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Publisher's Summary

Pathological mind games. Covert and overt put-downs. Triangulation. Gaslighting. Projection. These are the manipulative tactics survivors of malignant narcissists are unfortunately all too familiar with. As victims of silent crimes where the perpetrators are rarely held accountable, survivors of narcissistic abuse have lived in a war zone of epic proportions, enduring an abuse cycle of love-bombing and devaluation - psychological violence on steroids. From how to heal our addiction to the narcissist to how to recognize a covert narcissist, Shahida Arabi's articles on narcissistic abuse have gained renown as some of the most accurate and in-depth depictions of this terrifying trauma, resonating with millions of survivors all over the world and receiving endorsements from numerous mental health professionals. In this essay compilation, listeners can enjoy some of her most popular articles as well as new thought pieces on narcissistic abuse: what therapists have to say about malignant narcissists and how children of narcissistic parents can become trapped in the trauma repetition cycle. Survivors are offered new insights on what it means to be both a survivor and a thriver of covert manipulation and trauma. Power teaches us that it is important to not only understand the tactics of toxic personalities but also to recognize and combat the effects of narcissistic abuse; it guides the survivor to learning, growing, healing and most importantly of all - owning their agency to rebuild their lives and transform their powerlessness into victory.

©2017 Shahida Arabi (P)2017 Audible, Inc.

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  • Mel
  • 2018-09-20

READ THIS BOOK!

If you've made it this far, you have to read this book. It took me 40 years to get to this point and although it was the biggest shock to my system to have a perfect stranger detail everything I have ever lived, it was the most eye opening experience of my life. I won't lie there were times where I was curled up in the fetal position as everything clicked, but I am so grateful that someone pointed me in the right direction, so I can begin to heal myself.

I credit the author, Shahida Arabi, for helping to save me from the hell that had become my life.

I am much better for it and highly recommend it as a starting point.

The heavy work to come WILL set you free.

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What you may not know you needed.

I just got out of an abusive relationship and due to covid happening right after havent had the means to go to therapy. ( by no means is this a replacement for therapy ) but this book has helped me alot and is still helping. I highly recomend it. it helps identify whos a narscasist and helps you realize what narsacistic behavior is and helps you learn what not to do to others as what was done to you. after i got out of my relarionship i couldnt trust my own oponion on people afriad to get abused again but this helps you identify those people and build a confidence in yourself again. It opens your mind up and helps you learn to love yourself again and feel not alone. It also gives you insight on how to heal and many rescources to scource out for support and healing. Also just want to say that if you are here looking at this for self help from narsacistic abuse;you are loved and im proud of you, it will get better.

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the reader sounds likea she is reading the news...zero feeling...horrible. ive read the actual book which is amazing. but this narrator ruins it completely.

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Concise and Comprehensive

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A wonderful, stand alone resource for understanding and recovering from Narcissistic abuse. The writing is well constructed and the book is dense with insight. I can't say enough about it. The strategies for recovery are thoroughly researched, accessible and comprehensive.

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One of the Best!

I've read Lundy Bancroft and Ramani Durvasula, both of whose writings I never tire of. However, this is an awesome book written with empathy and thorough detail. information is very organized and it covers a full range of explorations as much as humanly possible. I personally found the speed of the reader quite fast but you can slow it down just a tad so it still sounds natural. It's amazing that Shahida writes this with her own personal experience as a motivating factor; however it's a thoroughly researched book and not at all a laywoman's account. Shahida is quite educated on the subject. I believe that quite possibly her personal experience was a motivating factor for her drive to gain more knowledge and share it with others. In this book she definitely covers many facets not deeply explored by other writers of this topic. Extremely helpful, validating, healing and motivating. Don't miss it!

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Intelligent and very much to the point

This author knows her stuff and presents it very clearly. Courageous and intelligent.
Very much a reflection of our times and what I bump into daily at work. Young, often make, entitled, “on the grab” people.

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Highly recommend!

This book literally explained the last 12 years of my life in ways that I could not. I found this book very enlightening and validating at the same time. The tools for recovery at the end of the book are also very helpful. Thank you Shahidi Arabi for writing this book!

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Excellent Book

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blown away

I had know idea the extent of the abuse I endured over the last 20 years until my psychologist highly recommended I read this book. Since reading it my mind is blown since it detailed what I went through with such clarity and uncanny parallel. Super grateful for both my psychologist and this book as now I have woken up to the reality of my situation.

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  • 2017-10-16

A “Powerful” book

I heard so much confirmation of what I was going through my whole life, including now. Even things I had previously only thought in my own head as a contrary response to a couple things other narcissistic abuse experts have said. It’s an extremely affirming, uplifting and emotionally supportive book, I highly recommend it. In fact, after a bit of time passes to allow what I am processing from it to fully absorb, I will re-listen to it in order to absorb more of the caring and loving support and information it provides that I was not able to absorb in and process all at one time.

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  • 2018-01-19

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The story is gripping but the reader sounds like a bot. The voice is distracting.

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Unnecessarily repetitive and almost unbearable performance

This book is best for those unfamiliar with characteristics and affects of dealing with significant others who suffer from NPD, NOT those who grew up with an NPD parent.

Since I have read many books on this topic, I was quite bored while listening. I kept hoping some new nugget of information would pop up which led me to keep going.

Couple that with how unbearable the performance was and I was sometimes cringing while listening. She has this strange California type accent, like sometimes sounding like her chin is jutting out while talking or emphasizing words that end with the letter D. It is hard to describe without hearing it but I will absolutely never listen to another audible book dictated by her. Absolutely deplorable.

One of the few audible books I regret purchasing.

I would recommend anyone not at all familiar with NPD and suspicious of being involved in a relationship with a person with NPD to purchase this audible, as long as you don’t care about the dictation. Sample it first.

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  • 2017-09-06

Eye opening

This author touches on words and explanations that make so much sense to someone who has lived with someone that expressed this behavior. Made things that happened understandable.

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  • 2018-02-26

Book content is incredible IF....

Book is incredible IF you can get past a computerized/automated female voice reading! So annoying and distracting! I couldn’t endure it. I got a refund and bought the print version. Such a shame that I couldn’t listen....

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  • Garry
  • 2018-03-28

absolutely worst narrator of all the books

absolutely worst narrator of all the books I've purchased. I'd like my money back. thank you

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  • 2018-10-30

siri could have done a better job reading this

I was dumb and didn't listen to the sample before I picked this audible book with my 1 free credit. I can listen to this robotic performance at all.

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  • Shauna Little
  • 2018-09-19

Lacks substance.

This book promises understanding but lacks the substance to bring to light the subject matter. It is filled with mixed metaphors and blanket statements that sound like a snake oil salesman who offers a cure for all ills, but ultimately cures nothing.

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  • Elizabeth Stewart
  • 2017-08-14

100% Validation

This is the most spot on description of what I survived. This has helped my healing/recovery in so many ways. It helps my emotions catch up to my intellectual understanding of this abuse. Invaluable resource used in conjunction with traditional therapy and alternative modalities that develop self-soothing and self-love. Thank you a million times!

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  • 2017-09-10

great book. great narrator.

a must listen, thanks to the author of this book forma such a thorough work.

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