In this episode of Cancer Clear and Simple, Willie Scott Cooper reflects on caring for his younger brother during the final days of his life after a sudden cancer diagnosis.

What unfolds is a story of brotherhood, responsibility, and love carried across a lifetime into hospital rooms, late nights, and moments no family is ever ready for.

Willie speaks candidly about caregiving, masculinity, medical fear, and the weight carried by those who step in when it matters most. He also honors the village it takes to support a loved one, the family, friends, and community who showed up as Uncle Bug’s Army, each playing a role in care, strength, and connection.

“Nothing would mean more to me than knowing I saved one family from going through those days.”

This episode honors caregiving, the people who sit bedside, the power of community, and the importance of awareness to change what comes next.

Care can feel like a private storm—until someone holds the door, sends a goofy gif, or says me too. We sat down with comedian Jesús Trejo at the Carbone Cancer Center’s Fall Cancer Conference to unpack what caregiving really looks like across a lifetime: advocating for an aging parent, showing up through late-stage needs, and learning patience all over again with a six-month-old at home. The thread that connects it all is simple and hard at once—ask for help, take tiny pockets of time, and let humor do its quiet work.

Jesús shares how bringing caregiving stories to the stage turned isolation into connection. After shows, people would lean in with their own challenges, proving that honesty invites community. We explore why caregivers so often need the same two resources—time and laughter—and how to find both in practical ways: one-minute recharges, a quick walk, a supportive group chat, or a moment of gratitude that shifts the day’s center of gravity. The insights are grounded in personal experience and backed by research, making them as usable as they are human.

We also talk about perspective—the way care at the start and end of life mirrors itself, calling for patience, gentleness, and presence. Jesús explains how art and caregiving feed each other: comedy sharpens empathy, and caregiving gives comedy its heart. If you’re stepping into a caregiver role, you’ll hear a clear, compassionate message: show yourself grace, do the best you can with what you have today, and let small acts lighten the load.

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Caregiving changes you. Under the pressure of serious diagnoses and relentless decisions, we talk candidly about what keeps caregivers and clinicians going—and where the system falls short. With Dr. Noelle Loconte, a GI medical oncologist and community outreach leader at the UW Carbone Cancer Center, we unpack the skills that protect empathy, the boundaries that prevent collapse, and the uncomfortable truth so many avoid: alcohol is a carcinogen.

We explore why oncologists—already at high risk for burnout—often consume more alcohol and may hesitate to counsel patients about drinking. You’ll hear how an ASCO policy statement turned into a national wake-up call, the seven cancers firmly linked to alcohol (with more likely to come), and why tobacco’s clearer risk made it easier to communicate than alcohol’s nuanced reality. Then we shift from headlines to what actually helps: knowing your family history, understanding real drink sizes, following current guidelines, and staying on schedule with breast and colorectal screening. We also outline symptoms that should never be ignored, from difficulty swallowing to blood in the stool, and how to bring alcohol risk into an honest, judgment-free conversation with your clinician.

Caregiving needs infrastructure, not just inspiration. We make the case for flagging caregivers in health records, building a caregiver registry to track burden and outcomes, and compensating in-home care. On the ground, simple moves can change the day: add caregivers to patient portals with consent, use training apps and one-hour courses to build practical skills, and embrace humor as a powerful coping tool. Dr. Loconte shares a moving story from geriatrics that reframes the physician’s role as hands-on caregiver—proof that small acts of care carry profound weight.

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