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On the surface, capable teenage boys may look lazy. But dig a little deeper, writes child psychologist Adam Price in He's Not Lazy, and you'll often find conflicted boys who want to do well in middle and high school but are afraid to fail and so do not try. 

This audiobook can help you become an ally with your son as he discovers greater self-confidence and accepts responsibility for his future.

©2017 Adam Price (P)2018 Tantor

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  • JP
  • 2020-02-07

He is not lazy is phenomenal

Thank you for making such fabulous tool for parents available. It’s amazing how we get stuck in our worlds and don’t even try to understand our own children. What an eye opener! All the problems my son was blamed for, were because of us parents not the child. Thank you for helping us to have fantastic father-son relationship!

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  • Meredith
  • 2020-02-28

Good but contradicting

The author talks about how terrible school has become especially for boys. That you need a business degree to “manage” school. I agree completely. And that boys prefrontal cortex won’t be matured until they are 26.
Basically they can’t win and knowing that they “opt out” All good makes sense
Until he then “teaches us” how to get them to do school. He missed the mark there.
They opt out because it becomes a no win situation for them - much easier for girls. They can’t talk about it because of fear of looking weak. The answer is NOT to change them but to adjust their education to fit who they really are whether it would be homeschooling, dual enrollment, change schools from the ridiculous system that is failing our kids , mostly boys.

Let them win a few and they will grow and gain confidence. Dumbing then down to “do” school seems beyond counterintuitive.
My son now goes to classes and has tutors at home. He is creative and much happier than dealing with the ridiculous busy work, 4/5 different communications from school all spamming notices. It’s like the schools have become ADHD and are scrambling to make their numbers and teaching to the test.

No wonder our teachers are burned out, kids are suicidal, have anxiety, do drugs and drink.
We have failed at our school
System and we blame the kids.

Wrong

I wish the author wouldn’t have flipped his spot on assessment to making kids be responsible for getting along with the very system that is failing them.

There are many ways to educate kids and for them to get into college if that’s even necessary!

The author needs to update his research on education- not make everyone fit into a one size fits all.


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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-08-19

Enlightening

Raising a teenage boy is hard. Everything he said that I see my teen as, is spot on! This book helped me to understand him, his internal struggle, & his true needs... not the needs I think he has. This book may have just saved my relationship with my son, but also saved his academic future!!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2020-01-18

Very helpful in understanding my young teenage son

We see continually at odds with each other; me thinking he was being disrespectful and him always thinking I was on his case. I never realized that his brain and self-confidence were growing at the same time his body was changing. I have a much better understanding and this helps when I have to make on-the-fly decisions or impromptu conversations that matter.

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  • Brian J. Judd
  • 2020-01-10

Very helpful

I found this book incredibly helpful. I have three sons. Youngest is 17 now and has struggled with many issues that are addressed in the book. Equally important are the challenges that he presented to me as a parent. Thank you.

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  • Jared
  • 2018-11-22

Got boys? This will help

We’ve got 3 boys and two of them are teenagers. I found the author’s points to be extremely relevant and helpful to raising boys right now. The book led to several good discussions with my wife and a few tweaks to how we parent. Highly recommended!

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  • Rosalie g.
  • 2019-05-10

If you have a son.. this is a must

my son is 15 and this book has helped me understand boys dynamics and uniqueness.
the narrator voice was good also

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  • Susan Robinson
  • 2019-04-17

Finally! A must read for all parents, teachers, therapist, coaches and the list goes on.....

Thank you Adam Price for “that book” the road map to parenting that I couldn’t put down. I will share this book with anyone and everyone I know who has children or deals with children. Every school should have a workshop for parents with this book. So many of us struggle with parenting today and it’s heartbreaking to feel helpless. The tools are here, my husband and I now have a better plan to help our son help himself. Anyone that reads this book will feel the same.

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  • Monica Rodriguez
  • 2021-11-10

Game changer

This book not only opened my eyes in way that I could “truly” help my son, but also a way to “help” myself. I searched for something to help me and the desperation I was experiencing. I knew if I was overwhelmed so was my child but yet we kept going in and out of our same cycle.

He’s Not Lazy opened my eyes, my heart and my mind to so much more than I bargained I’d get. First chapter I felt like I could breath again, such a weight lifted. By the final chapter I knew my son could and would over come his obstacles in his own time and I would survive his teenage years.

Parents who have boys with learning disabilities or boys experiencing a hard time finding out who they because you’re in their way…this is an excellent read. Game changer!

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  • Cortney L Waterman
  • 2021-11-01

A great book for parents of boys

A great take on the lazy teen. Opens parents hearts to compassion. Gives us insight into a teen boy's mind and helps us help them thru the hard transitions.

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  • R. Rojas
  • 2021-11-01

Amazing...

Should be given to parents when they leave the hospital...Has helped me immensely. Psychologists should recommend to patients parents as a supplement as 1 hour sessions once a week is NOT ENOUGH.