Chris started his first business when he was 19 years old. He worked hard at sustaining the business but lacked the experience and community he needed. By the time he was 21 years old, Chris had two failed business attempts under his belt. He tried going to college but realized it was not for him. Life felt bleak for Chris. In this episode, Chris walks us through his career journey, from dropping out of college to starting his own business - for the third time. Chris learned the value of working various jobs, even those he felt miserable in. He gained confidence as he received job offers despite not having a college degree. He also found a creative outlet through music production with his friend Keith. Chris talks about the importance of having the right network of people around him who can encourage him and keep him humble. He talks about his wife, Jen, and how meaningful her support has been for him as an entrepreneur.

Topics We Discuss:

• Whether college is for everyone
• Entrepreneurship
• Overcoming failure
• Being passionate about what you are working on
• Assessing risk
• Learning from criticism
• Music production
• Creativity
• Board games
• Having a supportive spouse/partner
• Surrounding yourself with good people
• Southern California traffic

Chris' LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itschrisnguyen

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Transcript for this episode: https://share.descript.com/view/VRWR2x73Ay8

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When it came to the dating scene in high school, Keith was the "nice" guy - he would develop a friendship with a girl but never make a move. His fear of rejection and overall lack of social awareness led to heartbreak as he watched his seven year long crush slip away and eventually date another person. Out of desperation, Keith went on the Internet and looked up: "how to get out of the friend zone". He stumbled across an online community of pick-up artists, who offered advice on how to appear attractive to women - some of it unhelpful, and some of it helpful. He began to try different techniques, doing his best to implement them in a way that was authentic and fit his personality.

Keith talks about having freedom of outcome and not being needy in a relationship. He breaks down what is means to be a man of your purpose, being a man of freedom, and being grounded. He talks about giving value in a relationship by making sure your own "cup" is full before you try to connect with someone. He even gives proven tips on how to create a more effective online dating profile.

Topics We Discuss:

• Dating in high school and college
• Getting out of the friendzone
• Online pick-up artist communities
• Being authentic
• "Pinging"
• Dating culture today
• Freedom of outcome
• Being a man of purpose
• Being grounded
• Being a man of freedom
• Not being needy
• Building your own kingdom
• How to create an attractive online dating profile

Contact Pat: PATRICKTLEE7@GMAIL.COM

DM me on Instagram! @iusedtothinkpodcast

Our friend Rickey takes a life changing trip to Japan. We ask him about his expectations beforehand and document his reactions throughout the trip.

Topics we discuss:

- What is best convenience store in Japan?

- What is your impression of the Japanese people?

- Best food in Japan

- The amazing toilets in Japan

- Animal cafe experience

- Japanese marketing and advertisements

- Difference between Japanese and American fashion

Reach out to Pat:

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In 2018, Tori was on the path to becoming a full-time missionary when the story broke that John Allen Chau, an young American missionary, was killed off the coast of North Sentinel Island by indigenous people he was trying to evangelize. Chau was determined to reach the island even though it was strictly off limits to all outsiders. This event gained global attention and greatly disturbed Tori. She began a journey of doubt and an unraveling of her worldview. In this episode we discuss the following topics:

• Discovering faith by reading books written by atheists
• Is it possible to be a Christian and not have certainty about God's existence?
• How should Christians evangelize, keeping in mind Christianity's historical connection to colonialism?
• What are other ways the Gospel can be presented other than Jesus dying for sins?
• Does being a Christian simply mean assenting to a list religious concepts?
• Practicing Christianity because it leads to human flourishing, not because it makes sense intellectually
• The difference between what Gen-Z is looking for in Christianity and what past generations looked for

References:

• "The Mission" documentary about Chau by National Geographic (https://films.nationalgeographic.com/the-mission)
• The God Delusion book by famous atheist Richard Dawkins (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_God_Delusion)
• "This Cultural Moment" podcast (https://open.spotify.com/show/5vc4AILCeO1HDAQV8jE8J4)
• Surprised by Hope book by theologian N.T. Wright (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2319645.Surprised_by_Hope)

Contact Pat:

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Email: PATRICKTLEE7@GMAIL.COM

Angela consistently found herself in positions of leadership throughout her life. From leading ministries at church, to becoming head pastor while working as the Executive Director for a non-profit. But when birthdays and holidays rolled around each year, she looked around and realized that that no one truly knew the real Angela.

Angela talks with us about how leadership can be isolating by nature and the importance of developing authentic friendships with people who recognize your value apart from your work.

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About Angela Lee:

Angela Lee is a native East Coast kid but is happy to now call California home. Angela resides in Pasadena with her husband Paul, her 13-year-old bonus daughter Lizzie, 4-year-old, Justise (pronounced “justice”), and 3 year old, Ayla (like Kayla). Angela graduated from the University of Delaware with her degree in Human Services with a concentration in Clinical Services. She went on and applied her passion for youth by working with as a Counselor with Communities in Schools, Education Director for the Boys & Girls Club, and a Program Director for YMCA of Metropolitan Dallas.

Angela has served in ministry, bi-vocationally at first, and eventually full time for the last 13 years. In 2015, she moved to California to serve as a Junior High Pastor at Saddleback Church and in 2017 moved on to a Pastoral Position at Fellowship Monrovia where she has served and preached the last 6 years.

In January 2022, Angela responded to the call to neighborhood ministry which led her to now also serving as Executive Director at Harambee Ministries in Northwest Pasadena.

Angela’s family is bold and diverse with her father who is African American and her mother who is Puerto Rican. She is the oldest of four children and credits her parents for fostering her love for others and her strong commitment to service. Since being charged, by God, with raising Justise and Ayla, Angela has been inspired to continue her journey into racial justice and reconciliation and what it means to raise Black/Puerto Rican/Korean girls in America amidst the current cultural climate. She is a wife, mom, sister, pastor, preacher, friend, surviving on coffee and Peloton rides. She’s the most excited to add her newest title, “Auntie & Godmother” to her newest nephew in Minnesota.

Angela is passionate about Jesus, people, mental health, justice, reconciliation, Disneyland, and yummy food.

Transcript for this episode: https://share.descript.com/view/cOP4yabQrZd

What does the typical human lifestyle and experience look like on Earth? When Caleb visited India for the first time, he had a feeling he wasn't in Kansas anymore. The radical differences in culture, food, personal space, views of marriage, road etiquette, and language caused him to think about whether the American experience was common or not.

We discuss how over 50% of human beings live in either China, India, or the continent of Africa, and the implications that has on expectations, lifestyle, and happiness. Although ethnocentrism is often presented negatively, it is actually neutral in definition and being aware of it can help us more accurately understand other cultures. In addition, with an awareness of ethnocentrism, we talk about what makes Christianity a truly universal religion and the danger of conflating political agendas with Christian values.

Notes & Links from Caleb:

• Men holding hands in India is not romantic or sexual. But it would be perceived that way in America.
  • https://scroll.in/article/889972/a-british-photographer-captures-the-very-indian-phenomenon-of-men-non-romantically-holding-hands
• Horn honking in India - rampant - way of letting people know you are there.
  • https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-do-indians-honk-so-much-ca-nitin-brahma
• Matrimonial Advertisements in Indian newspapers -- Marriage is viewed as more social contract / transactional
  • https://www.tribuneindia.com/classified/grommswanted
• Life Expectancy: https://ourworldindata.org/life-expectancy 1800-1900 (19th Century): Average global life expectancy was 29 years old. 1950: Average global life expectancy was 46 years old. USA average was 68 years old. 2015: Average global life expectancy was 71 years old. USA average was 79 years old.
• Womens vs. mens train cars in Delhi https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women-only_passenger_car#:~:text=Across%20India%2C%20all%20long%2Ddistance,are%20also%20allowed%20to%20travel. https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/04/04/472997605/why-i-love-riding-on-the-women-only-car-on-delhis-metro
• Americans Over 65 Years of Age: https://www.un.org/en/global-issues/population 1900: 2.2 Million 2009: 39.7 Million 2019: 54.1 Million 2040 (Projected): 80.8 Million 2060 (Projected): 90.7 Million
• Population Growth (Global): 0000: 212 Million 1600: 646 Million 1800: 1 Billion 1900: 1.34 Billion 1950: 2.82 Billion 2000: 6.00 Billion 2022: 8.00 Billion
  • 1.4 Billion - India 18%
  • 1.4 Billion - China 18%
  • 1.4 Billion - African Continent 18%
  • 740 Million - European Continent 9.5%
  • 330 Million - United States 4%
  2037: 9.00 Billion (projected by UN) Over half of the growth between 2022 and 2050 will be in Africa.
• Research Links: Percentage of Americans that View America as the best: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/08/29/majority-of-americans-say-us-is-one-of-the-greatest-countries-in-the-world/

Transcript to this episode with Caleb: https://share.descript.com/view/pKliP76e2Bz

Pat's Contact: patricktlee7@gmail.com

Now I think...I can start a podcast ;)

Thank you, thank you, thank you for listening! New episode this Tuesday morning, and many more to come!

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What is the difference between control and influence? Which trait does a good leader exhibit?

Steven wrestled with these questions after coming to terms with his own failures as a pastor, business leader, father, and husband. Growing up with a natural ability to teach and explain, Steven realized that he had the skills to influence others. Yet the line between control and influence was difficult to walk. In this episode, we talk about the concept of "honoring others' agency" and how curiosity (rather than control) is one of the most powerful ways to help those around us in their journey to reach their full potential.

Topics:

• Reframing
• Selling
• Hagar and Ishmael
• Being a good father
• Listening to respond vs. Listening to learn

References:

• Clarity Focus Heart Coaching & Consulting: http://clarityfocusheart.com/my-story/ (Steven's leadership coaching non-profit)
• Refocused Relationships: https://refocusedrelationships.com/ (Steven's ministry for LGBTQ+ members and their parents)
• "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" by Douglas Adams
• "Sell Me This Pen" video with Jordan Belfort, the original Wolf of Wall Street: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbQPxhIcFaQ
• "The moral roots of liberal and conservatives" TED Talk with Jonathan Haidt: https://www.ted.com/talks/jonathan_haidt_the_moral_roots_of_liberals_and_conservatives?language=en

Transcript for Episode 13 with Steven: https://share.descript.com/view/zYHp2AdpQaj

Pat's Contact Info: patricktlee7@gmail.com