The stories that pull at us, that keep us anxious and upset, that we tell ourselves over and over -- I'm not good enough. This isn't going to work. I've already tried this. – they all come from what we haven't healed.
Anat Peri has dedicated her life to teaching people how to heal, specifically when it comes to generational trauma. In this episode, Anat walks us through the five stages of healing and gives us a timeline for how long it takes to truly heal.
Anat says self-improvement found her at 25. She did her first self-development program and instantly felt at home. She loved witnessing people having breakthroughs and discovering who they really are.
But her business wouldn’t come for another 10 years. She says she felt like an imposter at the time. But she has no regrets, she herself, was healing and seeking the tools she needed.
“It's messy, it's uncomfortable, it's scary, it's painful,” says Anat. “It's all the fields. It's the full spectrum of our feelings and our emotions.”
Whether you're listening in and you are on your own healing journey, or you're a practitioner and you have clients understanding the five stages is going to show you either what stages you've skipped or what the stages are to guide you.
Stage 1: Awareness. Everyone comes with some step of awareness, but there is so much depth and exploration, even just in that stage of learning what safety strategies you use that keep you stuck. What limiting beliefs are running the show?
If you’re on your own healing journey, use a journal to dump everything unfiltered that is showing up and triggering you. Then go back and connect the dots by circling anywhere that you wrote “I feel … I am …” which will connect you back to your inner child. Your inner child is your emotion – it’s the part of you that feels and is holding your limiting beliefs.
Stage 2: Acceptance. This is the hardest stage for people to get past; it's the stage where people need the most support, says Anat. Acceptance means letting go that there's anything to fix or change, and most of the time there's still this programing in us who judges and wants it to change.
For some people, it's normal for them to live in chaos and anxiety. But then, being in peace and harmony, suddenly they're hypervigilant and self-sabotage it because it's unfamiliar.
In this stage, it's learning to observe what is happening at the level of sensation. We label things as “good or bad,” which becomes now I feel this way, how do I fix it? Instead, ask yourself where do you feel it in your body? Describe the sensation. When you speak in sensation, there is no good or bad – there just is.
“I want you to think about acceptance like you're in the ocean … and there's waves,” says Anat. “Your role in acceptance is you're learning to ride the wave instead of being afraid of it and dunking your head under or just breathing. You're riding it. You're learning to ride the wave of your emotion.”
Listen in for the last three stages of healing. Remember, healing takes time. It might be 18 months later and then you're good, and you don't even remember what it was like to be that other person.
Connect with guest Anat Peri: https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com
Other GoG episodes you might want to check out:
Committing Until It Takes with Kimberly Spencer
https://sarahwalton.com/business-commitment/
Sick of People Pleasing? Childhood Trauma Might Be The Source with Kalpa Gupta
https://sarahwalton.com/people-pleasing-trauma-response/
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