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In this episode, Dr. Tay chats with Jessie Mewshaw, a speech language pathologist, to discuss the often overlooked topic of medium and high support needs in autism. They dive into why this conversation is vital, sharing personal experiences and professional insights. Jessie discusses her unique journey into the field and her current work with nonspeaking and minimally speaking autistic individuals. Key themes include the importance of neurodiversity-affirming care, better training and support for providers and caregivers, and the need for more accessible and financially supported resources. The episode also highlights the significance of listening to diverse autistic voices and fostering a community that supports all levels of need.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:44 Meet Jessie Mewshaw: Speech Language Pathologist

01:21 Welcome to the Podcast: Dr. Tay's Background

06:01 Jesse's Journey into Speech Pathology

07:46 Experiences in Australia: Life-Changing Lessons

12:47 Challenges in the US: Lack of Support Programs

17:18 Evaluation Barriers and Presuming Competence

21:55 The Importance of Motor Systems in Autism

27:44 Navigating the Journey Together

28:24 The Importance of Medical Training

30:11 Understanding Dysregulation

34:08 Voices of Families

38:01 Advocacy and Community

43:46 Challenges in Neurodivergent Care

50:21 Call to Action and Resources

50:48 Remembering Victor Perez

51:59 Final Thoughts and Connections

RESOURCES

⚡️ example accounts of moderate and high support need autistic individuals:

@aether.autistic

@angry_autist

@blackspectrumscholar

@charliesvoice1

@dannywithwords

@getaway_autist_mobile

@justkeepstimming

@kaishawna_music

@quirkthriveswithnoah

@zebulontheplanet

⚡️ connect with Jessie on Instagram @ms_jessies_speech_world and explore her services here

⚡️ resource for non-speaking individuals >> When Models Aren't "Sticking": A One-Day Intensive for Supporting Minimally Speaking GLPs (use code JESSIE for 10% off)

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In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses the current uncertainties of the autism space and how it applies to clinical practice, her personal business, and your parenting journey. She provides an honest reflection on the challenges of navigating unknowns, both personally and within the context of autism care. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of serving oneself, building resiliency, and creating community support. She offers practical tips and shares her experiences to help parents make decisions about evaluating and supporting their autistic children amidst the current political climate. Throughout the episode, she encourages listeners to adopt a balanced approach, integrating self-care and external support while fostering a sense of community.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Updates

00:51 Navigating the Unknowns

01:30 About Dr. Tay and the Podcast

02:32 Current Issues in Autism and Evaluations

09:47 Empowering Parents in Decision Making

13:19 Personal Reflections and Business Adjustments

22:15 Self-Care and Serving Your Family

26:48 Addressing the Inner Critic

27:09 Understanding the Marching Order Part

27:45 The Fear of Stopping

28:02 Balancing Helper Identity and Self-Care

29:20 Integrating Internal Family Systems

29:55 Practical Tips for Self-Understanding

30:49 Navigating Financial Conversations with Kids

32:33 Building a Support Network

33:06 The Importance of Vulnerability

33:57 Reevaluating and Pausing for Clarity

36:06 The Tower Moment Analogy

43:00 Creating Community and Connection

47:15 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

48:13 Ways to Get More Value

RESOURCES

⚡️Dive deeper with episodes mentioned: 38 on human design, 118 on sensory regulation supports (with Courtney English) and 164 on reasons to get evaluated now

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Think of this episode like sitting down with Dr. Tay to chat about a variety of topics, while she is getting ready for morning sessions. She shares her struggles with neck pain and ties it to stress and shame while discussing the application to your parenting journey. Dr. Tay then dives into the recent political climate, particularly RFK Jr.'s controversial remarks about autism and the proposed national registry. She discusses the ongoing robust research into the causes of autism, language use in the autism community, and the importance of supporting high support needs families.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup

01:06 Personal Updates and Daily Life

01:25 Stress and Physical Health

05:13 Therapy and Somatics

07:46 Shame and Parenting

09:34 Political Climate and Autism

10:09 RFK Junior's Remarks on Autism

11:14 Autism Research and Funding

23:17 National Autism Registry Concerns

26:04 Conclusion and Future Plans

Like the format of this podcast? Let Dr. Tay know! She is exploring options for how to best serve you through this podcast!

RESOURCES

⚡️Instagram posts referenced in this episode >>

@autismoutloud’s post on autism research funding

@fidget.and.fries post on high support needs and a false sense of hope

⚡️while the national autism registry was only briefly touched on (more to come here and/or on Dr. Tay’s social media), you can take action now and express your concerns to your representatives. thanks to @blackspectrumscholar, here are templates you can use

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Dr. Tay is joined by Camille Joy, an advocate and host of the Moments of Joy podcast. They discuss Camille's journey as a mother of five boys, including her youngest son Maison, who has a congenital heart defect, autism, and intellectual disability. They dive into the importance of early diagnosis, navigating the education system, and advocating for children's needs. Camille shares her experiences with challenging the status quo, particularly around getting Maison access to music and art classes. The conversation also touches on emotional processing, the significance of support systems, and Camille's initiatives including her podcast and children's book, The Adventures of Maison and Mr. Straw: Mac and Cheese Please.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

00:44 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

01:55 Camille Joy's Family and Advocacy Journey

02:36 Maison's Diagnosis and Early Intervention

03:26 Challenges and Realizations in Parenting

05:28 Navigating Medical and Educational Systems

10:29 Advocating for Mason's Education

17:08 Using AI for Advocacy and Legal Rights

21:17 Understanding the Importance of Data Collection

22:15 Advocating for Your Child's Needs

25:34 Navigating Emotional Challenges

33:25 The Journey of Starting a Podcast

35:46 Introducing Maison's Adventures

39:25 Conclusion and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ purchase Camille and Maison’s book here (profits go directly to a savings account for Maison)

⚡️ listen in to the Moments of Joy podcast here

⚡️follow her on Instagram, TikTok, & Facebook

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In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares what families with autistic children are ACTUALLY doing in terms of therapy and support services. Emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity, Dr. Tay discusses common therapies like ABA, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and mental health support. The episode also highlights the significance of individualized plans tailored to each family's needs and reminds parents that it's okay to prioritize their child's well-being and capacity over an overwhelming number of services. Real-life examples from listeners are included to illustrate the diverse approaches families take. Dr. Tay encourages parents to trust their intuition and focus on what truly benefits their child.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:20 Understanding Therapy Options

01:36 Balancing Therapy Demands

02:57 Real-Life Family Experiences

04:09 Diverse Therapy Approaches

11:42 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement

RESOURCES

⚡️ additional episodes that may be helpful: "26 | why ABA therapy is controversial?", "31 | three "system issues" you may be facing with your child's autism care", and "110 | what is PDA?"

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Dr. Tay explores the concept of declarative language and its benefits, especially for demand-avoidant children, with Linda Murphy—a speech therapist, RDI consultant, writer, and expert on the topic. They discuss the definition of declarative language and how it differs from demand-based phrases, emphasizing the importance of thoughtful communication that invites a collaboration. Linda shares insights from her book Declarative Language Handbook and provides practical strategies for parents to effectively use declarative language. They also cover topics such as building self-advocacy, fostering cognitive flexibility, and managing sibling conflicts through this approach. The importance of mindset shifts is emphasized as well as the continuous learning process in order to improve communication with autistic children.

00:00 Introduction to Declarative Language

00:30 Meet Linda Murphy: Expert in Declarative Language

02:12 Understanding Declarative Language

03:37 The Power of Declarative Language

05:29 Practical Examples and Strategies

08:47 Proactive Conversations and Mindset Shifts

16:05 Dynamic Support and Scaffolding

22:17 Direct vs. Indirect Declarative Language

25:40 Introduction to PDA and Indirect Language

26:18 Experimenting with Communication Strategies

26:53 Building Transparent Communication

28:23 Practical Examples and Techniques

29:48 Using Declarative Language in Different Scenarios

33:13 Modeling and Validating Emotions

45:00 Declarative Language with Non-Speaking Individuals

48:34 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ continue learning at declarativelanguage.com, including ordering Linda's books and checking out the resources referenced in the episode (types of DL and direct language for PDAers)

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Note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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In this mini-episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of noticing and reinforcing small wins in the autism parenting journey. Emphasizing the balance between avoiding toxic positivity and acknowledging positive moments, Dr. Tay explains how behaviorism done in a neurodiversity affirming way can play a role in promoting desired behaviors in autistic children. She shares practical tips on how parents can start recognizing subtle behavioral shifts and reinforce them to facilitate positive change. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Dr. Tay offers valuable strategies for improving parent-child interactions and fostering an environment where small steps are celebrated on the way to achieving bigger goals.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:04 Understanding the Concept of Wins

01:45 Behaviorism and Neurodiversity Affirming Approaches

02:57 Practical Examples and Strategies

07:57 The Importance of Interpretation

09:04 Reinforcing Small Wins

12:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

RESOURCES

⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

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Dr. Tay welcomes Lo Farmer to discuss the role of parental advocacy. Lo shares her journey from discovering her son's developmental delays to advocating for equitable access to services. Highlighted topics include the emotional and logistical challenges of getting a diagnosis, the broken support systems for special needs families, and Lo's significant efforts to change policies at the Fort Worth Zoo regarding 1:1 aides. Dr. Tay and Lo emphasize the importance of community support, the need for systemic change, and the value of giving parents grace during this demanding journey.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Theme

00:23 Inspiring Quote and Guest Introduction

01:35 Welcome to the Parenting Space

02:42 Guest's Background and Family Journey

03:45 Challenges in Accessing Services

05:07 The Broken System and Advocacy

07:29 Navigating Diagnosis and Support

10:54 The Emotional Toll and Parental Grief

15:58 Public Advocacy and Viral Impact

20:44 Facing Legal Challenges Without a Lawyer

21:15 Empowering Special Needs Moms

21:43 Strategic Advocacy for Change

22:31 The Zoo Inclusion Controversy

22:57 Navigating Support Systems

24:10 The Importance of Familiarity in Care

28:36 Advocacy Goals and Personal Challenges

35:40 Parental Stress and Community Support

39:40 Wrapping Up and Staying Connected

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Lo on Instagram @sipdinedesign and continue to hear her updates on inclusion

⚡️ research article about parental stress discussed in episode linked here

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