• What to Do With Those Big Emotions?
    Jul 25 2023

    Let’s just say it out loud. Big emotions from kids are hard. HARD. Your toddler falling to the floor in the middle of a store is HARD. Your kindergartner running away from you and screaming because they don’t want to wear their shoes at the park is HARD. Your teenager stomping down the hallway, shaking the windows with the force of their stomps, is HARD.

    Can we all agree? It’s not fun. It’s not easy. It rattles our nervous systems. It shakes us. It frustrates us. And all of that is normal.

    Learn four things to know and do to make big emotions easier for you and your kiddos to handle.

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    36 mins
  • Episode 38: How Will They Ever Learn?
    Aug 18 2022

    When I say something like, “This is how to parent without punishment,” people respond with comments like, “How will kids ever learn?” Or “What about when they’re in the real world?”

    It's a legitimate question based on how our society views parenting. This episode answers the question of "how will they learn" and gives you three non-punitive things to do to facilitate learning and growth for your child.

    Mentioned in this episode:

    How to Stop Yelling

    Back-and-Forth Journal

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    43 mins
  • Episode 37: When It’s Hard to Like People
    Aug 4 2022

    It’s a funny title, I know. But don’t we all just have a hard time liking certain people or groups of people sometimes? Listen in to learn how connected parenting principles can help us in all our relationships -- even with that cousin who’s always trying to pick a fight at family gatherings.

    Pssst... Learn how to stop yelling!

    Grab my back-and-forth journal here!

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    46 mins
  • Episode 36: You Have to Act
    Jun 8 2022

    You tell your child they can't hit their sibling. They look in your eyes and nod solemnly. They really seem to understand! Then two minutes later, they hit their sibling again!

    Aargh!

    Why do our kids not listen to us, and what can we do about it? Listen to four solid explanations about what's going on in your child's brain -- and what you can do differently.

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    46 mins
  • Episode 35: There Is No Perfect Consequence
    Apr 22 2022

    It's a common approach: searching for the right consequence to change a child's behavior. But listen in to learn why this mindset doesn't lead to the change we're actually seeking. And try a new approach to help your relationship, help your child be successful, and help you feel more confident that your child is learning what they need to learn.

    Mentioned in this episode: How to Stop Yelling

    Back-and-Forth Journal

    Episode 2: Society Says to Control Your Children. Say NO

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    47 mins
  • Episode 34: 4 Ways to Yell Less This Week
    Jan 12 2022

    Raise your hand if you need a reset! (My hand is raised too!) You're not alone if you're struggling to maintain composure as you parent. This episode has four actionable, doable tips to help you reduce your yelling, and increase your connecting, today.

    Mentioned in the episode:

    How to Stop Yelling Course

    Back-and-Forth Journal

    Episode 14: How to Recover After a Parenting Blowup

    Episode 9: 13 Easyish Ways to Connect With Your Kids

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    44 mins
  • Episode 33: An Example: Controlling Parenting to Connected Parenting
    Dec 17 2021

    This episode shares a real-life example of what I think connected parenting can look like. I often think it’s helpful to understand a concept when you can contrast it with something else. In this example, I show how my husband and I first parented in the more traditional way -- with threats and punishments and consequences -- and then how we switched back to connected parenting. In the end, I hope you will feel empowered.

    Mentioned in this episode: How to Stop Yelling

    Back-and-Forth Journal

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    40 mins
  • Episode 32: Make the Holidays Easy
    Nov 19 2021

    Here's your holiday pep talk to remind you that you don't have to do all the things and make everything perfect. Listen in for fun ideas to make the season easier and less expensive, and hear how to give yourself a break and actually enjoy the season -- the way YOU want to.

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Blog Post: When Christmas Is Depressing

    Transforming Christmas: How to Give Experiences

    First Name Basis Podcast: How to Center Indigenous Peoples During Thanksgiving

    Back-and-Forth Journal

    Pause and Connect Academy

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    43 mins