A lot of good, sensible information.

There is no book written which will allow someone with absolutely poor social skills turn into a social butterfly in one night. Some oversimplify the issue and promise to accomplish the aforementioned goal with a few quick tips. Others are so abstract that - while interesting in some cases - they contain no applicable information. This one falls somewhere in between.

First, there is a LOT of information. Trying to absorb it all in one read (listen) proved to be overwhelming, so I think it works best in book form and with frequent revisiting of chapters. The book addresses a lot of areas but with a limited amount of depth. The author acknowledges and often makes reference to other works going deeper into a subject. The book makes no promises of making one an overnight social sensation, and stresses the importance of practice and hard work to improved.

This book can be - in my opinion - best looked at as a framework for forward progress in ones' social development. It contains all of the basics in every social area - verbal and non-verbal communication, overcoming shyness, overcoming rejections, changing ones' attitude towards past social perceived failures and rejection (my favorite parts of the book actually). It is a good starting point for an exploration of improving ones social skills.

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Simple. Straight. And to the point!

I love how simple and clear this book is! It breaks all the simple but the not so simple steps down that are required to make new friends! he makes everything clear as day and simple to apply!

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A little insulted but very helpful.

This may not apply to everyone but there was one chapter that just named off poor characteristics for conversations and I am guilty of most of them. I have a lot of work to to but starting conversations with people has become much easier.

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Repeating "you can do it"

Summary:: "you can do it, you can do it, you can do it". The end.

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If you are reading this....

Please get the book. It’s mind blowing!!
Things that you never knew, he will tell u about it!

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Great Hands in Notes

Wonderful report on how to improve social skills book. This is necessary book for anymore who is shy, socially awkward, wanting to socialize but feeling unable too, etc. I recommend everyone regardless read this book.

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A bit negative, but some good info

The author is a bit negative and projects on the reader that they’re shy and lonely and feel bad about themselves. It made it a little difficult to listen to, because I don’t identify with this. I feel anxious and avoidant, but I still act charismatic and outgoing. It’s just very uncomfortable for me, unless I’m with people I actually want to be with.

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Insightful

The topics include a broad enough range of behaviors and feelings to assist most anybody who would have interest in picking up this title. I feel better prepared to find more books that touch on the topics that I identified with.

You don’t necessarily need to fit into any of the categories outlined either; this is a great resource if you are just interested in understanding your atypical friends a little better.

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Seriously, this is the best

I think this book is exceptional. I’ve read other books on social anxiety and they were too depressing to get through.
This guy really relates to us and lights up the mood constantly. I find his explanations easy to understand and follow. I feel so much better now with what I’ve learned. Even though I have a long way to go to become actively social, I feel that I’m developing a great foundation.
And what else is great, he doesn’t push you to do anything crazy like saying hi to random people in the grocery store. To me that would only make me feel worse. His approach is so much better than that :)

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Very helpful and very thankful

I am very thankful for all the information given in this audiobook it had changed my social life and made me more confident. For me being social is a challenge, everything feels pre-calculated and it just doesn’t feel natural. Its stills feels like that but this audiobook had given me so many advices on how to improve my social life that even though I am scared, i am more than willing minded into putting all my fears aside to put everything in this audiobook into practice since its very important to me to let the people that I love to know that I am trying my hardest to be a better friend, a better family member, a better co-worker bc I honestly care more than what they think, I just don’t know how to socialize and show.
I show that I love them and care about them but by letters (bc I can express my self better in them) and by gifts but can’t seem to be able to show it more verbally and by socializing, etc. So, Again this author had given me hope and I want the author to know that It was very helpful and that I am very thankful for all the efforts put into this book.