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Why does imposter syndrome feel so much stronger for women who’ve lived through trauma, loss, chronic stress, or years of performing roles that weren’t truly theirs?

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon reveals the truth most people never talk about: imposter syndrome isn’t a confidence problem, it’s a safety problem.

You’ll learn:

• How trauma rewires your nervous system and identity
• Why belonging wounds make success feel unsafe
• Why stepping into visibility triggers panic, fear, or self-doubt
• How childhood roles like “the helper,” “the strong one,” or “the peacekeeper” shape adult imposter patterns
• Why achievements don’t land in your body (and feel like accidents)
• The link between survival mode and feeling like you’re “acting” your way through life
• Three gentle steps to rebuild safety, self-trust, and internal permission to take up space

Clare shares deeply personal reflections, client stories, and trauma-informed science to help you understand why you feel like a fraud even when you’re capable, qualified, and rebuilding your life courageously.

💛 If you’ve ever whispered, “Who am I to be doing this?” this episode will help you see yourself more clearly: not as an imposter, but as a survivor who is rising.

Free Resources Mentioned:
🌿 The Self Reflection Map → https://happyacoach.com/self

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➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
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Why does something as simple as saying “no” feel so unbearably hard? Why does guilt creep in even when you know you're doing what’s right for you?

In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon breaks down the nervous system science and emotional truth behind guilt after boundaries and why that guilt doesn’t mean you’re wrong. It means you’re healing.

You’ll learn:

• Why guilt isn’t a moral compass, it’s a trauma-informed response
• How your early conditioning around “being good” shapes your reactions now
• The real reason boundaries feel emotionally loaded
• What a “boundary hangover” is and how to move through it with compassion
• Somatic signals your body sends when you abandon yourself
• Why Boundaries Reset isn’t about learning what to say — it’s about building internal permission to say it

This episode is for the women learning to choose themselves — not selfishly, but sacredly.

🔗 Mentioned:

Free guide: Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No → happyacoach.com/boundaries

Explore boundaries resources → happyacoach.com/explore/boundaries

Complimentary chat with Clare → happyacoach.com/chat

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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Do you feel like you live in your head and your heart, all the time?

That your thoughts won’t switch off, and your emotions feel louder than everyone else’s?

This episode is for the woman who feels like she’s spiralling. Who replays conversations, second-guesses herself, and can’t quite land. The one who’s told she’s “too sensitive” but knows deep down, she’s simply overwhelmed.

In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya unpacks the real reason so many women are stuck in patterns of overthinking and overfeeling.

You’ll learn:

· Why your nervous system clings to spirals (and how trauma trains your brain to over-prepare)

· The neuroscience behind emotional flooding and hypervigilance

· Practical nervous system tools to regulate thought and feeling

· How to interrupt spirals gently, not with logic, but with presence

· A nurturing, body-based practice to shift from chaos to calm

· How to stop making your spirals mean something about your worth

This isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about understanding what your system needs and giving it safety, not shame.

Clare shares powerful clinical insights, a client story, and gentle reflections that meet you where you are, whether you’re mid-spiral, emotionally overstimulated, or simply exhausted from carrying too much.

You are not too much.

You are just carrying too much.

And you don’t have to carry it alone.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to gently return to clarity, calm, and connection, without abandoning your depth or sensitivity.

👉 Feeling overwhelmed daily? Reach out via Instagram or the website, Clare will signpost you to the right support for where you are now.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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Why can’t I relax, even when I finally have the time?
If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon unpacks why rest can feel unsafe when you’re stuck in survival mode, and what your nervous system is really trying to protect you from.

We explore the difference between hyperarousal (fight-or-flight) and hypoarousal (freeze and shutdown), why traditional self-care tools often fall short, and how to begin building safety in the body — even if you’ve spent years feeling “on” all the time.

You’ll learn:

• Why your nervous system resists stillness and how to respond with compassion
• The role of the vagus nerve and why “just relax” doesn’t work
• Gentle regulation tools you can use today (no apps, no pressure)
• How to work with your body, not against it, for real emotional healing
• A simple reflection to help you reconnect to presence, even in the chaos

This episode is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself for being burnt out and start learning how to feel safe enough to soften.

If you’re tired of surviving and ready to feel more grounded in your own skin, this episode is for you.

👉 Need personalised support? Message Clare via Instagram or through the website and she’ll help guide you to the right next step.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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You’re not the same after what you’ve lived through, but what if that’s not a setback? What if it’s the beginning of becoming?

In this transformative episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya, explores the powerful concept of Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) and why healing isn’t about going back to who you were, but about rising differently.

Whether your life was disrupted by grief, burnout, a relationship breakdown, a career shift, or something that doesn’t “seem big enough” to name as trauma, if you’ve felt changed by it, this episode is for you.

We cover:

• What post-traumatic growth really is and how it’s different from toxic positivity
• How trauma (big or small) reshapes your identity and your nervous system
• The signs you may already be in a phase of growth and don’t even realise it
• The difference between PTG and learned helplessness
• What makes PTG possible and the practical, emotional shifts to look for
• A grounding practice and reflection prompt to help you anchor into the growth already happening in you

Clare shares openly about how the death of her husband shifted everything, not only her grief, but her strength, courage, and authenticity. And how Happya was born from the belief that survival isn’t enough.

If you’re wondering whether this season of hardship might also be the soil for something more meaningful, this episode will leave you feeling seen, softened, and supported.

You are not broken. You are becoming. And that becoming deserves to be honoured.

👉 Want to explore post-traumatic growth with Clare? Send a message on Instagram or reach out through the website, she’ll guide you towards the right support for where you are now.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

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You’ve been everything for everyone, the mum, the leader, the caretaker, the high achiever.

But now something’s shifted.

And you’re left wondering... who am I, really?

This episode is for the woman quietly realising she no longer recognises herself and doesn’t know how to begin again. Whether it’s your kids growing up, your career changing, a relationship ending, or a subtle sense that the roles you’ve played no longer fit, this isn’t failure. It’s an awakening.

In this powerful, grounding episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon explores what it means to lose yourself and how to gently, compassionately rebuild who you really are.

✨ Inside this episode:

The real reason identity loss is so common in midlife (and why it’s not just trauma)

How role changes: motherhood, career shifts, relationship breakdowns, can make you feel invisible

Why survival mode leads to self-forgetting

How to start reconnecting with your true self in small, doable ways

What nervous system regulation has to do with identity rebuilding

How to grieve old roles while creating space for something new

If you’ve ever said “I don’t know who I am anymore,” this is your invitation to come home to yourself, gently, honestly, without rushing.

📩 Reach out to Clare on Instagram or through the website if this speaks to you. Whether you need support, coaching, or just permission to begin, you don’t have to do it alone.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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You say you’re protecting your peace…
But are you really protecting yourself from discomfort?

This episode is for the women who’ve said “I’m setting boundaries” but deep down suspect they might just be pulling away. If you’ve ever avoided messages, cancelled plans, or shut someone out and called it self-care, this conversation will help you gently unpack what’s really going on underneath.

In this episode, Clare shares how to tell the difference between healthy boundaries and protective avoidance and why your nervous system often confuses the two.

✨ What you’ll hear:
The key difference between a true boundary and an avoidant response
How trauma and people-pleasing shape the way we disconnect
Why avoidance isn’t bad, but it isn’t always honest
How to set boundaries from a place of self-worth, not fear
Real-world signs you might be avoiding under the label of “boundaried”
What to do when your nervous system shuts down instead of speaking up
Whether you’re constantly retreating or unsure how to hold your ground with compassion, this episode will help you come back to clarity, connection, and choice.

📩 Feeling stuck in the blur between avoidance and boundaries? DM Clare on Instagram or get in touch via email, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Boundaries should bring you closer to yourself, not push you further away.

Click here if you want to join the Blooming Happya Journal Series: https://happyacoach.com/journal

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter

➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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Do you find yourself snapping, shutting down, or spiralling and then wondering, why did I react like that?

You’re not overreacting. You’re overtriggered.

And your nervous system is doing exactly what it was trained to do, protect you.

In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks how trauma, high-functioning anxiety, and survival mode create emotional reactivity that feels impossible to control. You’ll learn how to create space between trigger and response, and gently rewire the way your body and brain handle stress.

✨ In this episode:

• Why reactions happen before you even realise you’re triggered
• The science behind emotional hijacking and the trauma response
• How to spot the story your nervous system is telling you
• Three trauma-informed tools to create a pause and respond calmly
• Why emotional regulation isn’t about suppressing feelings, it’s about safety

You’ll also hear real-life insights from Clare’s journey and her work with women who felt like they were “too much” and discover how to shift from shame to self-trust.

📩 Ready to stop reacting from pain and start responding from presence? Clare invites you to reach out via Instagram or the website. Whether it’s coaching, tools, or just a reminder that you’re not alone, this is your space to begin again.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get present.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter

➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com

💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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