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Ever found yourself smiling and agreeing to something, only to walk away wishing you had said no? Do you wonder why you keep accidentally ending up resentful or burnt out? You wonder why boundaries and conflict feel like you could die? That’s not just “people-pleasing” it’s your nervous system working overtime to keep you safe through fawning.

In this episode, we dig into what’s really happening beneath freeze and fawn responses. These patterns aren’t flaws to fix; they’re survival strategies that once protected you. But if they’ve become your default, they can quietly erode your boundaries, your voice, your capacity, and your sense of choice.

You’ll learn:

• Why people-pleasing isn’t the same as kindness or empathy
• How freeze shows up when you feel the activation but can’t mobilize it
• Why true nervous system health isn’t perpetual calm it’s healthy anger being utilized as energy for your good
• The surprising role of physical practices (like kickboxing!) in waking your body up to new options
• How to set emotional boundaries with your kids (without shutting them out)
• The 1% shifts you can make today to reclaim agency in your responses
  
  

Your freedom and regulation isn’t about escaping conflict or erasing your human complexity. It’s about befriending all parts of yourself and gaining access to your power, softness, and everything in between.

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Motherhood will stretch you in ways you never imagined, but you don’t have to face it alone. In this raw conversation with Dr. Kim Murray, licensed marriage & family therapist and perinatal mental health specialist, we break open the truths no one is talking about on Instagram or in the baby books especially around postpartum mental health struggles.

We cover:

1. Why perinatal mental health starts before conception and lasts years after birth
2. The sobering reality: 1 in 5 mothers experience postpartum depression or anxiety
3. Why intrusive thoughts are more common than you think (and not a sign you’re broken)
4. The impact of a baby’s arrival on marriage and how to protect your relationship
5. What “maternal gatekeeping” really is and why it fuels burnout
6. Small but powerful tools for survival: grounding, 60-second hugs, and the radical act of saying no

Above all, you’ll learn why the mantra “Something’s got to give-but it cannot be me” might just save your sanity.

Whether you’re planning for pregnancy, navigating the newborn haze, chasing toddlers, or redefining your identity as your kids grow, this episode offers validation, strategies, and hope.

Be sure to grab Dr. Kim Murray's Postpartum Support Plan

About Dr. Kim Murray:

I am a proud mother of two girls, with a loving husband whom I have called mine for almost 20 years.

Dr. Kim Murray https://www.safehavenfamilytherapy.com/

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What if transformation isn’t about fixing what’s broken, but learning to relate to yourself with compassion and trust?

In this raw and powerful conversation, guest Jenna Lee Dillon shares the inner shifts she’s experienced through somatic coaching, masterminds, and retreats. Once living in a constant state of “pedal to the metal,” Jenna Lee discovered the radical freedom of trusting herself to know when to accelerate- and when to slow down.

We explore:

1. Why strategy alone can’t touch the deepest parts of growth
2. The metaphors that help women in their head shift how life feels
3. How to stop performing resilience and actually build a “bigger boat” before the storm hits
4. What changes when high-achieving women stop caretaking everyone else’s emotions first

This episode is an invitation to step off the hamster wheel of extremes and into a new way of being - one where presence, vulnerability, and trust create the kind of transformation no strategy can.

Want to work with Becca? Apply or coaching here: https://www.the-motherhood-mentor.com/reclamationcoaching

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If you’ve ever wondered why you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or like you are going through the motions but not really there, even when life looks fine on the outside - this episode is for you.

Your nervous system isn't broken- in fact it's working perfectly. In this podcast we dive into the wisdom of the body keeping score. Your dysregulation- no matter how destructive- it is a protective pattern. The snapping and yelling at the kids, the constant checking email, the lack of boundaries, the way you shut down and freak out when your husband is off- that's all dysregulation.

Becca unpacks how your nervous system’s fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses (aka people pleasing and over functioning) aren’t flaws to fix but natural survival patterns that may be over firing. You’ll learn why hyper-vigilance, perfectionism, emotional shutdown, and people-pleasing aren’t just “personality quirks” — they’re embodied trauma responses that can quietly run your life, your motherhood, marriage, and even your business.

This episode will help you:

✨ Understand dysregulation as a human experience, not a personal failure

✨ Recognize your patterns with compassion, not judgment

✨ Learn how regulation isn’t about eliminating stress but expanding your capacity to meet it

✨ Start building a new relationship with your nervous system and life, where presence matters more than performance

Ready to stop managing your nervous system like a problem to solve and start relating to it like a partner to care for? Tune in — and download the free worksheets in the show notes to explore your own patterns more deeply.

Download the free Somatic Workbook for guided practices and worksheets

If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here

If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here

💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops.

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High-achieving. Burned out, but still going. Still not feeling like it’s enough? Let’s talk.

What happens when you’re doing all the right things but still feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or just plain exhausted?

In this raw, unscripted episode, we’re diving into the paradox so many high-functioning, high performing, perfectionist women face: doing everything right, but not getting the results or the feelings you actually want.

Here’s the thing-perfectionism isn’t really about wanting everything to be flawless. It’s about caring deeply. You see potential everywhere. You want to lead, to create, to do things well. You tangibly see and feel the gap. You see where things can be better. You know how to read the room and are often the one shifting and holding these rooms. And those qualities? They’ve made you unstoppable. But they’ve also made it really hard to slow down. You know how to do it all, but you don't know how to slow down without burning it down. So you just keep going like the energizer bunny. Life says jump and you say how high, never no or not right now.

When perfectionism goes unchecked, it locks you in fight-or-flight, hyper-fixated on what’s wrong, running on empty but still pushing through. Perfectionism is just really fancy shame. It looks good and leaves you feeling like crap. The truth? You can pour from an empty cup. Many high-functioning women have been doing it for years. But just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• Why perfectionism isn’t something to “fix” but a relationship to heal
• How ambition can coexist with rest, joy, and ease
• The real reason you keep feeling burned out (even when you’re doing everything “right”)
• The power of nervous system regulation and community care for high-achieving women

👉 This isn’t about lowering your standards-it’s about raising your regulation, your support, and your self-trust.

You matter. Your life matters. Not just the things you do.

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Ever notice rage in your jaw before it reaches your thoughts? That’s your body giving you flags long before your mindset can “think positive.” In Episode 2 of our Somatic Series, Becca unpacks why nervous-system regulation isn’t about staying zen 24/7; it’s about riding the full emotional wave without getting wiped out.

You’ll learn to:

• Pinpoint the exact sensations—heat, buzzing, pressure—that signal an oncoming outburst through Somatic Sensation Tracking
• Use “orienting” to pull your nervous system back to here & now, instead of reliving old scripts giving you more presence
• Convert surging energy into boundary-setting power rather than bottled-up yelling from being in a glass case of emotions

Forget forcing calm. We don't need to sweep our dynamic humanity under a rug of good and grateful. True nervous system regulation means expanding your Window of Connection and capacity so you can meet a toddler tantrum, an inbox explosion, or a partner clash with presence and potency.

Download the free Somatic Workbook for guided practices and worksheets

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Ever feel like you've mastered the art of looking like you have it all together while secretly feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or like something's fundamentally "off"? You've done the mindset work, read the books, practiced the affirmations- yet that persistent gap between knowing what to do and actually feeling better remains.

In this episode, we dive into why conventional personal development, therapy, and coaching keeps us stuck in our heads when the real transformation happens in our bodies. I'll share why somatic healing isn't just another wellness trend—it's a return to ancient wisdom that recognizes we're not just brains with bodies, but bodies with brains.

You'll discover:

• Why that "duck experience" of looking calm while frantically paddling underneath is so exhausting
• How we've been taught to control our bodies instead of being in relationship with them
• Why overthinking is often a sign of underfeeling
• The difference between "shelfspiration" and embodied transformation that actually changes how life feels
• What somatic healing is and why it is so powerful especially for women with a solid foundation who are over functioning

If you're a high-functioning person who's tired of going through the motions and ready to access the 80% of your intelligence that lives beyond conscious thought, this episode is your invitation to explore what's possible when we move beyond mindset into embodied wisdom.

Make sure to follow the podcast and subscribe- episode 2 in this series and the somatic healing workbook drop soon.

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What if everything you’re doing to help your child’s anxiety is actually making things worse? In this eye opening episode Becca sits down with Robyn, a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in helping anxious kids, by working with their parents.

Our natural parental instincts to soothe, protect, and accommodate can keep our kids stuck in anxiety. Robyn shares the revolutionary SPACE protocol which flips the script. Instead of trying to control or prevent your child’s anxiety or anxious behaviors, you can learn to help your kid by changing your own response.

This episode is a must listen for every parent.

About Robyn:

As a coach for parents of anxious kids and a mom of three, I know firsthand how overwhelming it can feel to raise a child in an anxious world. With over a decade of experience supporting families, I help parents navigate the uncertainty and constant second-guessing that often come with parenting an anxious child. Through my membership program and SPACE coaching, I specialize in helping families break free from the cycle of over-accommodation and build the tools they need to raise confident, resilient, and independent kids. Anxiety isn’t dangerous, and parenting through it doesn’t have to feel impossible. I know with the right support, you can show up with confidence and create a calmer, more connected home for your family.

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