Épisodes

  • S4 | E33 The Wintering of a Man Series Part 3 | The Relationship Temperature Drop
    Nov 19 2025

    Relationships often tighten or strain as winter approaches. In this episode, we explore the subtle drift that can occur between partners and how to reintroduce warmth without pressure or emotional force.

    Small, steady connection can change everything.




    If this episode spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you.

    You can email me at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com.

    You can also find me on Substack, where I share weekly musings and the video version of this podcast,

    This winter can feel heavy for many men, especially as the days get shorter and the uncertainty of life settles in. I am offering my Winter of a Man 30-minute coaching session for half off through the end of January. If you are craving encouragement, clarity, or simply a genuine connection during these challenging months, this is a space created for you.

    Book your session and step into the season with more confidence and support. stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.


    You can listen to Here Comes Sunshine on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast platform.


    Thanks for being here, for growing, and for showing up for yourself. I’ll see you next week.

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    10 min
  • S4 | E32 The Wintering of a Man Series Part 2 | Carrying Everything Quietly
    Nov 12 2025

    This week, we explore the quiet loneliness many men carry in silence. If you have ever felt unseen or emotionally alone even when surrounded by others, this episode will feel familiar.

    Learn how to create meaningful connections without feeling weak, needy, or exposed.


    If this episode spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you.

    You can email me at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com.

    You can also find me on Substack, where I share weekly musings and the video version of this podcast, or if you want to go deeper, book a private session at stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.

    You can listen to Here Comes Sunshine on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast platform.

    Thanks for being here, for growing, and for showing up for yourself. I’ll see you next week.

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    9 min
  • S4 | E31 The Wintering of a Man Series Part 1 | The Winter Shift
    Nov 5 2025

    A four-episode November series for men ages 40 plus navigating identity, loneliness, relationships, purpose, and emotional endurance as the seasons change.


    Today, we explore the emotional and biological shift that happens in men as we move into the colder, darker months. If you are feeling tired, less motivated, disconnected, or irritable, nothing is wrong with you. Your body is responding to a seasonal shift. Learn how to support your mood, energy, and sense of self with simple and powerful adjustments that help you thrive through winter rather than collapse under it.


    Contect with Sarah:

    Video version of the podcast at sarahvalentinemusings.substack.com

    You can also explore my coaching offerings and resources at https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.

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    11 min
  • S4 | E30 Breaking Free from Passive Aggression
    Oct 29 2025

    This week on Here Comes Sunshine, we’re diving deep into a topic many men (and women *raises own hand*) struggle with, but rarely talk about: passive-aggressive behavior.

    From brooding silence and simmering resentment to sarcasm, excuse-making, or blame-shifting, these patterns can quietly sabotage connection and happiness.

    I’ll walk you through what’s really behind these behaviors and, more importantly, how to shift them.

    You’ll learn practical ways to speak your truth, set boundaries without guilt, and build emotional strength that leads to healthier communication and real confidence.

    Because when you stop hiding behind frustration or hurtful sarcasm, you start showing up as the man you’re meant to be.

    Contact Sarah:Email: sarah@intimateconsciousness.comCoaching, guides & more: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

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    21 min
  • S4 | E29 Understanding How Depression Shows Up in Men: A Checklist for Symptoms
    Oct 22 2025

    Are you feeling out of sorts and wondering if it is more than just the blues?

    In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I will dive into the often-overlooked ways depression can appear in men, not just emotionally, but physically and behaviorally.

    From irritability and exhaustion to changes in habits or drive, men often experience depression differently from women, and it can be easy to miss the signs.


    Join me as I talk about the symptoms, normalize the conversation, and take the first steps toward healing and self-awareness.

    You are NOT alone, and I am here for YOU!

    Want to watch this episode on video? Subscribe to my Substack: sarahvalentinemusings.substack.com

    Contact Sarah:Email: sarah@intimateconsciousness.comCoaching, guides & more: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

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    12 min
  • S4 | E28 A Listener’s Question About Porn, Pleasure, and Balance
    Oct 15 2025

    In this week’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m answering an honest and important listener question:

    “What if I don’t want to quit porn, but I want to make sure I’m healthy?”

    This conversation is all about awareness, not shame. As someone who once worked as a spicy content creator before becoming a Clinical Sexologist, I understand both sides of this conversation deeply. We’ll talk about what healthy porn use actually looks like, what the science says about dopamine and the brain, and how to stay connected to real intimacy, whether that’s with a partner or with yourself.

    There’s no judgment here, only truth, compassion, and tools to help you find balance and deeper connection in your life.

    You can listen to Here Comes Sunshine on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast platform.

    Watch the video version on Substack.

    If this episode resonates, reach out for a private session or to share your story at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com, or visit https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine to connect.

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    13 min
  • S4 | E27 Finding Your Tribe Later in Life: The Power of Community for Men Over 45
    Oct 8 2025

    In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine with Sarah Valentine, we’re diving into the power of community, especially for men in their 40s, 50s, and beyond. After my own divorce, I had to rebuild my life and find my people again, and it wasn’t easy. Today, I want to share what I learned about connection, belonging, and the courage it takes to put yourself out there later in life.

    If you’ve been feeling isolated, unsure where to start, or like your best connections are behind you, this conversation is for you.

    We’ll talk about why community is essential for emotional and physical health, how to start building one that fits your life now, and simple ways to start finding your tribe again.

    Video version of the podcast at sarahvalentinemusings.substack.com You can also explore my coaching offerings and resources at https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine.

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    10 min
  • Gooning, Porn, and Intimacy: Breaking Free Without Shame
    Oct 1 2025

    In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m talking about something a lot of men in their 40s, 50s, and beyond struggle with but rarely say out loud, gooning, or getting lost in porn, and how it impacts real intimacy with a partner.

    There’s no judgment here. Many of you have known me since my days as a creator on spicy platforms, and I want you to know, I get it. Back then, I was acting out my own trauma drama, and looking for connection in ways that didn’t serve me. So when I say I understand how easy it is to get hooked, I mean it.

    We’ll explore how you can begin to shift back toward real, meaningful intimacy, without shame and without losing hope.

    If you’re ready to move from screen-based escape into connection, this one’s for you.

    Watch the video version and subscribe for weekly encouragement here: https://sarahvalentinemusings.substack.comListen on your favorite podcast platform: Here Comes SunshineBook a one-on-one coaching session: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentineEmail me directly: sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

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    18 min