If you were raised by a covert narcissistic mother, your memory was not the problem. The label was. Daughters often reach for the word “covert” because the other word feels too big. Narcissist feels like an accusation. Covert feels softer. But calling it covert often waters down your own reality. It shifts the focus away from what happened and toward whether you misread the signs. It turns the daughter into the unreliable narrator of her own life.

This episode is here to help you stop softening the story so the story can finally make sense.

Today we talk about why daughters of covert narcissists struggle with remembering what happened, why they doubt their own perception, and why so much of the abuse feels blurry even when the impact is crystal clear. We look at how loyalty, silence, emotional attunement, and caretaking turn into survival patterns that protect the child and confuse the adult.

Then we help you reframe what “covert” really means. Because most of what gets labeled covert was actually happening in plain sight. Your body noticed. Your emotions noticed. The tension noticed. The exhaustion noticed. The numbness noticed. The only thing that did not notice was the part of you that had to stay loyal.

This is a conversation for daughters who have spent years wondering why they cannot remember the details but cannot escape the feelings. You are not unreliable. You are not dramatic. You were adapting.

If you grew up with a covert narcissistic mother, this is the episode I wish I had done ages ago.And you don’t have to heal alone. Find us: MayhemDaughters.com

This episode is for daughters who feel overwhelmed by New Year’s pressure…the daughters who grew up with narcissistic, emotionally limited, unpredictable, or inconsistent mothers and now find themselves feeling “behind,” dysregulated, or unsure of how to begin a new year. If traditional New Year’s messages like fresh start, new year, new you, or reinvent yourself feel activating or shaming, this conversation will make sense of why.

In this episode, we’ll talk about why New Year’s Eve hits differently for daughters of narcissistic mothers and mothers with personality disorders or emotional immaturity. We talk about the impact of growing up with chronic vigilance, criticism, dismissal, and role-reversal and how those early patterns shape a daughter’s nervous system, sense of self, and relationship to change.

Instead of chasing a reinvention, this episode introduces a new way forward for 2026: becoming your own best friend.

I’ll talk about what it means to build a compassionate, trusting relationship with yourself…one where you stop abandoning yourself, overriding your body, performing for approval, or outsourcing your intuition. You’ll hear a clear, trauma-informed explanation of why self-loyalty is the foundation for healing the mother wound, repairing your nervous system, setting boundaries, and breaking generational patterns.

We talk about:

Why healing isn’t about reinvention. it’s about self-trust, presence, and nervous system safetyHow tiny, compassionate shifts create real, sustainable healingThe movement we are building together inside Mayhem Daughters: a year of becoming your own best friend

If you’re ready for a New Year that isn’t built on shame, resolutions, or self-criticism, but on trauma-informed growth, nervous system regulation, and becoming someone you stay with, START HERE and then find us over at MayhemDaughters.com to join our groups or online community

This episode is for daughters who find themselves in a tender moment… the ones who feel like they’ve done so much healing and still hurt, the ones who set boundaries and are now sitting with the loneliness, the ones who expected to feel “further along” by now, and the ones who secretly wonder if they’re ever going to feel better.

Today, we talk honestly about what healing actually looks like for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. Spoiler: it’s not linear, it’s not glamorous, and it doesn’t come from insight alone. Healing happens through the body, through the nervous system, through the small, steady acts of staying with yourself instead of abandoning yourself.

I share the truths I’ve seen in you this year: your courage, your honesty, your protectiveness, your tenderness, and how these qualities point to a future that already belongs to you, even if you can’t fully feel it yet.

We also look ahead to the work we’ll be doing together this coming year, anchored in one central theme: becoming a better friend to yourself. Not a new you. Not a fixed you. A kinder, safer, more loyal relationship with the person you wake up as every day.

If you need grounding, reassurance, truth, or company on the path, we’ve got you.And if you want more Mayhem in your life through group or our online community, find us at MayhemDaughters.com

In this final episode of the series, we are naming the parts daughters rarely have space to talk about. What happens when your mother gets older, declines, or dies, and the family system around you is still operating from denial, triangulation, or long-standing roles you never consented to?

If you are entering this season, already in it, or thinking ahead, this episode is meant to steady you. You deserve clarity, compassion, and permission to make decisions that protect your well being. You are not responsible for repairing a relationship that harmed you. You are responsible for caring for the woman you are becoming now.And you don’t have to do it alone. Learn more at MayhemDaughters.com

This is a conversation I didn't expect to be having.

We’re in the middle of a series on navigating aging narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers, and I wasn’t planning to step away from that.

But after Oprah’s recent episode on estrangement and no contact, I watched too many daughters get shaken in places they’ve worked so hard to steady. Between the social media clips, the framing of the conversation, and several deeply unhelpful moments in the episode itself, I could feel the collective wobble of this community.

This conversation wouldn’t leave me alone. And when daughters are questioning themselves because a public voice got the story wrong, I’m not going to stay quiet.

Today’s episode is a grounded, trauma-informed unpacking of:

Why Oprah’s conversation landed like a gut punch for so many daughters

The specific moments that caused harm (and why they mattered)

How trauma brain recognized misattunement before your mind did

Why skepticism toward estrangement hits daughters differently than it hits anyone else

What the episode missed about the reality of no contact

Why your decision is still valid, still grounded, and still yours

This is not an episode about blame.

It’s an episode about clarity and returning you to your truth.

If you felt confused, guilty, defensive, ashamed, or suddenly unsure after watching Oprah’s episode, you are not alone and you are not imagining anything.

Your body recognized a familiar dismissal long before you found the language for it.

This conversation is here to help you name what happened, settle your system, and reconnect to the truth you’ve built.

We’ll return to the aging-mother series next week, but today is for you.

And if you need to keep talking about it, join us in conversation over at MayhemDaughters.com to join group or our online community.

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest realities daughters face when their mothers age. Your mom may be getting older, more fragile, or more dependent, but the patterns you grew up with haven’t changed. So how are you supposed to make decisions about caregiving, contact, or end of life when the relationship has always been complicated and often painful?

Today I’m answering the questions daughters ask the most in this season. Questions about guilt, boundaries, responsibility, and what “enough” looks like when you’re caring for someone who never truly cared for you.

We explore how to make decisions with clarity instead of fear, how to set limits that protect your well being, and how to support without losing yourself. We also talk about the emotional whiplash that comes with this role. Grief, anger, obligation, exhaustion, and tenderness can all show up at the same time.

If your mother is aging and you are the one being asked to manage, respond, coordinate, or carry the emotional weight, this episode is meant to steady you. You are allowed to make decisions based on your capacity, not your conditioning. You are allowed to protect your peace. And you are allowed to define enough in a way that keeps you whole.

If you’re a daughter navigating this, you don’t have to do it alone. Join us inside the Mayhem Daughters community, where we talk openly about trauma brain, boundaries, nervous system healing, and how to rebuild a life that actually feels like yours. Members who join now keep their rate when prices go up in 2026.

This week, we're starting a short series on one of the hardest chapters daughters face: what happens when the mother who never cared for you starts needing care herself.

This isn’t just about your aging narcissistic moms. It’s about identity, boundaries, guilt, and the stories you tell yourselves about what it means to be a good daughter. Even if your mother isn’t aging yet, or if you’ve already walked through this, you’ll hear yourself somewhere in these conversations. They’re really about what happens when love and obligation collide.

You don't have to manage this alone. Connect with other daughters who are in it with you. Learn more at MayhemDaughters.com

This season is a lot for daughters... the pressure, the memories, the emotional muscle memory that shows up whether you celebrate the holidays or not.

I’ve been hearing from so many of you about what this time of year is stirring up, and I don’t want you carrying it alone.

I’m hosting a free Mayhem Holiday Gathering on Thursday, December 11th at 11am PST / 2pm EST. It’s a community circle where we’ll talk honestly about what this season brings up for daughters and move through it together. Expect reflection and gentle nervous system support, and a space where you’re seen without having to explain yourself.

This is a cameras-on gathering

Come cozy, messy, tired, hopeful....all of you is welcome.

Join us:
mayhemdaughters.com/holiday

If you’re already part of Mayhem Daughters, the link is in our Events section. If you’re on my email list, I’ll send it there as well.

This is a free gathering, and I’d be honored to have you in the room.