In this follow-up episode, we sit down with Matt — the husband of our Canadian prison wife from last month — to pull back the curtain on what incarceration actually looks like in Canada. Matt explains how Canada eliminated solitary confinement and why that unexpected change has made prisons safer for both staff and incarcerated people. He walks us through the process for conjugal visits, the surprising “creature comforts” men receive inside, and how wages, communication, and day-to-day life compare to what we see in the U.S. From $6-an-hour work programs to unlimited, affordable phone calls, Matt gives us an honest, eye-opening look at a system that operates very differently from the one most of our listeners know.

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QTM is back — and she’s holding nothing back.
In February, we introduced you to QTM, a woman preparing to finally be with her man after his long prison stint. She walked us through their first Valentine’s Day together, their first intimate moments, and the excitement of building a life with someone who’d been gone for so long.

Now, months later, she returns with an update that’s brutally honest, emotional, and so real.

This episode dives into the actual work that comes after the homecoming: navigating new expectations, rebuilding trust, and dealing with the very human mistakes that happen when someone has been institutionalized for years. QTM opens up about indiscretions, frustrations, loneliness, and the pressure of constantly trying to keep the peace.

But she doesn’t stop there.

By the end of the episode, QTM makes a promise — not just to us, but to herself:
the next few months are about finding her identity again, creating boundaries, and learning how to love without losing herself.

If you’ve ever loved someone coming home from prison, you’ll feel this one in your chest. QTM shares her truth so others don’t feel alone walking this complicated journey.

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When we first met Sheena, we didn’t know where her story would go. What began as a typical tale of young love and bad decisions evolved into something deeply powerful. She met Joe when she was young and naive—he was the gang-affiliated bad boy, and she was drawn in. Their relationship became a cycle of chaos, addiction, and pain. When Joe disappeared, Sheena tried to move on, becoming a mother and surviving life in a trap house she barely understood.

Years later, their paths crossed again and again—each time filled with love, heartbreak, and the weight of their past. Eventually, Joe went to prison, and Sheena made the choice to walk away for good, focusing on herself for the first time. She rebuilt her life—became a business owner, a homeowner, a thriving mom. But while she was growing, so was Joe. Behind bars, he sought mentorship from elders, enrolled in business school, and began transforming himself.

From afar, Sheena watched the man she once loved evolve—and slowly, they found their way back to each other. Today, their relationship is healthy, safe, and full of mutual respect. This is the kind of story every person caught in a toxic relationship needs to hear: that choosing yourself doesn’t mean losing love—it just means making room for the right version of it.

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