We discuss why we shouldn't downplay things that are actually important to us (such as saying “I don’t care about my birthday” if you do care). We also review some fun new travel terms, such as "townsizing" and "JOMO travel," and we address the problem of waiting until we're ready to make big decisions. Plus, we tackle a listener's question about dealing with a spouse who makes hurtful comments disguised as jokes.

Resources & links related to this episode:

• Order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
• The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (Amazon, Bookshop)
• After Hours with Jamie Rubin podcast
• The latest travel lingo
• A Little Happier: The Power of Telling the Truth: What Nebraska's and Oslo's Tourists Know
• Happier in Hollywood Substack
• Secrets of Adulthood Substack
• Design Your Summer Worksheet
• Elizabeth is reading: Year Zero: A History of 1945 by Ian Baruma (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop)

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