Parenting Trauma

A practical translation of the principles of attachment theory to nonmonogamous relationships.

Self-healing through self-parenting, a concept introduced a generation ago, has helped thousands of adult children of alcoholics who are codependent and have conflicts in their primary relationships. Now Patricia O'Gorman, PhD, and Phil Diaz, MSW, authors of the classic book The 12 Steps to Self-Parenting for Adult Children and its companion workbook, expand the reach of that successful healing paradigm to anyone who has suffered from any kind of trauma.

A longtime trauma worker, Laura van Dernoot Lipsky offers a deep and empathetic survey of the often-unrecognized toll on those working to make the world a better place. We may feel tired, cynical, numb, or like we can never do enough. These, and other symptoms, affect us individually and collectively, sapping the energy and effectiveness we so desperately need if we are to benefit humankind, other animals, and the planet itself. Through Trauma Stewardship, we are called to meet these challenges in an intentional way.

Every parent has had that painful moment of messing up and seeing that they need help if they are going to raise happy, emotionally healthy kids. For Jon Fogel, that moment came after yelling at his son and realizing he was making the same mistakes his own parents made. He knew something had to change; he needed to understand and redirect his own emotions. That realization put Fogel on a path toward wholeness: understanding himself, learning about the brain, naming his emotions.

Most trauma recovery treats symptoms in isolation. But abuse is systemic. It rewires your nervous system, fractures your identity, and programs subconscious survival responses that override your conscious intentions. This isn’t another coping toolkit. This 7-in-1 system integrates 7 layers of healing into one cohesive protocol — so your mind, body, and subconscious finally work together instead of against you.

A masterful synthesis of relational and attachment theory, neurobiology, and contemporary psychoanalysis, Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma has been internationally recognized as an essential text on shame. Integrating new theory about trauma, shame resilience, and self-compassion, this second edition further clarifies the relational, right-brain essence of being in and with the suffering of shame. New chapters carry theory further into praxis.

Healing trauma can be very challenging and a truly painful journey. Do you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of pain and distress, haunted by past traumas that seem to hold you back at every turn? Traumatized people can become trapped, like mosquitoes in amber, frozen in the moment of their catastrophe. It can feel like an overwhelming burden, keeping you from moving forward in life. You long for a sense of peace and healing but don’t know where to start.

Drawn from the wisdom and insights of the world's top doctors, therapists, and experts, Trauma will show you that no matter what you have endured, how long you have carried it, or how deeply embedded it is, you can be free from pain and suffering. Your road to recovery and whole-body healing is before you, and with it the richer and more profound connections that you seek with yourself and your loved ones.

From our earliest years, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our daily emotional landscape, our relationships, and how we feel about ourselves. And in the wake of a traumatic event - such as a car accident, severe illness, loss of a loved one, or experience of abuse - that attachment style can deeply influence what happens next.

Explaining that an impaired capacity for connection to self and to others underlies most psychological and many physiological problems, clinicians Laurence Heller, PhD, and Aline LaPierre, PsyD, introduce the NeuroAffective Relational Model™ (NARM), a unified approach to developmental, attachment, and shock trauma that emphasizes working in the present moment. NARM is a somatically based psychotherapy that helps bring into awareness the parts of self that are disorganized and dysfunctional.

Recupera tu poder. Rompe el ciclo. Comienza a sanar de verdad. ¿Sientes que constantemente estás “exagerando”, pero en el fondo sabes que algo más profundo está ocurriendo? ¿Atrapado en patrones tóxicos que atraen el mismo dolor, sabotean lo bueno y te hacen culparte por todo? ¿Has pasado tu vida sobreviviendo y ahora por fin estás listo para vivir? Durante años no supe que estaba traumatizada. Pensaba que simplemente era demasiado emocional, demasiado sensible, demasiado necesitada.

Might you and your baby both sleep better if you shared a bed? How old is too old for breastfeeding? What is a father's role in nurturing a newborn? How does early attachment foster a child's eventual independence? Dr. Bill and Martha Sears - the doctor-and-nurse, husband-and-wife team who coined the term "attachment parenting" - answer these and many more questions in this practical, inspiring guide. Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that encourages a strong early attachment and advocates parental responsiveness to babies' dependency needs.

If you felt unloved or unsafe as a child, you may have difficulty trusting others as an adult. You might struggle to maintain healthy relationships, or feel like you are somehow damaged. Written by a renowned family therapist, this gentle guide offers an evidence-based approach to help you move past relational trauma—the psychological wounds that can result from experiences of abuse, neglect, or betrayal. By building self-awareness, understanding triggers, and improving your communication skills, you can achieve the love and connection you deserve.

The Polyvagal Theory Workbook for Trauma offers evidence-based activities to help you heal the effects of trauma, rewire your nervous system, and return to a state of balance and calm. You'll begin by getting to know your nervous system, including an exploration of polyvagal theory and the vagus nerve. You'll also learn soothing, body-based practices to help you rewire your nervous response, including rhythmic movements (EMDR and tapping), conscious breathing, mindful movement, and more.

After more than 10 years of research and study, Dr. Kevin Skinner's Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal offers valuable insight into why a partner's sexual behaviors outside of a committed relationship creates symptoms that match post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This book provides an in-depth view into the lives of individuals suffering from trauma after sexual betrayal. Using his research data from more than 5,000 individuals who have experienced betrayal, Dr. Skinner outlines why betrayal triggers trauma and then provides the essential tools for healing.

On a summer night in 1984, 19-year-old UC Berkeley sophomore Karen Thomas leaves her uniformed patrol job at the University of California Police Department and walks home alone in darkness. At the threshold of her apartment a man assaults her at knife point. After a soul chilling struggle she manages to escape and call 911. Police catch her assailant, she identifies him, and he is arrested. Fast forward 2014, 30 years after her assault. Why does the body remember what the mind tries so desperately to forget?

Children who have been adopted and/or shuttled through the foster-care system experience trauma at a much higher rate than other kids, which can make it difficult for them to trust, relax, regulate their emotions, and connect with their new families. As a parent, learning how to heal attachment trauma, attune to your child's needs, identify triggers, and create felt safety is essential to providing the loving, supportive, and stable home they need to thrive. Written for parents of adopted and foster kids of all ages, this book offers resources for handling common concerns.

Are you thriving in your relationship, or merely surviving? Are you the victim of constant manipulation, gaslighting, and deception at the hands of your partner? Do you find yourself constantly making excuses for your partner's abusive behavior? If you feel trapped in a relationship with someone who displays narcissistic or psychopathic behavior, you may be experiencing a trauma bond—a powerful connection you've developed with your abuser. It's important to remember that you're not alone and it's not your fault.

De la Codependencia a la Conciencia es un audiolibro que aborda de manera compasiva y profunda cómo los traumas infantiles y la codependencia afectan nuestras vidas. Este audiolibro ofrece orientación paso a paso para liberarnos de los patrones de comportamiento dañinos, sanar nuestras heridas emocionales y construir relaciones más saludables.

This is a two-book collection of previously released books by Lauren Kozlowski, Trauma Bonding and Coercive Control.