Parenthood doesn’t just change your schedule.

It shifts who you believe you are.

In this episode, we dive into those quiet, sometimes painful cracks in identity that open once kids arrive:

• the lost “you”,
• the unseen tensions in your relationship,
• the unmet expectations, and the longing to feel whole again.

We explore how couples can hold space for one another, learn tools to rebuild intimate connection, and begin to reclaim identity without resentment, guilt, or disconnection.

This isn’t about returning to “pre-kids you.”

It’s about integrating growth, grief, love, and change so your relationship and your sense of self can thrive.

Today, we explore:

1. How parenthood transforms your self-image, your role expectations & what you didn’t see coming.
2. Communication tools for couples: naming patterns, navigating the unspoken, co-regulation in moments of mismatch.
3. Practical micro-movements you can begin at home to restore connection & feel seen again.
4. The emotional insight: you don’t need to “fix” everything. Sometimes, being witnessed, naming the change, and leaning into vulnerability is the bridge to deeper intimacy.

If you’re feeling like you’ve lost bits of who you were, or if the person you’re in relationship with is changing in ways you didn’t expect, this episode is for you.

Listen in, let the discomfort teach you, and find space to rebuild together.

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com