READ THIS BOOK!

If you've made it this far, you have to read this book. It took me 40 years to get to this point and although it was the biggest shock to my system to have a perfect stranger detail everything I have ever lived, it was the most eye opening experience of my life. I won't lie there were times where I was curled up in the fetal position as everything clicked, but I am so grateful that someone pointed me in the right direction, so I can begin to heal myself.

I credit the author, Shahida Arabi, for helping to save me from the hell that had become my life.

I am much better for it and highly recommend it as a starting point.

The heavy work to come WILL set you free.

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What you may not know you needed.

I just got out of an abusive relationship and due to covid happening right after havent had the means to go to therapy. ( by no means is this a replacement for therapy ) but this book has helped me alot and is still helping. I highly recomend it. it helps identify whos a narscasist and helps you realize what narsacistic behavior is and helps you learn what not to do to others as what was done to you. after i got out of my relarionship i couldnt trust my own oponion on people afriad to get abused again but this helps you identify those people and build a confidence in yourself again. It opens your mind up and helps you learn to love yourself again and feel not alone. It also gives you insight on how to heal and many rescources to scource out for support and healing. Also just want to say that if you are here looking at this for self help from narsacistic abuse;you are loved and im proud of you, it will get better.

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news reader

the reader sounds likea she is reading the news...zero feeling...horrible. ive read the actual book which is amazing. but this narrator ruins it completely.

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Concise and Comprehensive

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A wonderful, stand alone resource for understanding and recovering from Narcissistic abuse. The writing is well constructed and the book is dense with insight. I can't say enough about it. The strategies for recovery are thoroughly researched, accessible and comprehensive.

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One of the Best!

I've read Lundy Bancroft and Ramani Durvasula, both of whose writings I never tire of. However, this is an awesome book written with empathy and thorough detail. information is very organized and it covers a full range of explorations as much as humanly possible. I personally found the speed of the reader quite fast but you can slow it down just a tad so it still sounds natural. It's amazing that Shahida writes this with her own personal experience as a motivating factor; however it's a thoroughly researched book and not at all a laywoman's account. Shahida is quite educated on the subject. I believe that quite possibly her personal experience was a motivating factor for her drive to gain more knowledge and share it with others. In this book she definitely covers many facets not deeply explored by other writers of this topic. Extremely helpful, validating, healing and motivating. Don't miss it!

Intelligent and very much to the point

This author knows her stuff and presents it very clearly. Courageous and intelligent.
Very much a reflection of our times and what I bump into daily at work. Young, often make, entitled, “on the grab” people.

Highly recommend!

This book literally explained the last 12 years of my life in ways that I could not. I found this book very enlightening and validating at the same time. The tools for recovery at the end of the book are also very helpful. Thank you Shahidi Arabi for writing this book!

Excellent Book

Very well written
Excellent resource

I am grateful
Thank you Shahida

I have learned so much

blown away

I had know idea the extent of the abuse I endured over the last 20 years until my psychologist highly recommended I read this book. Since reading it my mind is blown since it detailed what I went through with such clarity and uncanny parallel. Super grateful for both my psychologist and this book as now I have woken up to the reality of my situation.