Épisodes

  • The Scapegoat Protocol: A 'Liar, Liar' Masterclass

    The Scapegoat Protocol: A 'Liar, Liar' Masterclass
    Nov 16 2025
    In the podcast episode of Femme on the Spectrum, Elizabeth explores the challenges neurodivergent women face in dysfunctional family dynamics, particularly those on the autism spectrum. She discusses why these women are often cast as the family scapegoats and how their characteristics, such as pattern recognition, a heightened sense of justice, and direct communication, threaten such systems. Elizabeth also discusses the 'Liar' Protocol, which includes gaslighting and DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics, often used to suppress the valid concerns of autistic individuals and paint them as the instigator of the conflict. Moreover, Elizabeth stresses the importance of setting boundaries and differentiates it from holding a grudge, emphasizing that boundaries are necessary for self-protection. The episode ends with reflection questions for the audience and a strong affirmation of their experiences and the strength in their distinct characteristics.
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    22 min
  • The "Vile Human" & The Family Enforcer

    The "Vile Human" & The Family Enforcer
    Nov 16 2025
    In this intense episode of Femme on the Spectrum, Elizabeth explores the challenging dynamics of unmasking her neurodivergence within her family and the torrents of criticism it incites, particularly from her 'family enforcer,' Cousin Kimmy. Elizabeth highlights patterns in neurodivergent individuals' interactions with their families, their inherent need for truth-telling, and how these traits can be misconstrued as attacks against their families. The episode dissects the harmful messages they receive, their psychological implications, and the motivations behind them, like maintaining family loyalty and status quo. The episode emphasizes that such reactions can be an affirmation of the neurodivergent's discerning nature and are thus initial steps towards their truth. The show ends with a reflective discussion, encouraging listeners to understand that recognizing and affirming their truth is a superpower.
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    27 min
  • The Aunt, The Apology, and The Professional Gaslight

    The Aunt, The Apology, and The Professional Gaslight
    Nov 9 2025
    The Femme on the Spectrum podcast, hosted by Elizabeth Bucher, provides a safe space where neurodivergent individuals, including those with autism and ADHD, can explore and celebrate their unique perspectives on life's significant issues. In this episode, they delve into the pivotal concepts of justice, truth, and discernment as experienced from a neurodivergent perspective. A listener's real-life dilemma involving her aunt serves as the springboard for a discussion on the clash between the autistic dedication to truth and societal expectations for peacekeeping at all costs. The episode underscores the significance of standing firm in one's truth even under pressure to conform, highlighting patterns of systemic mistreatment and the often misunderstood 'identified patient' dynamic. Additionally, the show explores the crucial role of personal discernment as a counter to gaslighting attempts and as a tool for self-preservation. Elizabeth extends this empowering discussion with engaging mic-drop moments, thought-provoking reflection questions, and a rallying call for listeners to keep embracing their neurodivergence.
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    24 min
  • Blindsided: The Love That Wasn’t, and the Awakening That Saved Me

    Blindsided: The Love That Wasn’t, and the Awakening That Saved Me
    Oct 5 2025
    The podcast script is an intense account of host Elizabeth's life journey, particularly her struggles in a toxic and manipulative relationship while also dealing with neurodivergence, specifically autism and ADHD. She also recounts experiencing cancer and the emotional impact this had compounded by a lack of support. The podcast is an unflinching exploration of themes such as love, trust, betrayal, and resilience. It provides a candid look into the hardships and traumas faced by Elizabeth, but it also emphasizes her determination and strength in the face of adversity. Throughout the narrative, she shares her experiences in dealing with a partner who was manipulative and unsupportive, financial struggles, and being a single mother. However, Elizabeth’s primary message is directed towards fostering resilience and empowerment, using one's experiences as stepping stones to a stronger self, and recognizing the importance of self-worth.
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    43 min
  • C-PTSD & Autism: Trauma, Stats & Laughs (Because Crying in Public is Exhausting)

    C-PTSD & Autism: Trauma, Stats & Laughs (Because Crying in Public is Exhausting)
    Jun 25 2025
    In this episode of "Femme on the Spectrum," host Elizabeth addresses the interrelation of Complex PTSD and autism. Drawing on research, she highlights the significant percentage of autistic individuals experiencing PTSD due to a neurotypical world that doesn't cater to their needs. She explains trauma sources, including sensory overload, social exclusion, difficulty in expressing emotions, and masking to resemble neurotypicals. As part of this podcast, Elizabeth also introduces listeners to coping strategies, from sensory aids, specialized therapy, routines, to the power of laughter. Furthermore, she recommends resources such as the CPTSD Foundation, the Autistic Self Advocacy Network, and impactful books like “Unmasking Autism.” Elizabeth's focus is on the collective healing of her audience, assuring them they can thrive in spite of trauma.
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    14 min
  • CPTSD vs Autism/ADHD — A Clinical & Personal Breakdown

    CPTSD vs Autism/ADHD — A Clinical & Personal Breakdown
    May 24 2025
    In this episode of Femme on the Spectrum, host Elizabeth explored the relationship between CPTSD, autism, and ADHD. She discussed how these conditions can intersect and influence each other, providing insights into the symptom confusion often faced while diagnosing and treating these disorders. Elizabeth also related her personal experiences as a high-functioning autistic mom, ADHD-powered entrepreneur, and a grad student of social work, who has also experienced trauma. The show featured expert insights into the complex interplay of neurodivergence and trauma, and offered actionable tips for coping with these challenges, from trauma-informed therapy to somatic work and self-validation. The episode's goal is to help listeners not just survive, but thrive in the face of these unique challenges.
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    19 min
  • The Narcissist, The People-Pleaser & The Covert Puppet Master

    The Narcissist, The People-Pleaser & The Covert Puppet Master
    Mar 19 2025
    Femme On The Spectrum, a podcast by Elizabeth, focuses on uncovering the behavioral similarities between people-pleasers and covert narcissists in a particular episode. The episode starts by unraveling the different strategies, though aimed at the subjective manipulation of people's perceptions, adopted by grandiose narcissists, people-pleasers, and covert narcissists. Next, it delves into the reasons why such manipulative characters show a strong aversion to autistic and neurodivergent individuals. According to Elizabeth, these individuals cut through the manipulative layers unknowingly, which disrupts the emotional manipulation game of the narcissists. Towards the end of the podcast, she provides useful strategies to handle manipulators effectively without causing psychological damage to yourself. She stresses the importance of staying authentic and surrounding oneself with genuine people to counteract the emotional manipulative tactics played by narcissists.
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    12 min
  • The Truth Hurts (And So Do Social Hierarchies)

    The Truth Hurts (And So Do Social Hierarchies)
    Mar 14 2025
    In this episode of Femme on the Spectrum, host Elizabeth explores a paradox in society's attitude towards truth-telling; while honesty is publicly championed, those who expose inconvenient truths often face pushback. This behavior is linked to maintaining the social status quo, as well as an instinctive aversion to discomfort. Elizabeth further delves into the psychological reasonings behind this, highlighting the inclination of groups to defend toxicity and label those who challenge it as problematic. She offers advice for navigating these waters, stressing the importance of knowing your audience, selecting your battles, and seeking likeminded individuals who appreciate honesty. Above all else, Elizabeth champions the value of truth, asserting that authenticity and integrity prevail.
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    10 min