Have you ever caught yourself sounding just like your parents? Today we reflect on the lessons—both spoken and unspoken—that our parents, coaches, and role models left with us, and how they’ve shaped the women and moms we are today.

From confidence and community to money and independence, these life lessons are now the ones we’re passing down to our own kids. Amy shares how her mom’s approach to appearance built her confidence from the inside out, while Abby opens up about her mom’s influence around food, body image, and community involvement. Amy also remembers her dad’s encouragement to always be financially independent, and Abby gets vulnerable about what money represented in her childhood—a story she’s never shared before.

We also chat briefly about the latest reality TV drama (yes, the new Bachelorette!) before diving back into what it really means to carry these lessons forward. Whether the wisdom came from parents, coaches, or mentors, it’s worth reflecting on the positive examples you had growing up and how you’re creating that same legacy for your own children today.

Tune in and reflect with us—you’ll be reminded that the work you’re doing as a mom matters, in ways your children will carry for life.

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Marriage is a constant journey of learning, growth, and reminding ourselves of the basics—especially during stressful seasons. In this week’s episode, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our own marriages to share the top three lessons we’ve each learned with our spouses over the years.

We kick things off with a little chit chat (thanks to Colin for the idea!) about what we’ve been reading and watching lately before diving into the heart of the episode: the relationship lessons that continue to shape our marriages.

Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode:

• Amy’s #1: Why standing by your core values matters, even when it feels uncomfortable—especially when it comes to finances.
  
  
  
• Abby’s #1: The power of speaking up when it matters most (without nitpicking everything).
  
  
  
• Amy’s #2: Shifting your perspective from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.”
  
  
  
• Abby’s #2: Embracing the reality that we all change over time—and learning to love your spouse as they grow.
  
  
  
• Amy’s #3: Letting your partner positively influence you (this one gets spicy!).
  
  
  
• Abby’s #3: Why having dreams together matters—and how to let your spouse in on yours.
  
  
  

If you’ve been craving real, honest conversations about what makes marriage work, this episode will give you tangible reminders, relatable stories, and encouragement to keep building a strong foundation with your partner.

Let us know what resonates most with you! Share your biggest takeaway from this episode over on Instagram @herselfpodcast—we love hearing from you.

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Conflict is a natural part of every relationship—whether it’s in marriage, friendship, family, or work. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the 5 different conflict styles (the accommodator, the avoider, the compromiser, the competitor, and the collaborator) and exploring how they show up in our lives.

We share personal stories and examples of how conflict plays out differently in our marriages versus our friendships. Abby opens up about realizing her conflict style might not be what she originally thought after reflecting with her husband, Colin, who leans more toward the “need to be right” style. Amy talks about how she used to lean heavily on avoidance but, through therapy, has been growing into a more collaborative approach.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the 5 conflict styles are and how they show up in relationships.
  
  
• Why saying “we never fight” might actually mean you’re not speaking up for yourself.
  
  
• Why our conflict styles can look different in marriage vs. friendships.
  
  
• How to decide which relationships are worth working through conflict for.
  
  

Remember: the goal isn’t to avoid conflict altogether, but to understand how you (and those around you) approach it so you can move toward healthier resolutions.

• Read the article on the 5 conflict styles here.

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