Episode Summary

In this episode, Georgie Fear explores the psychological chain reactions behind binge eating, revealing how it often serves as a rebound effect from excessive restraint and self-sacrifice. Through the story of Marta, a busy mom juggling family and business, listeners learn how binge eating isn't about selfishness—it's actually a compensation for too much selflessness.

Key Topics Covered

• Why binge eating doesn't occur in isolation—it's a rebound or "ricochet" from preceding circumstances
• The intersection of restraint and entitlement in disordered eating
• How excessive self-sacrifice during the day leads to compensatory eating behaviors
• The difference between healthy restraint and harmful restriction
• Why taking away the "problem food" isn't the solution

Main Story: Marta's Journey

Marta is a married mother of four who runs a home business while managing her children's busy schedules. Despite loving her life, she struggles with eating entire boxes of cookies in her car between errands. Georgie reveals how Marta's binge eating is actually an aftershock of practicing too much selflessness—skipping meals, ignoring her own needs, and constantly serving others.

Key Insights

• Binge eating behaviors can be understood as a solution rather than just a problem
• Strong emotional attachments to binge behaviors are normal—even when you desperately want to stop
• The solution isn't more restraint; it's learning to ease up on the excessive ways we restrict ourselves
• Not all restraint is bad—healthy restraint allows balanced decision-making

Action Steps Discussed

1. Allow yourself to rest when tired
2. Make time to eat proper meals
3. Give yourself permission to daydream and think about your own wants
4. Dedicate time to activities just for yourself
5. Explore what you want—not just what others need

Coming Up Next

The next episode will dive deeper into how food interacts with restraint, addressing the common belief that any restriction leads to disorder, and discussing how people with a history of disordered eating can still lose weight in a healthy way.

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Losing weight is probably one of the most common reasons we hear that people want to end their binge eating. It's the physical symbol of success and is most apparent to the world. Reasons for wanting to change their current state may also include bothersome achy knees, elevated blood pressure, or distress about not being a healthy role model. But the big thing that hurts them on a daily basis is the size, shape, or weight of their body.

If you want to stop binge eating mostly because you want to lose weight, that's a perfectly fine reason. The goal for today's episode is to help alleviate the frustration that can grow when you're doing the right things to stop binge eating, but your weight hasn't budged. Because if we don't address that frustration, it leads people to lose focus on binge eating recovery and start focusing instead on moving the scale.

We will discuss how the order of the stages of recovery matter, why weight loss before conquering binge eating doesn't work, and learn about the steps toward achieving both goals. We want to equip you with strategies to navigate your own journey to complete food freedom, including deliberate weight loss behaviors and maintaining long-term success.

Episode Timeline:
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:26 Client's Weight Loss Frustration

01:09 Understanding the Root Causes

04:28 Stages of Binge Eating Recovery

04:47 Initial Phase: Establishing Regular Meal Patterns

05:53 Building Self-Awareness

08:02 Re-patterning Responses

11:11 Optional Stage: Deliberate Weight Loss

15:05 Final Phase: Maintenance

16:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

Connect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches:

• Website
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Have you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

Have to do this. Can't eat that.

Over and over, these mandates drive a person crazy. Many of our clients say that it builds up over time, and they snap. They just want to eat and eat, in opposition to feeling pushed around by all the responsibilities and demands on them. They want to feel free, like they can have or do whatever they want in at least one small area of life. Can't food be the one place they get to cut loose?

In this episode, listen to Sarah's candid journey about her relationship with food and feelings of resentment. Discover three key strategies to overcome limiting beliefs and emotional eating: transforming 'have to' and 'can't' statements, engaging in activities that make you feel powerful and free, and accepting the realities of how food choices impact your well-being. Tune in as we dive into breaking habits, boosting motivation, and embracing the power of food for a healthier, happier life.

Episode Timeline:

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:26 Sarah's Struggle with Food Limits

01:27 Understanding Resentment and Emotional Eating

03:02 Breaking Free from Resentment

03:25 Reframing 'Have To' and 'Can't' Statements

07:16 Finding Power and Freedom in Other Activities

08:36 Accepting the Reality of Food Choices

11:02 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

Connect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches:

• Website
• Facebook
• Instagram

Have you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.