#82 – Survive and Thrive

Beyond Your Divorce

Guest: Dr. Dale Brown

Act Like Men- Men’s Leadership Podcast

Podcast Show Notes

Every week there are 15,000 divorces in America. Divorce affects everyone in the equation. Since more than 70% of divorces are filed by the wives, it affects men differently. This statistic tells us divorce is an epidemic today, in and out of the church. Culturally we see that relationships are throw away and the impact has generational consequences. If there was ever a time to support men going through and following a divorce, the time is now.

While divorce is not God’s design for marriage, given the statistics today, supporting men going through or learning to live after a divorce is critical. That is where ministries like the one our guest leads today come into play. It is also very important that our local churches step into this and provide support and direction for the men of the church.

Our guest today is Dr. Dale Brown. He is the founder of Men’s Divorce Recovery: https://www.mensdivorcerecovery.org

As you will hear when you listen, Dr. Brown has some tremendous insights that are both practical and thoughts we may not be able to think of at the time.

Here are just a handful of things to consider in the divorce:

1. Know that this too shall pass – you will get through this.
2. Don’t give in to what you are feeling – lasting impacts come from foolish decisions when you are trying to avoid the pain. It is easy to medicate, react, and blame. None of that has any long-term benefit and in most cases has negative short and long-term impacts.
3. Build a healthy team around you – a counselor, an attorney, financial advisor, medical doctor, and a couple of impartial friends whose only job is to be present.
4. Protect the kids – they will automatically believe it is their fault. Do not speak ill of your spouse (their mother). They cannot get caught in the middle.
5. Don’t give up – Back to #1 – you will come out on the other side. Do what you have to do to come out healthy and able to move forward.

Men – you are not alone, but you will have to take the initiative to reach out and ensure you are getting the support and help you need to work through this while protecting children who may be caught in the middle.

God loves you and will not leave you during this challenge. No matter what you have done or not done to create what you are walking through – He will not leave you.

Dr. Brown has a devotional book that you can order from his website listed below: The Daily Survival Guide for Divorced Men. We encourage you to order one for yourself, perhaps several to give out to men who are experiencing divorce in your local church.

To reach out to our guest, Dr. Dale Brown you can:

1. Reach Dale or his team directly: hello@mensdivorcerecovery.org
2. Find resources and help on his website, as well as order his devotional book: Daily Survival Guide for Divorced Men https://www.mensdivorcerecovery.org

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