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  • 3 Common but Subtle Roots of Dehumanization
    Jun 30 2025

    In this episode of the Summer Q&A Series, Nicole responds to a powerful and timely question:
    “What happens when we dehumanize others, and what might we be avoiding in ourselves when we do it?”

    Rooted in Scripture and shaped by years of teaching and discipleship, Nicole explores how dehumanization—both subtle and overt—can reveal deeper emotional and spiritual struggles, particularly among women. Through biblical reflection and honest personal insights, she identifies three key areas often lurking beneath this behavior: fear, anger, and pride.

    Listeners will walk away challenged and encouraged to reexamine how they view others—and how they might bring hidden heart issues before God for healing and transformation.

    Main Takeaways

    • Dehumanization is subtle but dangerous: We often strip others of their God-given dignity by grouping them into labels, roles, or categories.

    • Words carry weight: Name-calling and group labels are not just emotional reactions—they violate the biblical truth that every person bears the image of God.

    • Why we dehumanize: It's often an avoidance tactic for deeper emotional realities.

    • Three Common Roots Behind Dehumanization in Women:

      1. Fear – Of being wrong, hurt, rejected, or vulnerable

      2. Anger – Especially unspoken or culturally suppressed anger

      3. Pride – The insidious belief that we know best, or can determine what's fair or right outside of God

    • The Bible’s Response: God calls us back to humility, self-examination, and compassion. Transformation starts with asking God to search our hearts (Psalm 139).

    Bible Verse References

    • Genesis 1:27 – “God created mankind in His own image…”

    • Psalm 139:13–14 – “You knit me together in my mother’s womb…”

    • Jeremiah 2:13 – God describes forsaking Him as abandoning living water

    • Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is deceitful above all things…”

    • Psalm 139:23–24 – “Search me, God, and know my heart…”

    Calls to Action (CTAs)

    • Subscribe to How to Study the Bible to follow the rest of the Summer Q&A Series.

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    • Invite a friend to listen and reflect on this episode together—great for small groups or mentoring relationships.

    • Join the conversation on Instagram @NicoleUnice or use #HowToStudyTheBible.

    🔗 Relevant Links & Resources

    • NicoleUnice.com – Teaching resources, devotionals, and books

    • BibleStudyTools.com – Scripture reference and Bible tools

    • Recommended Reflection: Write out a prayer of surrender using Psalm 139.

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    21 min
  • Where to Start When You Want to Read the Entire Bible
    Jun 23 2025

    In this episode of the Summer Q&A Series, Nicole tackles one of the most common (and courageous!) questions: “I’ve never read the Bible cover to cover—where should I start?”

    She breaks down practical, grace-filled strategies for reading the Bible in a way that actually works, offering insights for both new and seasoned believers. From choosing the right translation to dealing with confusing or difficult passages, Nicole empowers listeners to start reading with confidence and purpose. Whether you’ve felt overwhelmed, confused, or discouraged by Scripture in the past, this episode will give you a clear and doable way forward.

    🧠 Main Takeaways

    • You’re Not Alone: Many faithful Christians have never read the whole Bible—and it’s never too late to start.

    • Don’t Start at Genesis (at least not right away): Many fall off around Leviticus. Instead, begin with:

      • Luke – A detailed and compassionate account of Jesus’s life

      • Acts – The story of the early church

      • Romans – A powerful explanation of the gospel

      • Then continue through the New Testament before tackling the Old Testament

    • Use a Study Bible: Even a basic study Bible can provide helpful context, intros, and notes for difficult passages.

    • Mark Your Progress: Write in your Bible, underline verses, and make notes—it can become a spiritual journal and legacy.

    • Don’t Get Stuck in the Weeds: Your first time reading is a flyover—aim for big-picture understanding, not perfection.

    • Psalms & Proverbs: Consider mixing in chapters of Psalms or Proverbs for encouragement and wisdom along the way.

    • Read With a Plan (or Not): Try chronological Bibles, one-year plans, or even 90-day “boot camps”—but always choose what fits you.

    • Give Yourself Grace: Falling behind is normal. Focus on steady progress, not perfect performance.

    📜 Bible Verse References

    • Luke 1:1–4 – Introduction to the Gospel account

    • Acts 1:1–3 – Continuation of Luke’s writing, the story of the early church

    • Romans 1–16 – Understanding theology and Christian living

    • Psalm 139:13 – “You knit me together in my mother’s womb…”

    Want More? Start Here:

    • Subscribe to How to Study the Bible to follow the full Summer Q&A Series.

    • Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps others find the show.

    • Visit nicoleunice.com for Bible study tools and Nicole’s books.

    • Download a reading plan or grab a study Bible to get started today.

    • Share this episode with someone beginning their Bible reading journey.

    Links & Resources

    • NicoleUnice.com – Bible study resources, books, and teaching

    • BibleStudyTools.com – Read and search Scripture online

    • Recommended Bible Translation for Beginners: New Living Translation (NLT)

    • Nicole’s Book: Brave Enough (includes Scripture promises for encouragement)

    • Explore past episodes for deep dives into Romans, James, and more.

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    15 min
  • What Do I Do When I Can't Hear God's Voice?
    Jun 16 2025

    In this opening episode of the Summer Q&A Series, Nicole addresses one of the most heartfelt and relatable spiritual struggles: “What do I do when I can’t hear God’s voice?”

    Drawing from James 1:2–8, Nicole unpacks why God may feel silent in seasons of confusion or pain—and how that silence could actually be an invitation. With compassionate insight and biblical depth, she offers listeners practical wisdom for enduring trials, examining their hearts, and pressing deeper into God’s promises. This is a powerful episode for anyone feeling stuck, discouraged, or distant from God.

    Main Takeaways

    • You’re Not Alone in the Silence: Even faithful believers experience seasons of unanswered questions or silence from God.

    • James 1 Offers a Roadmap:

      • Troubles are opportunities for growth, not obstacles to joy.

      • When we ask for wisdom, God will give it—but we must ask with faith and undivided loyalty.

    • Mixed Motives Can Muffle God’s Voice: Sometimes our desires are entangled with fear, selfishness, or cultural pressure. Regular self-examination can purify our requests.

    • Endurance Builds Spiritual Maturity: The waiting seasons are formative. Joy, wisdom, and clarity come with time and perseverance.

    • God’s Promises are Steady Anchors: Holding tight to the truths of Scripture can help steady your faith during spiritually dry times.

    For Further Bible Study: Bible Verse References

    • James 1:2–8 – Consider trials as joy and ask for wisdom with faith

    • Jeremiah 29:13 – “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

    • Matthew 11:28 – “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened…”

    • John 10:10 – “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”

    • John 14:6 – “I am the way and the truth and the life…”

    • John 16:33 – “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

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    • Get Nicole's book Brave Enough
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    • BibleStudyTools.com – Verse reference and study help

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    17 min
  • A Practical Guide to Sharing Your Faith Confidently
    Jun 9 2025

    In this final episode of the Activated series, Nicole tackles the practical call to speak about your faith. She explores 1 Peter 3:8–16 and Colossians 4:2–6, offering a clear, scripturally grounded approach to sharing “the reason for the hope that you have.”

    Nicole dives into the fears and hesitations many feel when talking about faith, emphasizing that every story is a miracle, no matter how dramatic or simple it might seem. She also highlights prerequisites for effective witness—like compassion, humility, and living a life that shines hope even in dark times. With tangible insights and relatable encouragement, this episode is a guide to confidently and gently living and sharing your testimony.

    🧠 Main Takeaways

    • Every Story Matters: Your testimony is a miracle, whether it’s dramatic or quiet—God can use your story to inspire and invite others.

    • Three Groups to Engage:

      • Those inside the faith

      • Outsiders curious about faith

      • Those opposed to the faith

    • Prerequisites for Witness: Live with humility, compassion, sympathy, and love—these qualities create the context for hope to be visible.

    • Be Ready to Answer: Scripture calls us to always be prepared to share the reason for our hope, with gentleness and respect.

    • Practical Tips:

      • Be watchful and prayerful for open doors.

      • Let your words be gracious and seasoned with salt—speak truthfully, but with a spirit of kindness.

      • Focus on building relationships, not winning arguments.

    • Little Actions Matter: Simple daily choices of kindness, patience, and listening are tiny seeds of hope that others notice.

    📜 Bible Verse References

    • 1 Peter 3:8–16 – Living with compassion and readiness to answer about your hope
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Colossians 4:2–6 – Conversations full of grace and wisdom
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Matthew 5–7 – Foundations for living in the Kingdom of God
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    📢 Calls to Action (CTAs)

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    🔗 Relevant Links & Resources

    • NicoleUnice.com – Bible studies, teaching resources, and tools

    • BibleStudyTools.com – Scripture references and study helps

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      https://nicoleunice.com/realtalk

      📖 Nicole’s newest book: Not What I Signed Up For
      → Get the intro, first chapter, and a free prayer guide at:
      https://nicoleunice.com/notwhatisignedupfor

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    17 min
  • 3 Essential Actions to Strengthen Your Relationship with Christ
    Jun 2 2025

    In this fifth installment of the Activated series, Nicole explores what it means to truly follow Jesus in our actions. Focusing on John 10:7–11 and 27–30, she highlights how Jesus presents Himself as both the gate and the Good Shepherd, contrasting His life-giving presence with the destructive force of the thief.

    Listeners are invited into a deeper reflection on what it means to hear God's voice, enter into relationship with Him, and follow where He leads. Nicole breaks down these core actions and reveals the beautiful outcome: a life of confidence, safety, and transformation in Christ.

    What Does It Say?

    • Jesus is both the Gate and the Good Shepherd: He provides access to salvation and nurtures us in safety and truth.

    • Three Actions of the Faithful Sheep:

      • Know His Voice – Learn to recognize God’s presence and guidance.

      • Enter through Him – Accept the invitation of relationship and redemption.

      • Follow His Lead – Focus your life around Jesus and take daily obedient steps.

    • Opposing Kingdoms Are Real: Jesus names the thief who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy—but He comes to offer life to the full.

    • God’s Voice is Knowable: Through Scripture, prayer, and community, we can discern His guidance and grow in relationship.

    • Focus Drives Following: Where we place our attention is where our actions will follow.

    • Tiny Obediences Matter: Everyday choices like patience, kindness, and self-control are the building blocks of a transformed life.

    📜 Bible Verse References

    • John 10:7–11; 27–30
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • John 14:6 – “No one comes to the Father except through me.”
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Genesis 15 – God’s covenant with Abraham
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • 1 Corinthians 11:23–26 – The institution of the Lord’s Supper
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    RESOURCES

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      https://nicoleunice.com/realtalk

      📖 Nicole’s newest book: Not What I Signed Up For
      → Get the intro, first chapter, and a free prayer guide at:
      https://nicoleunice.com/notwhatisignedupfor

      📘 Want to feel more confident reading Scripture?
      Check out Help! My Bible is Alive!

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    15 min
  • What Did James Mean by "Faith without Works Is Dead"?
    May 26 2025

    In this episode, we study James 2:14–26, unpacking the powerful message that faith without action is dead. Through a blend of biblical teaching, cultural insight, and personal reflection, Nicole walks listeners through what it means to live out an activated faith—a faith that doesn’t stop at belief but blossoms into transformed choices, emotions, and behavior.

    She explores the Jewish tradition of Midrash, connects teachings from both the Sermon on the Mount and the Old Testament, and shows how stories of Abraham and Rahab illustrate the principle that genuine faith leads to meaningful action.

    What Does It Mean for Me?

    • Faith transforms everything: True faith should visibly impact how we think, feel, act, and make decisions.

    • Faith and deeds are inseparable: Good works are not the cause of faith, but the evidence of a changed life.

    • Biblical examples matter: Abraham and Rahab demonstrate that active obedience is the fruit of authentic belief.

    • Scripture speaks urgently: James’ tone invites us to ask tough but necessary questions about how we’re living out our faith.

    • Spiritual maturity means visible change: Real transformation isn’t private—it’s relational, observable, and ongoing.

    • Simple obedience is powerful: A daily prayer of surrender—"Lord, I want to go where you go. I want to do what you do."—can reorient our lives around God’s kingdom priorities.

    📜 Bible Verse References:

    • James 2:14–26
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Matthew 5–7 (Sermon on the Mount)
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Genesis 15:6 (Abraham believed God...)
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • Joshua 2 (Rahab and the spies)
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

    • John 14:15 "If you love me, keep my commands."
      Read on BibleStudyTools.com

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    🔗 Relevant Links & Resources

    • NicoleUnice.com – Devotionals, teaching, and resources

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    • Previous episode: Activated Week 3 – Living the Kingdom Way

    • What Does ‘Faith without Works is Dead’ Really Mean?

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      https://nicoleunice.com/notwhatisignedupfor

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    15 min
  • Good Fruit vs. Bad Fruit: How to Discern Wisely in a Confusing World
    May 19 2025

    In this podcast episode, the host delves into the critical distinction between judgment and discernment as taught by Jesus in Matthew chapter 7 of the Sermon on the Mount. This chapter begins with the well-known admonition, "Do not judge, or you too will be judged." However, the episode emphasizes that this directive does not preclude the necessity of discernment in our interactions with others.

    The Nature of Judgment

    In this context, " judgment " refers to a private opinion that often carries a sense of condemnation or punishment. It implies a harsh assessment of others that distances us from them, rendering them unfit in our eyes. The host illustrates this concept with a personal anecdote about feeling judgmental toward a stranger in a public setting. This example highlights how easy it is to pass judgment without understanding the full context of another person's life.

    Jesus warns that the measure we use to judge others will be the same measure applied to us. This serves as a reminder that our judgments often reflect our own shortcomings and self-centeredness. The host encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives and recognize their vulnerabilities, which can foster empathy and reduce the tendency to judge others harshly.

    The Call to Discernment

    In contrast to judgment, discernment is about making wise decisions based on understanding and insight. The host explains that discernment involves recognizing the direction one should take without the condemnation that judgment entails. Jesus invites us to discern wisely, particularly in our own lives, by addressing our own issues first—symbolized by the "plank" in our eye before we attempt to help others with their "specks."

    This process of self-examination is crucial. The host emphasizes that understanding our own flaws and engaging in personal growth allows us to approach others with compassion rather than condemnation. It is through this lens of humility that we can genuinely assist others in their struggles.

    Practical Applications of Discernment

    The episode outlines several practical ways to cultivate discernment:

    1. Self-Reflection: Engaging in a "searching and fearless moral inventory" of oneself helps identify personal shortcomings and fosters a deeper understanding of how our actions affect others.

    2. Setting Boundaries: The phrase "Do not give dogs what is sacred" serves as a metaphor for using our resources wisely. It encourages us to be intentional about where we invest our time, energy, and emotional capacity, ensuring that we are not manipulated or drawn into unhealthy dynamics.

    3. Asking Abundantly: The host encourages listeners to ask God for guidance and support in alignment with His kingdom values. This involves praying for justice, compassion, and healing, which aligns our hearts with God's purposes.

    4. Recognizing Fruit: Jesus teaches that we can identify people by their fruit—good trees bear good fruit, while bad trees bear bad fruit. The host stresses the importance of observing the lives of those around us to discern their true character, rather than relying solely on their words.

    The podcast episode ultimately invites listeners to embrace the journey of practicing discernment over judgment. By focusing on our own growth and understanding, we can engage with others in a way that reflects the love and grace of God. This approach not only strengthens our relationships but also builds a solid foundation for our lives, allowing us to withstand the storms that come our way. The invitation is clear: participate actively in the kingdom of God by cultivating a spirit of discernment that leads to genuine love and support for others.

    To effectively help others, one must first address their own issues and shortcomings, as highlighted by the metaphor of removing the plank from one's own eye before assisting others with their specks. This concept is rooted in the teachings of Jesus, particularly in Matthew chapter 7, where He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and personal integrity before offering guidance or correction to others.

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    21 min
  • How to Know if Your Motives Are Right When You Give, Fast, & Pray (A Bible Study on Matthew 6)
    May 12 2025
    In this episode of How to Study the Bible, we dive into week two of the "Take Action" series, focusing on Matthew 6. The Importance of Having the Right Motives When Giving, Praying, and Fasting In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus emphasizes the significance of having the right motives when engaging in spiritual practices such as giving, praying, and fasting. This teaching is crucial for understanding how to live as citizens of the Kingdom of God, as it highlights the difference between outward actions and the inner motivations that drive those actions. 1. Understanding the "When" Statements Jesus introduces three key "when" statements in Matthew chapter six: "when you give," "when you pray," and "when you fast." These statements assume that these practices will be integral to a believer's life. However, Jesus is not merely concerned with the actions themselves; He is deeply interested in the motivations behind them. Giving: Jesus warns against giving to be seen by others, stating that those who do so have already received their reward. Instead, He encourages giving in secret, where the focus is on pleasing God rather than seeking human approval. Praying: Similarly, Jesus instructs His followers to avoid public displays of prayer intended for recognition. Instead, He advocates for private prayer, emphasizing that God sees what is done in secret and will reward those who seek Him sincerely. Fasting: When it comes to fasting, Jesus again points out the danger of performing this act for the sake of appearance. He encourages His followers to fast in a way that is not obvious to others, reinforcing the idea that fasting should be about drawing closer to God rather than seeking the admiration of people. 2. The Wrong Motives Throughout this teaching, it is clear that Jesus identifies specific wrong motives associated with these practices. The desire for recognition, honor, or validation from others can lead to a focus on self rather than on God. This self-centered approach ultimately undermines the true purpose of these spiritual disciplines. Recognition: If the motivation for giving, praying, or fasting is to be seen as generous, pious, or disciplined, then the individual has already received their reward in the form of human applause. This is a temporary and superficial reward that lacks eternal significance. Self-Righteousness: Engaging in these practices to appear holy or superior to others can lead to a false sense of righteousness. Jesus challenges this mindset by calling for authenticity and sincerity in one's relationship with God. 3. The Right Motives In contrast, Jesus invites His followers to engage in these practices with the right motives—those that seek to honor God and align with His will. The emphasis is on the heart's intention rather than the outward display of spirituality. Seeking God's Approval: The true reward comes from God, who sees the heart and recognizes genuine acts of faith. When believers give, pray, or fast with the intention of drawing closer to God and serving others, they align themselves with the values of the Kingdom. Impact of Secret Acts: This teaching highlights the power of secret acts of devotion. Many struggle to believe that private prayers or hidden acts of kindness can have a significant impact. However, Jesus reassures His followers that these actions are powerful in God's eyes and contribute to a deeper relationship with Him. 4. The Conditional "If" Statement The teaching also discusses the conditional "if" statement found in verse 14 regarding forgiveness. Jesus states, "if you forgive," indicating that forgiveness is a choice that believers must actively make. This choice reflects the heart's posture and willingness to extend grace, which is essential for receiving God's forgiveness in return. 5. The Do-Nots Finally, Jesus provides two "do-nots" that further emphasize the importance of motives: Do Not Store Up Treasures on Earth: This warning serves as a reminder that material possessions should not take precedence over spiritual wealth. The focus should be on generosity and the eternal impact of one's actions. Do Not Worry: Jesus encourages His followers to trust in God's provision rather than being consumed by anxiety about their needs. This trust is rooted in the understanding that God cares for His creation and will provide for those who seek Him first. Want to send Nicole a question for a future Listener Questions episode? Email her at nicole@nicoleunice.com THIS WEEK'S RESOURCES: 📬 Sign up for Nicole’s newsletter to get regular encouragement right in your inbox:https://nicoleunice.com/realtalk 📖 Nicole’s newest book: Not What I Signed Up For→ Get the intro, first chapter, and a free prayer guide at:https://nicoleunice.com/notwhatisignedupfor 📘 Want to feel more confident reading Scripture?Check out Help! My Bible is Alive! 🛍️ Find all of Nicole’s books and resources on Amazon or Barnes & Noble. Discover more Christian ...
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    16 min