Why does romance always get the spotlight—and everyone else becomes the understudy?

In this spicy episode, I sit down with the brilliant Adam Fitzgerald to take a sledgehammer to relationship hierarchy—that cultural obsession with putting your romantic partner above all else. We unpack how this model often leads to co-dependency, unrealistic expectations, and emotional burnout.

But here’s the truth: healthy relationships don’t happen in isolation. They need community—the friendships, chosen family, and support systems that queer folks have long known are essential to thriving love and intimacy.

Adam brings a powerful lens to how queer relationships challenge the default and lean into non-hierarchical structures that center freedom, autonomy, and deep connection across many forms.

This one’s for anyone ready to build love that’s grounded, expansive, and rooted in more than just one person.

Because love without the ladder?That’s where the good stuff lives.

Chapters

00:00Happy Pride Month and Intro

02:53Understanding Relationship Hierarchy

07:10Exploring Codependency

10:20The Impact of Codependency on Relationships

12:16Correlation Between Relationship Hierarchy and Codependency

12:46Navigating Loneliness in Relationships

14:12The Importance of Maintaining Individuality

15:29Compassion and Self-Discovery

17:27Understanding Codependency

18:08Queerness and Relationship Structures

21:00Breaking Down Relationship Hierarchies

23:17Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships

27:41The Role of Community in Healthy Relationships

30:52Understanding Healing and Triggers

32:34Navigating Codependency and Interdependence

35:05Building Community Beyond Relationships

39:29Self-Reflection in Relationship Dynamics

40:16Exploring Alternative Relationship Structures

46:45Embracing Queer Joy

47:41Navigating New Queerness

48:20Defining Queer Identity

50:02Coming to Completion AKA Just So We're Queer

52:00Come Again, Come Again, Come Again

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