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The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist

Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse (The Narcissism Series, Book 1)

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The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist

Written by: Debbie Mirza
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The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful audiobook on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused.

These people are well-liked; they are often the pillars of the community. Parents, spouses, bosses, and friends who are covert narcissists come across as the nicest people. They can be spiritual leaders, they are moms who bring over casseroles to needy people, they are the bosses who everyone loves and feels so lucky to work for.

These relationships are incredibly confusing and damaging. They leave you questioning your own sanity and reality. Even though they are treating you terribly, you wonder if you are the problem, if you are the one to blame. You are filled with constant self-doubt when it comes to these people in your life. When you are around them, you feel confused and muddled inside. You have a hard time seeing clearly.

These relationships can bring you to a state of deep depression and complete depletion of energy. You may wonder if you will ever see clearly and heal from these destructive and debilitating relationships.

This audiobook will give you hope that you can heal and feel alive again, or maybe for the first time. You will learn what the traits of a covert narcissist are, as well as how they control and manipulate. Your eyes will open, and your experience will be validated. You will also learn ways to heal and actually enjoy life again.

Debbie Mirza uses decades of her own experience with covert narcissists as well as her years of practice as a life coach who specializes in helping people recover and heal from these types of relationships.

©2017 Debra Mirza (P)2018 Debra Mirza
Abuse Dysfunctional Relationships Mental Health Parenting & Families Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Emotions Health Inspiring Boss Emotional Trauma Relationship

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Felt at peace, felt normal again

For the first time in 50 years, my mind quiet down and even a smile appeared on my face as I was listening to a description of my abuser that was so perfectly detailed. The chapter about the physical illnesses associated with particular type of abuse described my illness to the T. To my surprise the smile didn’t leave my face for most of the day. I am in peace, I’m not crazy. That same day I started the long overdue first step of recovery from a horrific, covert, malignant, psychopath who has been emotionally (and physically) abusing me my entire life - my mom. The worst is, I’m in a position where I see this type of covert abuse from a parent a lot; I see the signs, I “feel” the deep emotional scars, the tears that are swallowed, the throat that ceases to work, the tremendous shame of the betrayal, the disbelief that this abuse is even happening...the enormous confusion. It’s heartbreaking and I try to reassure those kids that they are safe with me because I’m now and have continuously experienced the same.

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Amazingly validating

This title truly validated my experience and was hugely helpful to begin my healing journey.

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Outstanding

Coming out of a relationship with a covert narcissist is one of the hardest journies I've walked. The abuse is like something I've never experienced and it's a lonely journey. This book helped me to see that I'm not as crazy as I was made to believe and that there is hope for healing. This book was both educational and confirmed much of what I feel. A must read on the road to recovery.

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excellent resource

very helpful for understanding the nightmare I am recovering from and a reminder that I am not crazy be gentle with myself

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saved my life

I just came out of a 17 year marriage where I was absolutely despondent, but had been convinced that I'm the problem. someone recommended this book while I was in hospital for a MH crisis and it helped me understand what was actually happening. I've since recommended it to others.

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Validating and helpful

There are a few books I listen to on repeat. This will be added to the mix. I’ve been stuck with my narcissist for over 17 years. I have traded years of my life due to the lack of community, confidence, and cognitive decline. I’m digging my way out. This was helpful and perhaps due to the previous books, not triggering. Will listen to again and again as I work my way through.

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So grateful I found this.

I was so hurt and confused until I listened to this book. It opened my eyes and filled my heart. I learned to trust myself and no longer feel alone.

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Buy this book!

Best book on narcissism that I have read. End of book teaches you what real love is, how to find your own inner discernment again. Recommended read!

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Eye-Opening

This book helped me realize I am not crazy, or alone on this journey. It helped solidify that my feelings are valid, and started to provide the foundation for my healing journey.

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Astounding

A profoundly wise, rich and restorative book on what motivates the CN to harm without care those he/she says they love. I was in need of answers. I found them here. I have clarity. I have gained insight. I’m on the road to healing

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