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I welcome Helen Sanderson, the Clutter Therapist, to explore her metaphor of clutter as a burial mound.

Helen explains how clutter often symbolises unresolved trauma, bereavement or unrealised dreams, and likens decluttering to an excavation where hidden treasures and forgotten parts of ourselves are unearthed.

Her approach focuses on creating healing spaces by addressing the emotions tied to possessions, rather than striving for superficial perfection.

This therapeutic process helps individuals reconnect with their true selves while reorganising their physical environment.

Helen Sanderson's website: https://www.helensanderson.com/

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If you've ever found yourself bitching about somebody, this episode is for you! Find a new way of seeing everyone else's behaviours.

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Relationships (all relationships: friendships, family relations as well as intimate relationships) have a dynamic energy that is constantly in flux. Meg Harper and I talk about this ever-present tension between protecting ourselves as individuals (perhaps at the expense of a relationship) and protecting our relationship(s) perhaps at the expense of ourselves. We start with a quote from Marisa G Franco’s book: Platonic, which is all about attachment styles and how they influence the ways we operate in relationships.

Meg Harper's website: https://megharper.co.uk/

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Trauma. This episode I build on Gabor Mate's metaphor that a trigger is just one part of what causes people problems. It distinguishes between "small t" and "Capital T" trauma. The latter is defined as experiences too terrifying for the psyche to process.

I talk about the "Window of Tolerance" model, featuring three zones: a green band (regulated state), orange bands (increasing disregulation), and red bands (hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal). The therapeutic approach emphasises keeping clients within their tolerance window, using the EMDR therapy metaphor of "building a bigger boat" to handle trauma gradually.

This episode contains passing reference to abuse.

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'Being triggered' is so much more in our awareness than ever before. How do we identify our triggers and what can we do and what can we reasonably ask others to do to help us manage them? Psychotherapist, Emma McDermott, and I chat about it.

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Episode Key Points:

• The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around control
• Focus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic position
• Rescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help others

Signs You Might Be a Rescuer:

• Feeling exhausted by constant requests for help
• Getting frustrated when people don't take your advice
• Finding others' suffering difficult to bear
• Believing your goodness is measured by how effectively you help

Key Insights:

• Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundaries
• Helping without limits can disempower others
• True support involves inviting others to find their own solutions
• Co-dependency occurs when both parties are controlling each other's lives

Therapeutic Approach:

• Learn self-worth independent of helping others
• Value others' perspectives and processes
• Recognize when "helping" is actually controlling
• Understand that withdrawing support can be a form of genuine care

Practical Advice:

• Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "What you need to do is..."
• Avoid lecturing or judging
• Set clear boundaries
• Recognize your own feelings of inadequacy driving rescue behaviors

Takeaway: Healthy support means empowering others, not solving their problems for them.

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Most of us communicate in ways which are unhealthy at least some of the time. This episode, Nadine sits with Richard Chadwick to discuss the Drama Triangle, especially how the unhelpful roles of Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor are embedded in our culture and in our psyches.
I challenge you to not recognise yourself in here somewhere!

Richard Chadwick is a therapist working in the north west and online. You can view his BACP profile here.

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