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Break your crippling addiction to approval and learn to be less “nice”. 

Do you keep your mouth shut for fear of falling out of people’s graces? Feel that you need to please and serve to stay in your social circles? You have the need to please and all the associated beliefs. Stop bitterness, resentment, and anxiety from always saying yes. 

Stop People Pleasing is a frank look at people-pleasing tendencies - where they come from, how they manifest, and exactly what to do about them. Most importantly, the audiobook emphasizes real, actionable tactics to change your relationship with yourself and others. 

This audiobook was made by a recovering people-pleaser, so you can be sure there is a real understanding of your struggles. Reprogram your beliefs and learn to accept yourself. 

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social-skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. 

Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. 

  • The psychological and often traumatic origins of people-pleasing tendencies. 
  • The harmful beliefs you subconsciously possess and how to alter them. 
  • How to learn new, empowering habits. 

Learn the deep origins of your need to please and how to set healthy boundaries. 

  • How to set boundaries and avoid porous ones. 
  • A plethora of strategies to say no and make your thoughts known. 
  • Understand your guilt and get better with confrontation. 
  • How to say no and stop feeling responsible for people’s feelings. 

People-pleasing is called a disease for a reason. It can cripple you and hold you back from what you want - and yet it’s all in your mind! You have the power to completely turn your life around and finally get what you want, defend yourself, and stop being so concerned with what other people think. 

Above all else, learn to free yourself. Reclaim your energy, time, and life by clicking the "Buy Now" button at the top right of this page.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2018 Patrick King (P)2018 Patrick King

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I saw myself

I do so much with little to no return. Now I understand why. I had to listen twice and will again. It opened my eyes to real and false friends. I’m going to explore this topic more

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Great book for a quick read

Got this book as a daily deal, and didn’t have to high expectations, but it is really good at condensing the information of a lot of other books on this subject. I recommend!

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very well done

narrator was easy to listen to
unfortunately he seemed to speak about me
but he also gave clear pointers on how to 'fix'
the people pleaser. I would recommend

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Just what I needed to hear.

I don't usually write a review. I don't usually give. five stars for everything. The difference this time was everything I could have asked for. .It was well written,well read,
a d provided good examples. It was encouraging and just what I needed to hear at this time in my life.

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Just what I needed

This book doesn’t beat around the bush, and it has changed my life. Straight to the point, concise and clear - there’s no fluff or repetition. I felt like the author respected my time unlike so many other self help books that are padded for length. At just under four hours you can breeze through this in one day and start your new journey as a self-assured, confident non-people pleasing person. If you wonder why you are working so hard, always giving but never getting ahead, this is your book.

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Très éducatif

Je me suis tanné d'aider autant les gens. Vu que je ne recevait que des bêtises en retour.

Aujourd'hui je leurs trouve des solutions. Mais moi je m'en libère.

C'est mieux pour ma santé.

J'ai beaucoup trop toléré et accumulé.

Maintenant ça prend beaucoup de temps pour guérir. Mais ce n'est pas impossible.

C'est un livre très éducatif qui peut changer la vie des gens trop bons comme moi.

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  • JR
  • 2021-05-26

loved it!

Initially seems a bit cheesy but gets better with time. keep listening! highly helpful book

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A must read 💯👌

Wow, love this book, read till the end in one night! Just to share how deep and straight to the point it was!
Thanks 😊

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Great teaching book

I have always been taken advantage by people because of my personality, pleasing, always putting other people need on top of my own. This book is a God send. I will put everything in practice and put a stop to users and stand up for myself. Thank you Mr. King.

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  • MDW 77
  • 2020-04-28

OK Material, but a little Offputting

This book addresses people pleasing tendencies, and the issues people pleasers face in both the short and long term. It also offers several theories about the origin of people pleasing, offers suggestions for setting boundaries, and explores how to prevent people pleasing from taking over your life.
Some of the theories and suggestions offered seem very valid, and would be useful for anyone that has difficulty saying no to others or setting boundaries. However, I felt the way the information was presented demeans those that struggle with people pleasing at times. The author implies that all people pleasers are actually manipulators that have zero social skills, and paints them in an extremely negative light (especially in the first few chapters).
In later chapters, the suggested actions are actually manipulative behaviors posed as productive suggestions. For example, saying yes to a request when you really want to say no, but only doing a fraction of what is asked of you. Or requiring someone to send you an outline of their request before answering their plea for assistance, with the hope that they won't follow through with your request for an outline and thus not requiring an answer at all.
Overall this book is a mix of helpful and unhelpful tips, but I didn't appreciate the way the author seemed to talk down about people pleasers and their actions. I feel there are probably more helpful books that could offer the same information in a more positive light.

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  • Steve Kauffman
  • 2020-08-21

Excellent Bibliotherapy! A must go-thru for people that are too nice

I like how this goes through the reasons why people become people pleasers and pushovers- it boils down to a survival mechanism to compensate for a lack of confidence, self-worth, self-perception of not-enough strength, and not an abundance mentality. It gives better ways to say “no,” and being direct rather than saying “they can’t.” I’m at the end of a deployment in Iraq, and I feel I was a people pleaser here because I didn’t have confidence in my job, and I compensated by being sweet and a ‘yes-man.’ This is ideal for me to go though now.

It also talked about being too much of the opposite of a people pleaser (it could’ve gone more in depth on this). Being the polar opposite and being too rigid is not the best thing either. A middle-ground is better.

I agree that being too much of a people pleaser is not a good thing for everyone because then you can’t fully give yourself to what is really important. I also like the stark warnings that some people won’t like when you’re sticking up for yourself (they preferred when you didn’t have boundaries). No one likes to hear “no.” This book is excellent and very important. I want my mom to go through it also .

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  • Stefani Ponce
  • 2021-06-03

A must read

One of the best books I have ever read. The author hit it right on the head!

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  • BO WILSON
  • 2021-03-16

Eye opener, you definitely know if this is you !

If this is you, the book offers solid and sensible solutions to help you change.

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  • Manaf Fira
  • 2020-05-29

Good Book

Glad that I found it on Audible. It is well written and the narrator is good.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2019-01-07

Too Basic

I couldn't get through the book. Not because of narrator which was pleasant but the content. You must be living in a rock or have zero social skills to find it useful.

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  • Stephen Clark
  • 2019-06-12

blah.

struggled to finish. boring. simple. not researched one bit. and the few that were not very helpful.

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