🎙 Welcome + Fun Facts
Josh and Ali open with their love story—dating after 5 days, engaged in 7 weeks, and still thriving 16 years (and 4 kids) later. Why this episode is one of their spiciest yet.

[01:16 – 04:20]
👰 “Always Fit in Your Wedding Dress” – What Ali’s Mom Taught Her
Ali shares the wisdom her mother—a marriage and family therapist—gave her during her wedding dress fitting, and how it shaped her view on health and marriage.

[04:21 – 06:40]
💪 Health, Confidence & Bringing Your Best to the Marriage
Ali opens up about body image struggles, performance culture as a young athlete, and why feeling healthy directly impacts how she shows up in her marriage.

[06:41 – 09:30]
🤵 Josh’s Perspective on the “Dad Bod” & Loving Your Wife Well
Josh shares why men also need to bring their best—physically and emotionally—for their wives and families. Longevity, libido, and leading well.

[09:31 – 12:00]
🧬 Hormones, Libido & Gut Health
Ali discusses how hormone shifts can affect marriage (especially intimacy), and how she’s actively supporting her health through gut-focused tools and mindset.

[12:01 – 14:20]
💄 Why Glam Still Matters
The backstory on how Ali discovered the power of getting ready with intention every day—and how it brought new energy into their marriage and business.

[14:21 – 16:00]
🧥 Intentional Dressing & Everyday Respect
Why it’s not about vanity—it’s about presenting yourself with honor for your spouse and the Kingdom. Showing up well matters.

[16:01 – 17:30]
🔥 Hot Take: Plan Your Own Anniversary If You Must
Ali challenges wives: stop waiting on your husband to plan everything. Book the hotel. Make the dinner reservation. Don’t let bitterness steal celebration.

[17:31 – 19:00]
🎉 Marriage Rhythms That Keep the Spark Alive
Their anniversary & birthday reset rhythm, the 24-hour getaway rule, and how it’s blessed their marriage through every season.

[19:01 – 21:00]
💬 Final Encouragement: Start Today
Josh and Ali wrap up with a bold call to action for husbands and wives to take ownership of their health, habits, and intimacy. It’s never too late to turn things around.

0:00 – Welcome Back & A Quick Recap
Josh and Ali dive right in with the backstory behind their whirlwind love story—five days dating, seven weeks to marriage, sixteen years and four kids later.

1:35 – Why Making Time to Connect Matters
The heart of this episode: why weekly connection (even in short bursts) can radically shift the tone of your marriage.

3:10 – Shared Activities, Even If It’s Not Your Thing
Josh talks about finally saying yes to Ali’s workouts—and the surprising joy of trying something new (even when you don’t love it).

5:45 – Morning Gym Dates & Small Changes That Matter
They share how even 15 minutes together in the morning has created intimacy and consistency during a busy season.

7:08 – Boundaries, Kids, and Mandatory Date Nights
No phones, no kids, no finances. Just undistracted time with each other. The simple rule that saved their connection.

9:45 – Real Talk: Where This All Started
Ali shares the bold moment a friend called her out and told her she’d be divorced if not for Joshua—and how public date nights started that very week.

11:20 – Don’t Wait for a Crisis to Create a Rhythm
How they’ve built sustainable rhythms that bless their marriage (and their parenting)—and why boundaries are the blessing.

13:50 – Set the Standard for Your Kids
Your kids are watching. Ali and Josh share how their littlest, Jake, responds to their date nights—and how it models love, consistency, and joy.

15:15 – Call to Action: Start Now
Pick a day. Set it. Stick to it. Even six weeks of consistency will transform the way you love, listen, and show up for each other.

17:00 – Final Encouragement & Outro
Why this one simple strategy can change everything—and how to invite God into your rhythms and relationship.

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00:00 – Welcome Back!
Ali & Joshua dive into the real-life tension of marriage communication—especially when one spouse is ready to sleep, and the other is ready to talk 🫠

01:20 – When Is the Right Time to Talk?
Why timing matters when discussing big topics like finances, parenting, and expectations—and the communication mistake they stopped making.

03:00 – Date Nights Are Not Strategy Meetings
Why your marriage needs protected time for connection—not confrontation.

04:15 – How Miscommunication Builds Resentment
Ali & Joshua get honest about how lack of clarity and emotional overload creates unnecessary conflict in marriage.

06:05 – The Bottler vs. The Talker
Joshua shares how he used to internalize everything—while Ali was rapid-fire ready. Why understanding each other’s processing styles is key.

08:40 – Knowing Each Other’s Strengths & Weaknesses
Ali explains how their opposite personalities—her fast pace, his slow-and-steady discernment—have become a strength (once they learned how to honor each other’s rhythms).

10:30 – Divine Order in Decision-Making
Why submitting major decisions to God—and each other—creates peace in the home. Ali shares what changed when she stopped pushing ahead without Joshua’s covering.

13:00 – The Shift That Saved Their Communication (and Finances)
Ali opens up about losing her first business and how giving Joshua financial leadership helped bring restoration, clarity, and unity.

15:30 – Servanthood vs. Selfishness
A biblical lens on communication: laying down your life, not proving your point.

17:20 – Walk it Out (Literally)
Joshua shares his go-to strategy for emotional regulation before tough conversations: walking, praying, and reframing.

18:40 – Out-Serve Each Other
The simple marriage principle from their premarital counseling that still shapes their communication today.

20:15 – Letting Go of Stubbornness
Ali shares how surrender, patience, and Spirit-led restraint softened her strong personality and strengthened their unity.

22:00 – Let’s Talk About Sex (Yes, Really)
Why open communication around sexual needs matters—and how couples can avoid disconnect, temptation, and unmet expectations.

24:00 – Don’t Go to Bed Angry
The rule they live by, rooted in Scripture: resolve conflict before sleep and never let little wedges build into big gaps.

25:30 – Final Word: Soft Answers & Celebrating Growth
A closing encouragement to give grace, celebrate progress, and commit to growing in communication—together.