What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

What if the very love you’re giving is the thing keeping you stuck?

In this powerful episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, host Anita Sandoval, LPC, sits down with Dr. Eluterio Blanco, Jr., Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor and Nationally Certified Master Addiction Counselor, to unpack one of the most dangerous myths women believe:

“If I love them enough, they’ll change.”

Together, we explore how addiction isn’t just about substances—it’s about compulsive behavior, loss of choice, and continuing patterns despite negative consequences. We also examine how people pleasing and codependency can function like an addiction, keeping women emotionally bonded to unhealthy relationships and chronic burnout.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why love, pressure, and ultimatums don’t create real change
• What addiction really means (and why language matters)
• The difference between supporting recovery and enabling harm
• How intrinsic motivation—not sacrifice—is the foundation of change
• Why boundaries don’t fix them, but they do free you
• How women can begin reclaiming their voice, identity, and self-trust

This conversation is compassionate, honest, and empowering—especially for women navigating relationships affected by substance use, compulsive behaviors, or emotional over-functioning.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, or confused by giving everything and still feeling like it’s not enough… this episode is for you.

🔗 Connect & Learn More

📚 Recommended Reading
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Some links may be affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. I only share resources I personally trust and recommend.

🌸 EmpowerHer Pathways & Resources
👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/empowerher/links

🎧 Listen to More Episodes
👉 Empowering Women in Conversations (available on all major podcast platforms)
https://www.anitasandoval.com/podcast-directories

💌 Join the EmpowerHer Community
Support, resources, and conversations for women moving from people-pleasing to empowered living.

🎓 About Our Guest
Dr. Eluterio Blanco, Jr. is a Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor, Nationally Certified Master Addiction Counselor, and Clinical Associate Professor at The University of Texas Rio Grande Valley, where he coordinates the Bachelor of Science in Addiction Studies.

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

What if your “little food problem” — the restriction, bingeing, or rigid food rules — is actually your nervous system trying to survive?

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Marnie Davis, LMHC, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and Consultant, Certified EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA-Approved Consultant, and HAES®-aligned clinician.

Together, we explore the hidden link between people pleasing, trauma, neurodivergence, and eating disorders — and why so many women, clinicians, and families completely miss what’s really happening beneath the surface.

This is a compassionate, non-shaming, neurodivergent-affirming episode that reframes eating disorders from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me, and how did my system try to keep me alive?”

✨ In This Episode, We Explore:

• How, from a trauma lens, eating disorders are maladaptive coping strategies that once made sense to your system
• The impact of attachment injuries, perfectionism, and people-pleasing on food, body image, and control
• Why eating disorders are not about vanity or willpower, but about safety, power, and relief from overwhelming sensations and emotions
• The role of culture, family rules, and “finish your plate” messages in shaping food beliefs
• How neurodivergent brains (ADHD, autism, sensory sensitivities) can be especially vulnerable to disordered eating
• Why one person dies every hour from an eating disorder and why a comprehensive medical + therapeutic team is crucial
• What healing can look like: becoming more self-led, value-driven, and authentically you

👤 Connect with Our Guest: Marnie Davis, LMHC, CEDS
Website:
🔗 www.MarnieDavisLMHC.com
Email:
📩 Marnie@MarnieDavisLMHC.com

LinkedIn:
🔗 https://www.linkedin.com/in/marnie-davis-lmhc-ceds-c-33187b45/Instagram:
🔗 @marniedavislmhcFacebook:
🔗 MarnieDavisLMHC
🔗 Davis Counseling and Consulting

🌿 Connect with Your Host, Anita Sandoval, MA, LPC-S
🔗 All My Links & Resources:
Start here for everything: podcast, free tools, courses, communities & more.
👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/empowerher/links
🎧 Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Platform:
Find Empowering Women in Conversations on all major podcast directories.
👉 https://www.anitasandoval.com/podcast-directories

💌 If This Episode Spoke To You…

• Share it with a friend, client, or loved one who struggles with food, people pleasing, or feeling “never enough.”
• Subscribe so you don’t miss future conversations on people pleasing, boundaries, trauma, neurodivergence, and empowered living.
• Take a quiet moment after listening to ask yourself:

You’re not broken. You’re a system that learned how to survive. 🩷

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

Why are so many women struggling with reflux, IBS, bloating, and chronic stomach pain—despite changing diets, taking supplements, and doing “all the right things”?

In this powerful episode, Dr. Scott Rower, PhD—clinical psychologist and founder of Rest and Digest—joins Anita Sandoval LPC-S to reveal the real root cause of women’s gut issues: the gut–brain connection and the hidden impact of chronic stress, overgiving, and people-pleasing.

If you’ve ever wondered why your symptoms flare during stress, why tests come back “normal,” or why your digestion falls apart during burnout… this conversation may completely change the way you see your body.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why women are more likely to develop gut problems—especially people-pleasers
• How the sympathetic nervous system shuts down digestion (and what to do about it)
• The difference between functional GI disorders and organic diseases
• The “stress bucket” model and why your symptoms flare on overload
• What GI psychology is—and why most people have never heard of it
• The 3 pillars of digestive healing (medical, diet, and gut-brain regulation)
• Why guilt, perfectionism, and emotional suppression fuel gut symptoms
• How to begin down-regulating your nervous system so your gut can finally heal

🌿 Connect With Dr. Scott Rower

Explore his free resources and gut-brain healing tools:

🔗 Website: www.restanddigest.org

🔗 Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/RestAndDigest

🔗 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RestAndDigestGuide

🔥 Key Moments:

• 00:04:00 — The three pillars of gut healing
• 00:07:00 — Why slowing down feels unsafe to people-pleasers
• 00:14:00 — Sympathetic overdrive and digestive shutdown
• 00:17:00 — The stress-bucket overflow and gut responders
• 00:23:00 — What “disorders of gut–brain interaction” really are
• 00:33:00 — Polyvagal theory and why safety matters for digestion
• 00:39:00 — The truth about resentment, guilt, and chronic symptoms

✨ If You’re a Woman Healing From People-Pleasing…

This episode is for you. Awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your health, your boundaries, and your peace.

✨ Work With Anita & Begin Healing People-Pleasing

Ready to stop overgiving, reclaim your boundaries, and finally honor your emotional and physical energy?

Join my transformational 12-Step People-Pleaser Recovery Group:
👉 www.anitasandoval.com/support

Explore more ways to work with me, including courses, resources, and community support:
👉 www.anitasandoval.com

Listen to more empowering conversations on the podcast:
👉 www.anitasandoval.com/podcast

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

STOP HEALING WRONG: Why Mindfulness, Not Hustle, Ends Toxic Cycles with Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat

If you’ve been trying to heal by doing more—reading more, achieving more, fixing more—this episode will feel like a breath of truth.
Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat, Registered Psychologist, Certified Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Teacher, and Founder of the Center for Mindfulness Canada, joins Anita Sandoval to unravel one of the biggest misconceptions in healing: you can’t hustle your way out of pain.

Together they explore how mindfulness invites you to slow down, reconnect to your body, and end the toxic cycles of people-pleasing, burnout, and emotional self-abandonment.

🪞 In This Episode You’ll Learn:

📍 Why “doing more” can actually deepen emotional burnout
📍 How mindfulness helps you notice when old people-pleasing patterns return
📍 The power of non-judgmental awareness and self-compassion
📍 Why curiosity is a superpower in your healing journey
📍 How to tell when you’re safe to trust again after trauma
📍 Practical tools to ground yourself when emotions feel overwhelming

🧘‍♂️ Connect With Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat:

🌐 Website → centreformindfulness.ca

🌐 Personal Site → drkasimalmashat.com

📱 Instagram → @dr.kasimalmashat

✨ Ready to take the next step?
Join the EmpowerHer Women’s Community for exclusive support, mindfulness resources, and connection:
👉 www.anitasandoval.com

🌿 Coming Soon: The 12-Step People Pleasing Recovery Program — designed for women who are done fixing everyone else and are ready to reclaim their power.

💖 Need quick relief?
Start with the 5-Day Relief Program — your gentle reintroduction to calm, clarity, and confidence.

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

Now That the Mask Is Off: Navigating Love, Boundaries & Burnout as Neurodivergent Adults (Part 2 w/ Eric Tivers)

What if taking the mask off isn’t the end—but the beginning of finding love, belonging, and peace as your authentic self?

In Part Two of my conversation with Eric Tivers—Licensed Clinical Social Worker, ADHD coach, and host of ADHD ReWired—we explore what life looks like once you stop people-pleasing and start living unmasked.

Eric shares the truth about:
✨ The difference between fitting in and belonging
⚡ Why consistency isn’t the goal—resilience is
💗 How community and accountability help ADHD adults thrive
🌿 The power of being loved because of who you are, not despite it

If you missed Part 1, start there first: listen in:

Or watch with the amazing visual for my neurodivergent community:

Video: Unmasking the People Pleaser

That’s where we unpack how masking begins and how unmasking starts the journey toward authentic living.

Then come back for Part 2 to learn how to build healthier relationships, find your people, and protect your peace.

💡 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Fitting in disconnects you—belonging heals you.
2️⃣ ADHD growth = resilience, not perfection.
3️⃣ Accountability and safe community create lasting change.

🔔 ⏰ Time-Sensitive Announcements:

💻 ADHD ReWired Accountability Groups – Open Enrollment Now!
If you’ve been waiting to join a supportive ADHD community that helps you stay consistent, connected, and confident—this is your moment.
👉 Apply before registration closes: https://www.adhdrewired.com

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

Unmasking the People Pleaser: How ADHD and AuDHD Shape Relationship Struggles
with Eric Tivers, LCSW – Founder of ADHD reWired

What if your people-pleasing isn’t weakness—what if it’s masking?

In this deeply honest and eye-opening episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, host Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, is joined by Eric Tivers, LCSW and founder of ADHD reWired, to explore the powerful intersection of neurodivergence and relational patterns—especially in women who are recovering people pleasers.

We explore:

• What is AuDHD and how it shows up differently in women
• Why ADHD and Autism are often missed or misdiagnosed
• The emotional and relational toll of masking and people-pleasing
• Real stories of late diagnosis, sensory overload, and emotional burnout
• The difference between kindness and character, and how masking can impact intimacy, boundaries, and belonging
• How ADHD reWired’s Adult Study Hall and coaching groups help bridge the gap between intention and action

You’ll hear vulnerable stories, laugh-out-loud moments, and radical truth-telling that will make you feel seen, validated, and empowered.

Whether you’re neurodivergent, wondering if you might be, or supporting someone who is—this conversation will open your eyes and soften your heart.

✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/4MTkgHpqAoI

🔗 Links & Resources

🎧 Connect with Eric Tivers:

🌐 Website: https://www.adhdrewired.com

🎙️ Podcast: ADHD reWired on Apple

💻 Adult Study Hall Virtual Co-Working: https://www.adhdrewired.com/studyhall

🧠 Coaching Groups: https://www.adhdrewired.com/coaching-rewired

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

What if the very things you’ve been told are weaknesses… were actually the reasons different brains win in business and life?

This 13-minute After Show episode goes deeper into the gifts of neurodivergent brains. Christine Molina, LCSW, and I explore how ADHDers and Autistic individuals bring innovation, structure, creativity, and resilience to business and everyday life.

What we cover:

• ADHD as a visionary, risk-taking, people-focused brain
• Autism as a precision, system-building, detail-driven brain
• The unique blend of AUDHD and how it balances both gifts and struggles
• Why companies, communities, and families need different brains to thrive
• 🌟 The “double gift” of AUDHD — big-picture vision + detail mastery
• 🧠 How to embrace your own strengths instead of fighting your wiring

This After Show is just for you — because the more we talk about these differences, the more we normalize them as strengths.

✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/TT8cdXWuhyU

✨ Takeaway: You’re not broken. Your brain may be wired differently — but that wiring holds the very gifts that create progress, efficiency, and change.

🎧 Main Episode: Fixing What Isn’t Broken with Christine Molina

🌐 Connect with Christine Molina:

• Website: christinemolinacounseling.com
• Resources: christinemolinacounseling.com/resources
• ADHD Counseling: christinemolinacounseling.com/adhd-counseling
• FAQ: christinemolinacounseling.com/commonly-asked-questions
• LinkedIn: Christine Molina, LCSW

🌐 Connect with Anita Sandoval:

Website: www.anitasandoval.com

YouTube: Empowering Women In Conversations

Instagram: @anita_sandoval

LinkedIn: Anita Sandoval

🌟 Free Masterclass: 5 Days to Start Saying No: The First Step from People-Pleaser to Empowered

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!

Fixing What Isn’t Broken: People Pleasing, ADHD, Autism, and the Gift of Difference with Christine Molina, LCSW

Have you ever felt like you’re broken because you struggle with people pleasing, ADHD, or Autism? In this powerful episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, sits down with Christine Molina, LCSW, EMDRIA-Approved Consultant, trainer, and neurodiversity advocate, to challenge the medical model myths and reframe how we see our brains.

Christine shares:

• 🔎 Why ADHD and Autism aren’t “disorders to fix” but unique wiring that holds incredible gifts.
• 💡 How people pleasing often develops as a survival response — and how to unlearn it.
• 🧠 Why understanding your brain is the first step to healing shame, trauma, and negative self-beliefs.
• 💪 The strengths neurodivergent partners bring into relationships — and why every brain has value.

My takeaway from this conversation:
Neurodivergence is not a flaw — it’s a gift. It’s like speaking a different language or coming from a different culture. Once we stop trying to “translate” everyone into the same way of thinking, we can embrace the richness of those differences. Every brain brings its own wisdom, its own rhythm, and its own strengths. The real empowerment comes from seeing those differences not as barriers, but as bridges to understanding and connection.

✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/CdVBXYAukeA

This conversation will change the way you see yourself. You’re not broken—you’re becoming.

🌐 Connect with Christine Molina:

• Website: christinemolinacounseling.com
• Resources: christinemolinacounseling.com/resources
• ADHD Counseling: christinemolinacounseling.com/adhd-counseling
• FAQ: christinemolinacounseling.com/commonly-asked-questions
• LinkedIn: Christine Molina, LCSW

🌐 Connect with Anita Sandoval:

Website: www.anitasandoval.com

YouTube: Empowering Women In Conversations

Follow: Follow this podcast

Ready to stop people pleasing and step into your power? Join Anita’s free masterclass: 5 Days to Start Saying No

👉 Continue your journey: Watch the last episode — Running on Empty: How to Reclaim Your Energy and Stop People Pleasing