There’s a silence most men carry—one shaped by shame, trauma, and a world that taught us to armor up instead of open up.In this raw and revelatory conversation, Dr. Gary Barker unpacks the unspoken pain men inherit and the quiet crisis of emotional disconnection shaping modern masculinity. From war zones to boardrooms, he’s seen the same wounds… and the same potential for healing.What if the strength we’ve been chasing is actually found in care?

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🔺Key Timestamps

00:00 – Intro to Masculinity and Gender Justice

00:42 – Meet Dr. Gary Barker – His Mission and Work

01:40 – What Inspired Gary to Work with Men & Masculinity

03:30 – The Culture of Silence Around Male Violence

05:15 – Feminist Movement in Latin America Called Men In

07:20 – Trauma in Boys: Childhood to Adulthood

09:10 – Violence Clothesline Exercise (Powerful Story)

10:40 – Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Pain

12:00 – Men’s Circles: Creating Safe Spaces

14:00 – Fatherhood & The Curious Inner Child

16:00 – Trauma Expression: Men vs Women

18:20 – Every Violent Man Was Once a Victim

20:30 – Group Healing Over Punishment

23:30 – Brazilian School Tribe Conflict Resolution

25:00 – Building Emotional Vocabulary for Men

28:10 – Getting Stuck in the Trauma Loop

30:30 – Self-Improvement Isn't a Solo Game

33:20 – Male Grit: Showing Up for the Tribe

35:10 – Stoicism & The “Work on Myself” Trap

38:00 – Young Men and the Pressure to Be Perfect

41:00 – Calling Men In, Not Just Calling Them Out

44:00 – The Disconnected Digital Manhood Crisis

46:30 – Incel Communities and Dangerous Isolation

49:30 – Fear of Rejection, Fear of Being Called Out

51:00 – Gym, Screens, and Loneliness in Young Men

53:00 – TV Series 'Adolescence' and Real-World Impact

56:00 – What is Mature Masculinity?

58:20 – “Exercise Your Care Muscles” – Final Message

01:00:30 – What Gives Dr. Gary Barker Hope