And then came the shame: “See? I can’t even trust myself.”

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, explores how to rebuild self-trust, even after years of self-abandonment.

Self-trust doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from repair. From small, repeated acts of self-respect that tell your nervous system: I can count on me.

✨ In this conversation you’ll discover:

• Why self-trust is built in the body, not just the mind
• How survival mode and people-pleasing make promises hard to keep
• Why shame keeps you stuck and how compassion breaks the cycle
• A grounding practice to begin reconnecting with yourself today

Because you’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re worthy of trust, even from yourself.

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Next week: The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat).

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Are you feeling constantly overwhelmed, even when your day looks “normal” on paper? Do you find yourself snapping at the people you love, forgetting simple things, or feeling like you’re never truly rested, no matter how much sleep you get?

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, unpacks the invisible mental and emotional load so many high-functioning women are silently carrying. From emotional labour and executive dysfunction to survival mode conditioning and nervous system dysregulation, this episode dives deep into why you're exhausted... and what to do about it.

You’ll hear science-backed insight, deeply compassionate truths, and a guided nervous system reset that will help you come home to yourself, gently and powerfully.

If you’re constantly holding it all together for everyone else, this episode is your permission slip to finally put something down.

🎧 In this episode:

• What the “invisible load” really is (and why it’s not all in your head)
• Why executive dysfunction and emotional labour are not personality flaws
• The hidden cost of being the “capable one” in every room
• How survival mode rewires your brain and body, and how to unlearn it
• A guided grounding moment to help regulate your nervous system in real time
• One simple practice to begin reclaiming your energy, your voice, and your joy

✨ Plus: A sneak peek at next week’s episode, “Trusting Yourself Again: Even After You’ve Broken Your Own Promises”

If this episode resonates, be sure to subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review, it helps us get this healing work to more women who need it.

💛 Ready to go deeper? Join Clare inside Blooming Happya, the nervous system-based coaching program designed to help you go from barely coping to boldly living.

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Boundaries That Don’t Backfire: Protecting Yourself With Heart

Have you ever set a boundary, only to feel guilty, misunderstood, or like you caused more conflict than peace?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, explores why boundaries often backfire, and how to create ones that protect your energy without pushing love away.

Boundaries aren’t walls, ultimatums, or punishments. They’re living, breathing choices that evolve with you. Sometimes they mean saying “not right now,” sometimes they mean opening more space for connection. When led with heart, boundaries can become a source of safety, clarity, and self-trust, not fear.

🎧 Listen in and discover:

• Why boundaries feel so hard for women wired for care and survival mode
• The difference between flexible boundaries and being exploited
• How to protect your peace while staying open to love and support
• A guided grounding moment to help you embody your boundaries with calm

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Next week: Trusting Yourself Again: Even After You’ve Broken Your Own Promises.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what it really means to break free from chronic survival mode and begin building a life that supports nervous system safety, emotional regulation, and true thriving.

If you’ve ever felt constantly on edge, emotionally flat, burned out, or stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you name it, understand it, and start changing it. Clare breaks down the science behind stress responses, explains how survival mode gets wired into the nervous system, and guides you through practical, trauma-informed ways to begin unlearning the patterns that no longer serve you.

You’ll learn:

• How to recognise survival mode in everyday behaviours
• What sympathetic and dorsal vagal states actually feel like
• Why rest often doesn’t feel restful
• How neuroplasticity supports healing
• What it looks like to choose regulation over reaction in real time

This is not about mindset hacks or quick fixes. It’s about coming home to yourself in a way that feels sustainable, embodied, and safe.

Whether you’re deep in your healing journey or just beginning to wonder if “coping” is all there is, this episode offers the clarity, language, and compassion you’ve been searching for.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone you love and explore Clare’s next-level support inside Blooming Happya or her 1:1 spaces.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

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Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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Are you the strong one? The dependable one? The one who’s always holding it all together… even when you’re falling apart inside?

This episode is for the women who do it all and feel like they’ve lost themselves in the process.

Trauma-informed coach Clare unpacks the emotional weight of being everything to everyone, the silent burnout of emotional labour, and why your nervous system is crying out for boundaries, not burnout.

Expect truth, science, soul, and radical permission to stop abandoning yourself. You’ll learn:

• Why “pushing through” keeps you stuck in survival mode
• The neuroscience behind burnout and boundary collapse
• How emotional labour rewires your brain (and how to undo it)
• What interoception is and why it’s the missing link in your healing
• How to begin reclaiming your needs, your energy, and your self-worth

You don’t have to be everything to everyone.
You’re allowed to be you.

🌸 Tune in and take the first breath back to yourself.

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Have you ever felt like your trauma has become your whole identity? Like the pain, the grief, the chaos it’s all shaped who you are so deeply that you can’t remember who you were before it?

In this deeply affirming episode, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, explores how trauma shapes, but does not define us. We dive into the misunderstood psychology of post-traumatic growth, why healing isn’t a straight line, and how you can begin to gently reclaim your identity, purpose, and future.

You’ll learn:

• Why trauma isn't the event, but the impact
• How identity becomes entangled with survival
• What post-traumatic growth (PTG) really looks like (and why it matters)
• How to rewrite the story you tell yourself with compassion, truth, and choice
• What to do when you're scared to change (or afraid you're not allowed to)

This episode is your permission slip to grow. To evolve. To hope again without bypassing the pain. It’s a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re becoming. And you are allowed to step into the next version of you, powerful, present, and free.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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You’re Allowed to Change: Letting Go of Old Versions of You

Why does growth feel so uncomfortable, even when we want it? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist Clare Deacon explores the emotional weight of personal evolution, the grief of outgrowing old identities, and how to move forward without guilt.

Whether you're navigating change by choice or because life has forced your hand, like becoming an empty nester, facing a career pivot, or reevaluating your relationship roles, this episode will help you understand why fear shows up, why resistance is natural, and why you're not broken for struggling with transition.

You’ll learn:

• Why growth can feel like grief (and why that’s normal)
• How trauma conditioning makes change feel unsafe
• What to do when people around you don’t understand your evolution
• How to honour past versions of yourself without staying stuck
• Practical steps to soften into your next chapter with compassion

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know who I am anymore,” or worried that healing might mean leaving people behind this conversation is for you.

You are not here to stay the same. You’re here to become.
Let this be your permission slip to grow, in your time, in your way.

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Is your healing journey making you feel like you're doing it wrong? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, debunks the five most damaging myths about trauma recovery that are keeping so many of us stuck, overwhelmed, and full of shame.

If you’ve ever felt like you should be over it by now, like getting triggered means you’ve failed, or that your trauma doesn’t “count”, this is the episode you need. Clare gently walks you through why healing isn’t linear, why time alone doesn’t heal all wounds, and how to reframe setbacks as part of the process instead of evidence that you’re broken.

Learn how to approach your recovery with more compassion, clarity, and self-trust. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or finding yourself spiralling again, you’ll leave this episode with practical insights, emotional validation, and hope that you can keep going, one imperfect, powerful step at a time.

✨ In this episode:

• Why trauma recovery doesn’t follow a straight path
• The truth about triggers, setbacks, and integration
• How to start healing even if you haven’t hit rock bottom
• What to do when time hasn’t “fixed” the pain
• Clare’s personal stories of grief, shame, and real-life recovery

This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone and you’re not doing it wrong.

🎧 Subscribe now and join the Happya community of women healing in real time, with real tools, and real talk.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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