Joy in the Dark: How Small Moments Saved Me

In this episode, I reflect on what it means to find joy, not in the obvious places, but in the challenging ones.

This week marks 10 years since my son’s brain surgery, and it’s stirred something deep in me. I didn’t find joy the way many people talk about it. For me, it came in little spots—tiny moments that gave me just enough grace to get through the day.

I write about it more in my book-Finding Your Joy Spot. https://leonadevinne.com/findingyourjoyspot/

I also share the powerful H.E.A.L. method—a neuroscience-based tool that helped me let joy alleviate chronic pain.

If you’re in a tough place, this episode is a reminder that joy can still find you… even in the dark.

✨ Mentioned in this episode:

H.E.A.L. Method by Dr. Rick Hanson: https://www.rickhanson.net/take-in-the-good/

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Prompts to find your own Joy Spots:

Listen to a joyful song daily

Take a photo of something joyful each day

Write down 3 joyful moments before bed

Do a random act of kindness

Compliment someone sincerely

Donate something meaningful

Text someone just to say you appreciate them

Want some journaling prompts to find or create more joy? https://leonadevinne.kit.com/1f2b09daa8

Speaking Up: A Muscle I'm Still Building

Have you ever felt that wave of nausea after sending a perfectly respectful message, only to spiral into fear that someone might be mad at you?

Yeah… me too.

In this episode, I share a moment that reminded me how deeply our childhood wiring can still influence our adult reactions—especially when it comes to using our voice. What started as a simple email exchange brought me face-to-face with my old "be a good girl" pattern, the fear of upsetting others, and the muscle I’m still learning to strengthen: speaking up.

We’re not just purely logical adults—we’re also tender systems still running on childhood algorithms. The goal isn’t to eliminate those parts of us, but to love and integrate them with compassion.

Listen to the guided meditation to connect with the younger parts of you that get triggered when you speak up and could use some love: https://media.transistor.fm/9b0d1082/5acc8ea4.mp3

If you’ve been holding back your voice or tiptoeing around your truth, this episode is for you.

✨ Listen in, then take a moment to reflect with the prompts below.
✨ You don’t have to do this alone—reach out if you’re ready for support in finding your voice.

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🌀 Because the world doesn’t benefit from you swallowing your truth. It benefits from you speaking up.

JOURNAL PROMPTS TO GO DEEPER:

1. What situations or relationships tend to trigger your "stay quiet" reflex?
   Explore recent or past moments where you held back your voice. What did you feel in your body? What were you afraid might happen?
2. What is your earliest memory of being afraid to speak up?
   Reflect on childhood experiences where you learned it might not be safe or welcome to express yourself. What messages did you internalize?
3. When was the last time you used your voice, even though it felt uncomfortable?
   Celebrate that moment. What helped you speak up? What did you learn about yourself or the outcome?
4. What part of you still believes that keeping the peace means staying silent?
   Write to that part with compassion. Let it know what’s true now, and how you’re learning to hold both truth and connection.
5. What would it look like to live more fully in your truth today?
   Describe how speaking up could benefit your relationships or leadership. What small step can you take to move toward that?

🖍 Bonus prompt:
Draw or collage a version of your younger self who felt fully alive and free. Let your inner child lead the way.

#SpeakUp #FindingYourJoySpot #Leadership #SelfCompassion #InnerChildHealing #WomensVoices #HealingJourney #AuthenticLiving

This week on Finding Your Joy Spot, I’m sharing something I wrote in my journal—not knowing if it was just for me, or if it might matter to someone else, too.

When I reread it, it hit differently. It reminded me of how often we tuck away our truths, afraid of what might happen if we actually said them out loud.

In this episode, we talk about:
— What it costs to silence ourselves
— The fear of change that can come with truth-telling
— The quiet power of grace

This is a reflection on permission to be ourselves, embrace our truth, and what it means to live wholeheartedly. Not from a place of hustle or performance—but from your truth.

If you’ve been feeling a pull to be more honest with yourself, or if you’ve been wondering how grace fits into all of this… this one’s for you.

📝 Plus, I’ll leave you with a few reflection prompts to help you reconnect with what matters most.

🌸 What would be possible if you allowed more grace in your life?
🌸 What would it give you to be more gracious with yourself?
🌸 Consider something that feels challenging—a person, a situation, or something from your past. What would grace bring to that?
🌸 When you think of embracing all of who you are, what could you give yourself permission for?

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​ Complete this sentence: I give myself permission to...

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Check out my book: Finding Your Joy Spot https://leonadevinne.com/findingyourjoyspot/