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  • The Price of Silence: How the World Enables Bullies and How We Can Stop It

    The Price of Silence: How the World Enables Bullies and How We Can Stop It
    Sep 16 2025
    What is the real cost of staying silent when bullying happens? In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee gets real about how the world often lets bullies get away with it and what it takes to stop them. With a new school year starting, she puts you right in the shoes of kids walking into classrooms full of nerves, pressure, and for some, the fear of being picked on. Kelly doesn’t just throw around statistics. She shares her own story of being bullied as an adult and how staying quiet can leave a lasting mark. This episode isn’t about telling kids “don’t be a bully.” It’s about raising defenders, the kids and adults who refuse to watch cruelty go unchecked. Courage spreads fast. Kindness really does have power. And one person speaking up can completely change the outcome. If you’ve ever wondered how to make a real difference or how to help the next generation stand strong, this episode will give you the insight, the stories, and the push to finally break the silence. Let’s dive in! Key Takeaways Bullying isn’t just a childhood problem. It happens to adults too, and the damage runs deep. Silence from bystanders can empower bullies. Speaking up can stop the cycle. Parents and teachers must not only teach kids not to bully, but also to defend others. Small acts of kindness like checking in, listening, and validating can change someone’s life. True leadership means modeling the values you teach: courage, integrity, and compassion. In This Episode [00:01] Introduction [00:39] Why bullying matters as kids head back to school [01:01] Kelly’s story of being bullied as an adult [01:20] Stats on bullying and cyberbullying [02:32] The importance of not being a bystander [03:37] Standing up together and changing the norm [04:40] The power of support and small acts [05:49] Failures of adults and institutions [07:09] Teaching values and integrity [08:12] The lasting impact of bullying and suicide [09:24] Encouraging communication and checking in [10:25] Personal story: son’s bullying incident [11:17] Leading by example and final thoughts [12:23] Outro and contact information Notable Quotes (03:15) “Silence is almost just as bad as bullying. It’s like enabling the person or almost giving them your approval.” — Kelly Renee (05:09) “Courage is contagious. And just stepping up and saying something is powerful.” — Kelly Renee (04:34) “If just one person had stood up for me, it would have made the world of difference.” — Kelly Renee (09:19) “Studies say that if someone stands up and says something, bullying almost stops immediately.” — Kelly Renee (11:44) “Treat people the way you tell your kids to treat people. And then maybe we could all change this world and it could be a kinder place.” — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    13 min
  • The Secret to Gaining Control When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart

    The Secret to Gaining Control When Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart
    Sep 9 2025
    What if the fatigue, mood swings, and lack of motivation you’re battling aren’t just “life stress” but your hormones waving a red flag? In this episode, Kelly Renee shares her deeply personal journey of discovering that her exhaustion and emotional struggles weren’t about weakness or depression; they were about dangerously low hormone levels. From testosterone pellets to weekly injections, Kelly pulls back the curtain on hormone replacement therapy, mindset struggles, and the hard lessons she’s learned about listening to your body instead of just pushing harder. She also opens up about how betrayal, loss, and failed marriages shaped her mindset, why she no longer attaches herself to outcomes, and how she’s learning (and still struggling) to trust her gut, value actions over words, and live life without fear. This episode is equal parts hormone health education and life coaching session, packed with the tough love and honesty you’ve come to expect from Fiercely Unfiltered. Key Takeaways Hormone imbalance can mimic depression, fatigue, and lack of motivation. Pellets vs. testosterone shots: cost, effectiveness, and energy stability. Mindset matters, but sometimes your body needs support too. Self-sabotage often comes from overattachment to outcomes. Living without fear and anger is a lifelong practice. In This Episode [00:00] Introduction [01:18] The shocking lab results: testosterone levels at 6 [01:54] Hormone pellets explained: costs, side effects, and results [03:17] Advocating for yourself: when doctors won’t test your hormones [04:10] Mindset vs. biology: when self-talk isn’t enough [05:12] Detaching from outcomes: freedom in letting go of control [07:03] Faith and perspective: why bad things can be redirection [09:06] Lessons from failed marriages: self-love and boundaries [09:53] Actions over words: what people do reveals their truth [10:38] Gut feelings, fear, and learning to trust yourself [12:22] Accountability, exclusion, and the cost of speaking up [13:22] Fear in relationships: walls, trust, and counseling [13:46] Final message: why checking your hormones can change everything Notable Quotes (01:18) “My testosterone level was at like a six. They’re like, how are you even out of bed right now?” — Kelly Renee (04:31) “You can self-talk your way out of a shitty situation, but not if your hormones are working against you.” — Kelly Renee (13:46) “Sometimes it’s not mindset, it’s your body trying to tell you something.” — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    15 min
  • Collagen, Patches, and Cheat Days: Health Hacks That Actually Work

    Collagen, Patches, and Cheat Days: Health Hacks That Actually Work
    Sep 2 2025
    What happens when the competition lights fade, and real life sets back in? In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee opens up about her journey eight weeks post-show, the highs, the struggles, and the lessons she’s learning while navigating health, aging, and balance. From gaining back weight after competition prep to experimenting with wellness products that support recovery and skin health, Kelly gives an unfiltered look at what it really takes to maintain results, age gracefully, and stay consistent without losing yourself. This episode is packed with raw honesty, practical tips, and real-life stories from cheat-day bundt cakes to collagen and stem cell patches that prove fitness isn’t just about how you look on stage, but how you live every single day. Key Takeaways Post-show recovery means weight gain, hormone changes, and a mindset shift. Aging well isn’t luck; it’s about proactively supporting your body with nutrition, supplements, and hydration. Consistency in nutrition (calories + macros) matters more than perfection. Investing in wellness tools (patches, collagen, alkaline water) can improve recovery, energy, and skin health. Muscle building requires fuel; don’t fear eating more when the goal is growth. Fitness is a lifelong process: track your progress, keep learning, and give yourself grace. In This Episode [00:01] Life update: post-show weight, body fat, and cycle recovery [02:18] Aging, recovery, and why supplements matter [03:22] Stem cell activation patches (X39) and personal results on [05:16] Collagen, NAD+, and supporting cellular health [07:24] Alkaline water (Kangen machine) and hydration benefits [09:27] Anti-aging practices, peptides, and reversing the clock [11:23] Nutrition, macros, and fueling growth without fear [13:39] Lessons from bodybuilding: calories, protein, and lifting heavy [16:38] Building a sustainable lifestyle vs. chasing perfection [18:38] Closing thoughts: proactive health and living by example Notable Quotes (01:33) "I record myself eating my bundt cake... when I want another bundt cake, I actually just go watch a reel of me eating it. It's kind of satisfying again." — Kelly Renee (03:05) "By the time you're my age, you have a whole bunch of dormant stem cells... which made your skin look older, it makes you recover slower." — Kelly Renee (13:48) "I used to be the worst fucking eater. Like I said, I didn't even know what protein was." — Kelly Renee (19:18) "Feeling good about yourself is better than chocolate cake taste." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    18 min
  • Running a Business With Your Spouse: Dream Team or Divorce Court?

    Running a Business With Your Spouse: Dream Team or Divorce Court?
    Aug 26 2025
    They say love can conquer anything, but what happens when love and business collide? Running a company with your spouse might sound like the ultimate dream team, but the reality? It can turn into a battlefield where egos, family ties, and business pressures all clash. In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee shares the raw truth about building and losing a business with her husband. From the excitement of starting strong together to the chaos of adding employees and family members, Kelly reveals how blurred boundaries, power struggles, and favoritism pushed her marriage and business past the breaking point. This isn’t just about business, it’s about trust, identity, and survival. If you’ve ever wondered whether working with your spouse is a good idea, or if you’re in the thick of navigating family dynamics at work, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and maybe even the courage to choose differently. Key Takeaways Mixing marriage and business raises the stakes and the risks Spouses in business together face higher divorce rates than most couples Without trust and clear boundaries, roles quickly blur into conflict Adding employees and especially family members can create toxic favoritism and power struggles Protecting yourself with financial and legal boundaries (prenup, “work prenup”) is not optional; it’s survival Your life should never be so intertwined that one loss means losing everything In This Episode [00:01] Introduction and statistics on family businesses [01:16] Personal experience: running a business with spouse [02:20] Challenges of roles and leadership in family businesses [03:27] Family dynamics and favoritism issues [04:17] Trust and foundation in spousal business partnerships [05:20] Reflections on work-life balance and marriage [06:19] Lessons learned and protecting yourself [07:30] Business closure and personal growth [08:36] Advice for couples considering business together [09:39] Coping with loss and moving forward [10:40] Closing remarks and outro Notable Quotes (01:51) "I ran a real estate company with my ex-husband, and it was great when it was just the two of us." — Kelly Renee (05:20) "For me, I loved working with my spouse; I thought it was the best thing." — Kelly Renee (06:19) "I learned the hard way. I thought I protected myself as much as I could." — Kelly Renee (07:30) "It's hard to put decades of your life into something and then have to walk away because a relationship isn't working." — Kelly Renee (09:39) "It's a really hard loss to get over, and I've been grieving for a while for all the losses that came to me at once." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    11 min
  • The Silent Betrayal That Left Me Drowning in Family Drama

    The Silent Betrayal That Left Me Drowning in Family Drama
    Aug 19 2025
    They say blood is thicker than water, but what happens when your own blood leaves you drowning? If you've ever felt more seen by a coworker than by your sibling… more supported by a friend than your parent… you're not alone. In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee shares a family betrayal that forced her to draw a hard line. Her father and sister took her 17-year-old son to get a COVID vaccine behind her back and paid him to do it. It wasn’t about the vaccine. It was about trust, control, and years of ignored boundaries coming to the surface. When Kelly confronted her sister, hoping for a real conversation, she was met with cold dismissal. That response said everything. She talks openly about what it’s like to grow up being pushed aside, talked over, and excluded. Since her mom passed, that distance has only grown. Her dad, sister, and brother still meet up. She’s usually left out. Her mom was the one person holding things together. Without her, the cracks widened. Even now, the patterns continue. Passive-aggressive comments, badmouthing behind her back, and now, using her son to go around her. Kelly is done trying to fix what doesn’t want to be fixed. She is choosing self-respect over forced connection. If you’ve ever felt isolated in your own family or questioned your place in it, this episode will hit home. Key Takeaways Just because you're strong doesn’t mean you don’t want to be cared for Passive-aggressive behavior is still emotional abuse You don’t have to keep chasing a connection with people who hurt you Support can come from friends and strangers sent by God, not always blood Speaking your truth breaks cycles of silence and shame In This Episode (00:36) A betrayal involving her son’s COVID shot (03:50) Boundary violations and family gaslighting (06:25) Feeling unsupported during health struggles (09:40) Paying family for help: love vs. obligation (12:35) Being emotionally independent since childhood (14:18) Social media shade and public criticism (16:05) Her son standing up to family toxicity (17:40) Finding peace through acceptance and letting go Notable Quotes (02:01) "I called my sister and I said, what is this I'm hearing about you taking Jacob to get a Covid shot? And she goes, well, if you were a better parent, I wouldn't have to take him to get it." — Kelly Renee (04:26) "I'm sick of lighting myself on fire to keep other people warm, or I'm sick of trying to chase approval or relationship. No one gives a shit about me." — Kelly Renee (10:36) "You don't have to be close to your family to be a good person. Some people you're just not meant to get along with." — Kelly Renee (11:00) “They say sometimes, God will send strangers in your life to support you because your family doesn't.”— Kelly Renee (16:10) "It's just sad that a 22-year-old has to talk to a grown adult saying, 'Please don't make fun of my mom when I'm here. It upsets me.”— Kelly Renee (17:53) "For all those people who have difficult family dynamics, don't let it define you. Don't feel bad that you don't get along with your family." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    18 min
  • The Betrayal That Changed Everything: The Pain of Trusting the Wrong Person

    The Betrayal That Changed Everything: The Pain of Trusting the Wrong Person
    Aug 12 2025
    What do you do when the person you trust most is the one who hands you the poison? In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee opens up about something she’s been holding onto for a long time. She shares a moment that shifted everything: when someone she loved and trusted most introduced her to drugs during one of the hardest seasons of her life. Her mom was dying, emotions were heavy, and instead of helping her cope, her husband handed her something to numb the pain. She said yes, but the question that still lingers is why he offered it in the first place. Kelly talks through all the layers that came after. From grieving her mother and picking up her ashes alone, to feeling completely abandoned by the one person who should have stood by her. She reflects on how that time affected her marriage, her mental health, and even her business. It’s honest, emotional, and full of the kind of reflection that many people are afraid to say out loud. If you’ve ever trusted someone who let you down or felt overwhelmed by heartbreak and confusion, this episode will speak to you. Kelly’s story is proof that healing begins when you speak the truth, even when it hurts. Come listen and feel a little less alone. Key Takeaways People can weaponize your pain while claiming to love you Numbing your emotions delays healing but never erases the truth Trust without protection isn’t trust, it’s exposure Speaking the truth, even when it’s ugly, is an act of self-respect You’re allowed to outgrow the version of you that tolerated pain In This Episode (00:01) Introduction and purpose of the episode (01:22) Background: family and drug exposure (02:25) Cocaine introduction by husband (03:51) Struggling with betrayal and trust (05:25) Regret and grieving her mother (06:39) Abandonment during grief (07:47) Coping and continued drug use (08:47) Lingering anger and lack of accountability (10:02) Reflection on trust and leadership (11:22) Loss, trauma, and medical emergency (12:35) Codependency and childhood trauma (13:50) Toxic relationships and family dynamics (15:11) Struggles with trust and setting boundaries (16:53) Betrayal and public exposure (19:15) Consequences and unconditional love (21:40) Learning from red flags and heartache (22:48) Healing, growth, and new traumas (25:07) Conclusion and call to action Notable Quotes (04:38) "Not all love means safety. And not everyone in your inner circle is there to protect you." — Kelly Renee (08:48) "If I was on the ground on fire, I don't think he'd even spit on me at this point." — Kelly Renee (0921) "It's really hard to forgive someone or move on from something without accountability." — Kelly Renee (20:27) "You can't keep giving unconditional love to someone who's hurting you over and over again." — Kelly Renee (21:55) "Love is the one thing that makes females weak and stupid." — Kelly Renee (24:33) "When I say it out loud, I'm not ashamed anymore." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    26 min
  • This Change Was the Only Way I Could Feel Like Me Again

    This Change Was the Only Way I Could Feel Like Me Again
    Aug 5 2025
    Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like the person you see doesn’t match who you really are? In this episode, Kelly Renee shares what led her to get a facelift at 44 and why it wasn’t about looking younger. It followed the end of her marriage and the death of her mother. For the first time in a long time, she had space to focus on herself. And she didn’t like what she saw. She talks openly about the changes she made from veneers to fillers to surgery and the reasons behind them. She explains how the experience shaped her thinking about grief, identity, and how much value we place on appearance. She’s also planning another surgery in a couple of months and is staying focused on her fitness in the meantime. She doesn’t want to drop that part of her routine. This episode isn’t about cosmetic surgery advice. It’s about what it feels like to come back to yourself when everything around you has changed. Key Takeaways Personal appearance can become a way to regain control when everything else feels out of place Cosmetic surgery is often about how you feel, not how you look There’s no right age or reason to make changes to your body; what matters is what works for you Rebuilding confidence doesn’t happen in a single decision. It takes time, effort, and self-awareness You don’t owe anyone an explanation for the choices you make about your body In This Episode [00:40] Introduction [00:50] Early life and military experience [01:19] Divorce and loss of identity [02:11] First cosmetic changes: veneers, fillers, makeup [02:39] Decision for breast implant replacement and facelift [03:39] Realization: true change comes from within [04:59] Impact of divorce on self-worth [05:55] Breast implants: motivation and timing [06:56] Transformation in self-care habits [07:55] Facelift decision and emotional state [08:52] Fitness journey and aging gracefully [10:02] Openness about cosmetic procedures [10:52] Practical advice on combining surgeries [11:49] Timeline of major life events and surgeries [12:52] Judgment and personal choice in cosmetic surgery [13:57] Final thoughts Notable Quotes (00:50) Appearance was never a priority to me. I didn't wear makeup till I was 44. (01:48) "When I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see someone aging. I saw someone I didn’t protect." — Kelly Renee (03:07) "I didn’t flinch. I said yes. I needed something to make me feel like I was pulling myself out of this mess." — Kelly Renee (11:49) “So my mom died in November 2019. My marriage fell apart in December 2020. And then December 2021, I got my boobs redone and I got a facelift.” — Kelly Renee (12:45) "Surgery is a personal choice. If it helps you feel better in your skin, that’s your call to make." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    15 min
  • Why ‘Normal’ Is a Lie and How It Nearly Destroyed Me

    Why ‘Normal’ Is a Lie and How It Nearly Destroyed Me
    Jul 29 2025
    What does "normal" even mean, and why do we destroy ourselves trying to achieve it? In this episode, Kelly Renee exposes the universal ache of not belonging through two defining chapters of her life: a reckless teenage search for acceptance and an adult relapse into addiction while grieving her mother's death. The episode begins with a haunting poem 17-year-old Kelly wrote about four girls, Kim, Julie, Sarah, and Jean, each using drugs, eating disorders, or self-harm to cope with invisible pain. Decades later, Kelly recognizes herself in all of them. With unflinching honesty, she traces how her own teenage rebellion (meth for breakfast, weed for bed) and later cocaine use during her mother's illness were misguided attempts to numb the same core wound: feeling like she never fit in. But this isn't just a story of addiction; it's a roadmap for radical self-acceptance. Kelly reveals how fitness and faith became her lifelines, why she refuses to shrink herself for others' comfort, and how our deepest pains can forge our greatest strengths. Key Takeaways Everyone battles internal struggles, no matter how "put together" they seem on the outside. Drugs, alcohol, and unhealthy habits only temporarily numb deeper issues. Your circle matters: who you hang out with can influence your coping mechanisms. Self-awareness and owning your "addictive personality" can help you avoid future pitfalls. Growth comes from facing your pain, not running from it. Positive outlets like fitness, faith, and self-reflection can replace destructive behaviors. Embracing who you are, scars and all, is the ultimate strength. In This Episode [00:01] Introduction and theme setup [01:14] Reading the poem: Four girls’ hidden struggles [04:23] Poem analysis and relating to high school experience [05:32] Personal drug use in high school [06:43] Influence of social circles and family dynamics [07:40] Addictive personality and adult self-awareness [08:40] Coping with grief and adult drug use [11:11] Advice on helping others and positive coping [12:19] Rejecting substances and embracing authenticity [13:31] Conclusion and empowerment message Notable Quotes (05:22) "I know I didn’t feel normal. I didn’t feel like I belonged in my family. I didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere, so I was just chasing normal." — Kelly Renee (05:51) "I wish I had navigated a little more without trying outside sources to make me feel normal or to get acceptance." — Kelly Renee (12:50) "I just wanted to bring myself back to high school, to how awful I used to feel, how misunderstood I used to feel, how I just didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere." — Kelly Renee (13:07) "Now in my life, I feel the exact same way. I feel like I don’t belong anywhere. I feel like I am one of a kind and I am misunderstood. But at this point in my life, I don’t give a fuck." — Kelly Renee (13:31) "This is me, not ashamed of my past, but proud that I’ve made it through everything and that I’m learning and adjusting." — Kelly Renee Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website
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    15 min