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  • Applying the NLP Beliefs of Excellence to Parenting

    Applying the NLP Beliefs of Excellence to Parenting
    Aug 6 2025

    The NLP Beliefs of Excellence form the basis of Neuro Linguistic Programming and a guide for us as humans to help us live in a positive way. I find them essential as a parent and my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ goes into these beliefs in much detail along with all the other aspects of NLP that can help us communicate better with our children and teens, understand and support them through life.



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    16 min
  • Free promo code for my first audiobook and shout out for reviewers of Early Years book.

    Free promo code for my first audiobook and shout out for reviewers of Early Years book.
    Jul 28 2025

    I want to give you a free promotion code for the audiobook of ‘Understanding children and teens’ and I would be hugely grateful for any parents of early years children, especially any starting reception in September to read even one chapter of my next book - Engaging NLP & EFT for Early Years.

    News too that the next audiobook will be from my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ so I’m going to share a chapter from there in my next podcast.

    Reminding you as well that if you have any bored young athletes at home this summer, that my book NLP for Sport, can be purchased on my website.



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    12 min
  • Free Promo Code for Audiobook

    Free Promo Code for Audiobook
    Jul 28 2025

    Although I’m clearly holding a book, this is a shout out for my first audiobook - ‘Understanding children and teens’. So if you are someone who enjoys listening to books then this is for you.

    It’s basically the content of the training course I deliver to students and it is essentially the Judy Bartkowiak method of working with children and teens so it is perfect foe anyone working as a professional - coaches, practitioners, counsellors, play and art therapists, social workers, teachers.

    I think it’s also perfect for the Home Ed market, those working in fostercare or adoption services.

    If you’d like a copy of your own individual free promo code use the button link below.

    If you would prefer to buy the book - either the paperback or ebook use the other button to buy from the shop on my website.

    If you’d like to enquire about training with me, there’s a button for that too!

    Thanks for reading Understanding children and teens by Judy Bartkowiak! This post is public so feel free to share it.



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    5 min
  • Why does kids' football bring out the worst in parents?

    Why does kids' football bring out the worst in parents?
    Apr 24 2025

    Illustration Gus Scott The Guardian

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    20 min
  • My writing journey.....so far!

    My writing journey.....so far!
    Apr 18 2025

    Sharing my writing journey and decisions about publishing.



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    19 min
  • How to give feedback to your children

    How to give feedback to your children
    Apr 8 2025



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    13 min
  • Sports mindset for young athletes

    Sports mindset for young athletes
    Mar 6 2025
    No-one wins every game, every match, every point. Failure is part of the process of winning. It’s an important part because we learn from it. We learn what to do better next time. We learn about choosing other options, being flexible in our thinking, trying another approach. It makes us work harder, strive more.Through failing and working through it, we get stronger, more resilient, but it isn’t easy, especially when you’re young.Many young athletes want to make their parents proud, impress their coach and have their teammates cheer for them and celebrate their triumphs. But doing well to get the approval of others isn’t something we can control. It’s fragile and it can make us vulnerable when that is our aim.Winning isn’t in our control because it depends on others performing less well on the day than you.It can depend on the standard of the competition, the state of the environment – weather, ground, crowd, so many factors beyond our control.Have you heard of the Feedback sandwich?Overall, what went well?What could I have done more of?What could I have done less of?Overall, what was the positive feedback for me?Let’s apply this to your last sports event.This is a bit more like a feedback bap isn’t it?!What went well?What could I have done more and what could I have done less ofOverall, what is the positive feedback for meLet’s learn something about feedback.Who has an ‘inner critic’ who says things like this.“Why do you always do that?”“Why do I never score”“Why is everyone better than me”“No-one passes to me”These are Generalisations and they are never true.The interesting thing about generalisations is actually the exceptions.So write down a generalisation using: always/never, everyone/no-one that you say to yourself.I always …………………………………………….I never………………………………………………Everyone …………………………………………..No-one…………………………………………………..Now change these toSometimes I…………………………………………….Some people……………………………………………Think about those times when that thing did not happen and there you have your ‘model of excellence’.What was ‘the difference that made the difference’ on that occasion? Do this more often!Let’s look at another way we give ourselves feedback. Coaches, teachers, listen up because perhaps you could change the way you give feedback.Deletions are when we delete the detail or the context so for example“That was better”“You didn’t play well today”“That was mean”Ask, how, in what way to get the detail that you can learn from.In order to learn from that feedback we need to know what we did that made the difference so we can do it again.Let me tell you something you may not know. You may sometimes talk about your ‘anxiety’ or ‘anger issue’. These are deletions too. Why? Because they don’t really tell you anything do they? What is missing? The context. You’re not anxious all the time or angry all the time. If this may apply to you, have a go at some of these ways to reframe these deletions to include the context and get more mindset control for your sport.I feel anxious when ………………………………..What worries me is if……………………………………………………………….... makes me anxiousI’m worried about……………………………………I feel angry when………….………………………..…………………………………...makes me angryIf …………………………….……I get really angryNow let’s link these so you can see the connection.I feel angry when……………………………………..and I’m worried that………………………………….So next time you feel angry about something, ask yourself what you were worried about. Then give it a score of 0-10 as to how likely that thing is to happen. If more than 5 do something about it and if less than 5, take some deep breaths and choose to calm down. Control your controllables!Another form of deletion is saying‘I can’t’Again we have deleted the context.When can’t you?Who says?’What if you could?When can you?What ‘can’t’ you do?I can’t…………………………………………………….Now answer those questions above.When can’t you?......................................................Who says this?.........................................................What if you could?...................................................When can you?.........................................................In NLP terms, it is called a modal operator of possibility in that it makes what is possible, impossible in that moment. It is a blocker.What can’t you do in your sport?I can’t…………………………………………………Let me tell you a story.I was training two students...
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    5 min
  • Announcing the birth of my latest book!

    Announcing the birth of my latest book!
    Feb 22 2025

    I’m reading the Introduction where I ask you to ‘Control your controllables’ because it can be stressful for young athletes to feel responsible for winning when there are so many things you can’t control. I’m also asking you to think about all the benefits you get from your sport - confidence, resilience and managing feedback and emotions.



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    11 min