A lot of the conversations happening today are around how to be a good leader, especially a leader that is able to have empathy when they’re trying to get things done and have deadlines to complete. Leaders have a lot of pressure put on them to perform and sometimes can lose their cool on their people.

It is a common struggle among people who are leading or managing a team on how they can get their team to take action faster while still being able to use empathy when faced with unique challenges. It is not always an easy balance to be understanding and to be aggressive with adversity.

People who show up and say, ‘It’s my way or the highway.’ tend not to get far in their leadership career. The authoritative approach ends up being a more costly one later down the line. So, what makes a good leader successful? Usually they are patient and empathic. They are able to communicate effectively as well as listen to the concerns of their people.

To be a good leader, it’s also important to accept accountability for your actions; even when things go wrong. Good leaders also have the ability to build trust early on. How do they do this so quickly and effortlessly? A good resource to use is a book by Marshall Rosenberg called, Nonviolent Communication. In this book, he discusses the various ways you can build connection even during heavy conflict situations. It’s a must read for all inspiring leaders!

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If you have social anxiety, a lot of the time people associate that with shyness or introversion. It can be a bit strange to find out that extroverts might also struggle with social interactions and anxiety. These feelings are not mutually exclusive to one type of person!

We should clarify and define what introversion vs. extroversion is. People who are introverted prefer to recharge when they’re alone and extroverts tend to get their energy when they’re with people. However, when you are an outgoing person by nature with social anxiety, you can have an internal conflict happening.

There is also this notion that extroverted people are naturally the life of the party. When extroverts have an expectation to fill, this can cause even more nervousness for them, especially if they are known to be ‘fun and always down for a good time’. This is why it’s so important to not put people into boxes because none of us are immune to these feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and self-doubt.

If you’re an extrovert that craves to be around people, but you feel overwhelmed by their expectations or you feel like you have to ‘perform’ for others, then it’s important to start small. Go for the less-effort tiers of social situations that are not as triggering for you. This might be going to a friend’s house and just playing a video game together. This might be getting a cup of coffee, or doing a pet walking date. There are many low-tier ways to recharge your social battery without having the spotlight shine on you.

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Let’s talk about conscious parenting. It is very common to go through a rollercoaster of emotions when trying to raise your child, especially if you’re a first time parent. Sometimes we lose our cool and we don’t always react appropriately to a situation.

Kamini recently witnessed a father completely lose his cool and berate his daughter for walking off and out of sight. It can be scary to lose your child! However, this father was screaming at his 5-year-old daughter and it brought up some very uneasy feelings at how young this child was to be receiving this level of treatment.

The father even said at one point, “Name all the ways you were bad today.” Wow! It can be easy to judge, but this is how moments like this get internalized for children and carried into adulthood. This was very shaming language to use and not a great way to treat another person, much less a developing child.

It was obvious the father was in a dysregulated state due to something frightening occurring, but it is our jobs as parents to control ourselves and communicate to the best of our ability. If we are in this state, it’s important to recognize it and take time for ourselves to calm down, and then we can parent from an empowered and conscious state.

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