What if grief had a “light at the end of the tunnel”… and that light was legacy?

Episode Summary

In this zero-prep, all-heart conversation, Adrienne sits down with Patricia D. Freudenberg—known as Patty from New York—to explore how we can move from grief to revival through legacy. After 33+ years behind the chair in her salon, Patty witnessed how loss shows up in everyday life. That lived experience led her to create Miss-U-Gram, a free memorial platform, earn her end-of-life coaching certification, and write Live Your Legacy, a workbook-style guide to gently redirect grief into meaning and momentum. We talk practical tools, “grief etiquette,” and why being seen, heard, and validated is medicine.

About Patricia

Patricia D. Freudenberg is the founder of Miss-U-Gram, host of Legacy Café, a certified end-of-life coach, public speaker, and author of Live Your Legacy. She champions “death to life” recovery through legacy, community, and simple, doable practices that help people return to the “land of the living.” Learn more: https://miss-u-gram.com/patricia-freudenberg/

Highlights & Takeaways

→ Legacy as the 7th stage: Beyond acceptance and meaning, Patty frames legacy as the “light at the end of the tunnel.”

→ Seen. Heard. Validated. Why being witnessed is often what unlocks recovery.

→ Redirection beats rumination: Journaling, reading short chapters, and “coping with color” give the mind a new path.

→ Morning for mourning: A simple practice to face the hardest part of the day with intention. → Grief etiquette (teaser): The best phrase when words fail: “I’m here for you.”

→ The butterfly mark: Miss-U-Gram’s black/white butterfly symbolizes body + soul, endings + continuance.

→ Free starter tools: Patty offers a coupon for a downloadable “living will” to start vital family conversations.

Quotable Patty

• “I believe in revival—bringing death to life through legacy.”
• “I might not be for everybody… but I’m for somebody.”
• “Your fire is still burning.”
• “Ask the most loving question: Is this working for you?”

Resources Mentioned

• Patricia’s site & bio: https://miss-u-gram.com/patricia-freudenberg/
• Miss-U-Gram (memorial platform): https://miss-u-gram.com
• Book: Live Your Legacy (find via Patricia’s site → Shop → Amazon)
• Free download: “Live Your Legacy” living-will starter — use coupon LYL on the Shop page
• Community room: Legacy Café (Clubhouse) — grief recovery room hosted by Patty

Connect with Patricia

• Website: https://miss-u-gram.com
• Shop/Book: via site → Shop (use LYL for the free living-will starter)
• Legacy Café (Clubhouse): search Miss-U-Gram / Legacy Café

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